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Have just given our car to grandson. Empty drive syndrome.

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NotSpaghetti Tue 23-May-23 13:12:42

Caramme and others.
Hat's off to you who have given up when you knew the time was right.
I hope I am as brave as you and as honest with myself.

Thank you for raising this here. Too many people are on the roads when just not 'switched on" or confident enough. I am trying to be brutally honest with myself after having seen others struggle to relinquish the car keys.

crazyH Tue 23-May-23 13:10:52

I dread the day I have to give up my car. Yes, it is expensive to keep a car on the road, but the freedom it gives me is incalculable

SueDonim Tue 23-May-23 12:48:59

Oh yes, we’re not about to give up our cars. I wouldn’t be able to do childcare for my dd if I didn’t drive, for one thing. My parents’ world closed down when they could no longer afford a car, that’s for sure.

Caramme Tue 23-May-23 12:48:37

I can’t believe I am reading this today of all days! This is the day I am selling my car and giving up driving. I too am on a good bus route, use online shopping and have family for backup in an emergency. To be honest I just don’t enjoy driving any more and think I lost confidence during Covid. I have been ‘taking the car for a drive’ every so often just to keep it moving, rather than because I need to use it. So goodbye my trusty 6yr old Leon. My emotional brain is hesitant, my logical brain is saying ‘don’t be ridiculous.’ It is a big step but probably the sensible one.
OP, I hope you find you have made the right decision. Your g’son must be delighted. Such a nice thing to do for him.

rosie1959 Tue 23-May-23 12:43:49

Would be really hard where we live public transport is abysmal.
Not yet a consideration as we are both mid 60s.

Franbern Tue 23-May-23 12:39:22

Gave up my car nearly two years ago. Never ever thought I would be able to live without my own car. Used even refer to myself as a Tortoise (Safe inside my shell - ie the car).
I do have a bus stop right outside my flats, and use a scooter to get around town to my meetings, social activities, etc. For travelling distances to visit family, I use the train.

Not to say I do not have the odd times when I miss not having a car to jump into - but on the whole I do not miss it at all, and not only does not having one save me a lot of money it also takes away a lot of stress.

My parents managed to live their whole 80 plus years without ever having or learning to drive a car.

Witzend Tue 23-May-23 12:36:12

Except for the odd 60 mile drive to a dd*, I don’t use mine much any more at all. Dh uses it far more - we use his (bigger) largely for long journeys.
We have fantastic public transport here so unless I’m going to have a lot of heavy shopping (rare now) I use buses/trains/ tube.
*I could do that by public transport too, and have done - it just takes rather longer - bus, tube, and the Oxford Tube (coach that goes every 15 minutes and stops a few minutes’ walk from dd’s door, God bless it!)

SueDonim Tue 23-May-23 12:34:23

I’m sure that does feel odd if you’re used to having a car. You sound to have planned it all very well, though. Lucky grandson - I hope he’ll be taking places in it! grin

sodapop Tue 23-May-23 12:32:00

It's a bit of a worry for us at 77, we live in a rural area with no public transport and need to drive for anything we need. No supermarket deliveries here.

travelsafar Tue 23-May-23 12:26:03

I dread the day I have to stop driving. Without my car all my independence would go. Visiting family and friends, my social groups, exercise classes how would I get to them. Having a problem with one of my knees at the moment and can't walk much,plus my back stops me standing for too long. I would be stranded with out car.

Lovetopaint037 Tue 23-May-23 11:10:31

Just that. We have good transport here and since Covid have been ordering online. My dh is 84 and he said that although he can drive okay he is aware that his reactions in less familiar situations is less than it used to be. He said he would sooner finish driving before not when he might cause an accident. I have lost my confidence as I have gradually left driving to dh as I no longer use it for it shops. We use our freedom passes on buses and trains so have not been driving that much. If we had been using the car regularly I know we would have continued to use it. There is a cab company not far away that locals use and the family are promising to help us in awkward situations. Our car had under 6,000 miles on the clock although 8 years old. So we had it serviced, MOT’d and gave it to gs Who is delighted. It is. Ford Fiesta zetec engine so tax is zero. I do feel a little vulnerable and odd but pleased for gs. Wondering how others feel when giving a car up.