I had my son's first name earmarked for a girl, which ends in dra instead of der, and invariably the same diminutive is used for male and female. No 2 choice, still hoping for a girl, Catherine, it was my maternal grandmother's name, one of my mother's names and one of my names. I did also want Domenico for a boy, which was my paternal grandfather's name, maybe as a middle name, but once you do one side of the family, I think you're kind of obliged to do the honours for the other side, but decided against it on that basis, but I regret not going with Domenic now which my husband was very agreeable to, in fact he mooted it. I also had Sebastian lined up for number 2, which my husband flatly refused to consider, said it sounded foppish, remembering Sebastian Flyte from Brideshead Revisited, not foppish in Europe though was my response!, anyway slipped it in as a middle name, not that number 2 is at all grateful for my inspired choice
I don't think he hates it though.