Soop's kitchen for kindly folk.

🤞 for your survey Yiayia. I do hope this is the one.
Another busy day which started in the garden. This afternoon we had 17mm rain in an hour, measured in DH’s new rain gauge. It’s only the second shower in weeks so much needed. I have ironed instead of gardening. Still lots to do.
We are trying hard to diet - I am 11 lbs down an DH is 1 stone but there is still a very long way to go. Doing a low carb regime is most difficult at breakfast, we find. You can only eat bacon and eggs so many times 🤣.
Sleep tight everyone!

I've sneaked into the kitchen early. I need to sit quietly and sort my head out. I know you all know that when I met my DOH my daughters didn't approve despite previously saying they hoped I would meet someone new and be happy. My ex was the one with the money that he promised to them. My sister also disapproved...she never married or had children but I was happy that she was part of the girls lives when they were little and into adulthood. She was generous to them buying cars etc and to my ex who when he was drinking lost thousands of pounds and she gave him substantial amounts.
Once it became clear that I was going to be with DOH going forward she too stopped all communication. On Wednesday my friend that has been staying said she had received a call from daughter number 2 who told her my sister had died on Monday. Apparently she didn't ask my friend to tell me but I presume she knew she would...when my friend asked about the funeral arrangements she was told that she didn't need to know that information.
It's the cruelty I'm struggling with... initially I was so cross that they (daughters) had put my friend in the awful situation of having to tell me. ..now it's wondering if they decided I shouldn't have been allowed to go the hospital to see her (they were all there when she died)....and that I'm not allowed to go to the funeral either. Everyone who knows my story fails to understand why they treat me like they do. I can't cry..I did briefly at Mass yesterday and I think it's because I'm utterly stunned that my offspring have such coldness within them...I thought separating me from my DGC was cruel enough but they seem to have reached new heights. The kind generous and loving girls of just 4 years ago are unrecognisable now. (I suppose that half their DNA is there Father's and to be honest his family were vindictive at times..or maybe that's just me trying to find a reason). I feel numb....

Sending you a virtual hug Naughtyneine and my condolences.

I do hope that one day you can be reunited with your DDs 💐

Neine sending you ((hugs)) hope you find something to smile about today . Thank you to all you kind ladies who sent good wishes 're my back, I have been to supermarket with oh wearing support belt struggled in and out of car but it was worth it just to have a change of scenery. Nannytopsy I find a low carb diet very hard I love bread !! Hope everyone having a a good day has possible.

That is appalling Neine, I hope one day your daughters will realise how cruelly they have treated you.

I am glad you have found someone to love and who loves you in return. Stay strong ❤️

I know it is a cliche and a lot don’t believe it but I am a believer in what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
I have had some very tough times in my 86 years , fortunately estrangement hasn’t been one of them.
You have a loving partner and I hope good friends.
Cherish them all and let your strong faith carry you through.
One day your D’s may be mature enough to realise the truth of the situation.
Kindest thought go to you.

Oh Neine how sad for you. I do hope your daughters come round in the end, life is too short to bear grudges.
I'm pleased you have a loving partner to share life with. Much love xxx

Oh neine so sorry to hear about your sister, sending condolences 💐 I hope the relationship with your DDs can be mended and in the meantime your OH is there with much love and support for you . Take care, sending hugs x

Good evening lovely Kitcheners. It’s been rather drizzly today and now feeling hot and humid. I’ve not done very much, listening to a podcast about baroque music. MrB did a little gardening, then gave up and jointed me indoors. Lentil Dahl with flat bread later, neither of us feel particularly hungry so it will probably be much later.
Sending hugs to all who need or want one. This is such a warm and comforting space ❤️

I do hope Mr B didn’t joint you Blossoming! Sounds painful.
OH and I went to one of our favourite restaurants for lunch. I am collapsed on a heap on the sofa now. I managed to track down another wooden bench for the hall and it will be delivered in about 3 weeks. My e-visa for Australia came through overnight, which is a relief. As with so many other things it is a more complicated procedure now - although still free. I still haven’t typed up the notes from a recent WI meeting - maybe on Monday. I hope Soop is back in the kitchen today. It will be good to hear from her.

Oh neine how awful for you. Condolences on the death of your sister, mourn her as you would under different circumstances, pray for her as you would and allow yourself to grieve for this whole 'situation' you find yourself in. Be happy with your OH for the future. With love and prayers.

Neine I would ring around the funeral directors, get the details and go to the funeral with my head held high. But then I am a bit b….y minded.
My sympathies to you.

So that’s why my left arm is hurting LadyLFL

Hi kitchen pals, it’s just started raining here in Inverness, the garden definitely needs it. I’ve had a busy day, the dreaded circuits class at the gym this morning was hard going but worth it…. Then I got a second workout this afternoon after buying large bags of compost from the garden centre and having to heave them in and out of the car boot and carry them round to the garden shed .. DH is doing well after his knee replacement but not up to doing that just yet, although he did push the trolley round Tesco this morning whilst I was at the gym
That made me laugh Blossoming - jointed 😀
Hope soops internet problems are soon sorted and back with us soon

So sorry for my absence. It is my computer that is on the blink. We are hoping that a friend may be able to find me a reasonably priced replacement. Mr S's computer is in the loft. I cannot climb into the loft. He did do a swap a week or so ago, but he needs his for village community purposes...I must therefore try to remain patient. My computer cuts out without warning. If I could, I would dump it at the recycling yard.

I send my condolences to Naughtyneine and agree with the message from mrshat

Yia The Champagne cork will be popped just as soon as you receive the news that you have long awaited.

Baggs Thank you.

By the way...*Sweetie Pie* (feral cat) called in for a breakfast of three pouches and a bowl of special cat biscuits. After which, he/she left the premises.

So sorry for your loss Neine what a terrible situation for you.🌹
Good to have you back Soop yes can’t wait for that celebratory champagne.🤞Glad Sweetie Pie is still around.
It’s very warm and stormy here,not a day to be doing much at all.

I thought I’d post this photo of the garden where we had lunch yesterday. Actually we just had coffee outside as it was so hot!

Oh Neine. I wasn’t aware of the full story until now and I’m sorry that your dds have been so unkind. Of course you’d want to say a final farewell to your sister. I don’t know if funerals are ‘open’ like a weddings are but even if you simply stood at the back and left immediately it ended, it would be something.

Naughtie I'm very sorry to hear about the death of your sister and the coldness of your daughter. It must hurt you to the quick. I do hope you can be reconciled.

That would lovely!

I'm sorry, that post is in the wrong place.

NNeine I so sorry about your sister’s death and sorry that you have this to contend with as well.
In a similar situation when I was worried about a divorced member of the family causing problems at my sister’s funeral, the funeral directors told me that in England it was not possible to bar anyone from attending but they were glad to have been made aware that a problem could occur.
In the event, she did attend without causing trouble and we all gritted our teeth when hearing her untruthfully tell my sister’s care home staff what a support she’d been to her.

Then we all went to have a stiff drink afterwards.

So sad Neine as others have said, lean on your OH and mourn your losses.
Imogen completed her overnight camping and orienteering in the New Forest earlier, one tick and a little sunburnt, but happy that part of her Duke of Ed is done.
I’ve sheltered indoors today, ventured out to hang washing and will water later, a bit lazy really, but 27 and no breeze doesn’t suit me. I shall watch a little Glastonbury in a few minutes.
Good to see you back soop
Enjoy your evening all.

JaxJacky it’s been 37° here today. We came back from lunch and have been inside with the shutters down ever since. Doesn’t suit me either.