What’s the point of life?

The point of life is that usually it’s better than the alternative - but the line can be very fine.

As we age the big girl pants tend to work overtime.

I am sorry there are those who are feeling low.

I do not think that there is any value in asking oneself what is the point of life - it simply is what it is, and we find joy where we may.

What did he say, exactly?

Some words cannot be forgotten and damage is done

If he has apologised for what he has said then they are being quite mean really I'm glad you had a BBQ and nice time with friends

Pomegranateseed

Violet Sky if you'd try to reign in your misplaced anger and poor advice for a second and take the time to re read Hildegard'a post at 19.44, you'd see that she LEFT HER CHILDREN'S FATHER DUE TO HIS ADULTERY AND ABUSE. The man she is married to now is NOT abusive or cheating and isn't the reason her children dislike him.

I misread

Are you ok?

No. Not cross dressing either.

Is this about his cross dressing?
Your background indicates you have had issues with your daughter for years - hope it improved since then

Violet Sky if you'd try to reign in your misplaced anger and poor advice for a second and take the time to re read Hildegard'a post at 19.44, you'd see that she LEFT HER CHILDREN'S FATHER DUE TO HIS ADULTERY AND ABUSE. The man she is married to now is NOT abusive or cheating and isn't the reason her children dislike him.

welbeck

Oh you are right

I'm sorry I got things wrong

But I can see why your family would be extra protective of you OP and I think you need to address this and make sure an apology is given

VS, i read it as the first husband having cheated, not this one.
this one said something wrong which upset ACs.

presumably he has tried expressing sincere contrition to them ?

These people, they really hurt you, they bring you as low as you can possibly go and then they flick the switch and you think you have the most wonderful loving man on the planet and that's the real him.

It isn't.

The abuse is the real him

Your family know this

Hildegard and Made in Yorkshire. I am sorry you are both going through such hard times. Made in Yorkshire, I read your previous post, it's so heartbreaking, I can only try to imagine your pain. (I am in Yorkshire too if you want to pm). Sending love to you both. Life can be very cruel.

I'm sorry but tough love

Why are you standing by an abusive cheating husband who has hurt your family and still defending him?

That's not ok, just because you have chosen to put up with it your family does not have to an they are right to want you out of there

Please go to the doctor's and get help to make a better life for yourself and your family

Wellbeck they have no concerns for my safety. Something has happened he said something that he will regret for the rest of his life. I want to scream at them and ask them if they have never done anything they regret.

why don't your children like your husband.
is it something to do with inheritance.
or do they have a legitimate concern, for you ?

MadeinYorkshire sending hugs. 💐

Thanks again for all your kind messages and advice. My husband is not my children’s Dad, I left him because of adulterery and abuse. I am normally bright and see the good in everyday but this morning I had a big black cloud. But, the sun came out, we made some Pimms and had a BBQ with some friends feeling a lot better now. All things will pass.

Made in Yorkshire
I read your previous thread and send a gentle hug as you travel the hardest journey for any mum,

MadeInYorkshire

I haven't really got a situation to resolve, and I see no point in life either .... wish I could just give in.

So sorry you feel like this.
Sending you a warm hug.

Life is meaningless and can be pretty hostile if we let things overburden us. I hope you can find a positive solution so that you can overcome the problem for you, never mind the rest of them.

No 'advice' but didn't want to read and run - do hope you find a good way forward and, yes. big girl pants and a smile can help. Will be thinking of you.

I think I know how you feel, Hildegard.

After my sister's death, her children have completely dropped DH and me.

They have never told us why, but I have always felt they dislike DH and think I should leave him.

However, I am happy with him, and have no intention of leaving him, so if you and your husband are happy, which I hope you are, although you didn't say, then disregard the rest of the family, or contact them and tell them you would like to mend bridges and let bygones be bygones, but that you intend to stay with your husband, and see what they say.

I haven't really got a situation to resolve, and I see no point in life either .... wish I could just give in.

A wise last sentence LRavenscroft

I'm sorry you are feeling so low. If you need to talk about why they want you to leave your husband or why they are excluding you, you know people on Gransnet will listen