Living in the moment

nadateturbe

Very wise words. The last year of my mum's life I spent a lot of time keeping her house clean. How I wish I had spent more time just sitting with her.

It's a difficult balance - hard to 'relax' with your mother if there were things that needed doing. Maybe she appreciated the comfort of living in a clean house though.

Sending love and hugs to you both Urms

Urmstongran

Have just caught up with your news.

Hugs to you, and "himself", Urms.

I hope you take some comfort from the support of your family - and your 'family' on here.

Dickens

My son, who is now 52, told me a few weeks ago when I was moaning and groaning about the minutiae of every day life, "Mum, this is not a rehearsal, this is it, live the best life you can".
I've been thinking about that ever since.

He's absolutely right!

Sending a gentle, enveloping hug to you and your DH, Urms. 💐

Very wise words. The last year of my mum's life I spent a lot of time keeping her house clean. How I wish I had spent more time just sitting with her.

I am very sorry for you the grans who are suffering right now. We have had a rough year and it’s left its mark leaving me especially sensitive.
Foxygloves this post does give you food for thought yes we all have our bad times but there is always something that brings a smile. My smiles came today spending it with my lovely GC.

Love and best wishes to you and your DH, Urms

My son, who is now 52, told me a few weeks ago when I was moaning and groaning about the minutiae of every day life, "Mum, this is not a rehearsal, this is it, live the best life you can".
I've been thinking about that ever since.

Urms hugs
Best wishes to you both.

And to everyone else having a tough time.

Urmstongran

Those words certainly struck a chord with me this evening Foxygloves. Our life has changed out of all recognition now and we are heartbroken. x

Urm what Kitty said.

Urms and MrUrms, 💕🙏

And huge, gentle hugs to you too, Urms.

Those words certainly struck a chord with me this evening Foxygloves. Our life has changed out of all recognition now and we are heartbroken. x

Grammaretto

That's so sad Primrose but I'm sure he's remembered even if a cautionary tale.
DH died nearly 3 years ago and I miss him but at least we had a few years together when we hoped the chemo might keep him for us a bit longer, and it did.
We didn't call it a bucket list but we did several things we'd always meant to do.
No regrets.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Rafichagran, 💐.

DH and I are sitting on the sofa, watching telly, Granddog is curled up between us.

Thank you, Foxygloves, that reflection made me stop and appreciate the moment.

Sending you huge, gentle hugs raficha.

That is a lovely quote and so true. Due to family circumstances I am very tearful and unhappy, however I am trying to follow the quote and have just forced myself to eat.
I am hoping things get better.
I realise time goes so quickly.

That's so sad Primrose but I'm sure he's remembered even if a cautionary tale.
DH died nearly 3 years ago and I miss him but at least we had a few years together when we hoped the chemo might keep him for us a bit longer, and it did.
We didn't call it a bucket list but we did several things we'd always meant to do.
No regrets.

We know too many people who have gone too soon and not done half of what they wanted.

We knew a man who worked at the same place since he was 15 until he retired. He was a workaholic and thought the place would collapse without him. He was planning all the things he was going to do when he retired including travelling. He retired and was dead from a massive heart attack within the week and within a very short time nobody mentioned him. As we always say, nobody is indispensable but he thought he was.

Yes, thank you Foxygloves

We must make sure to keep in touch with family and friends and not keep thinking "I'll do that tomorrow".

My mother used to say "Tomorrow never comes because when it does, it's today".

We have been trying to do just this recently. Husband’s health has not been good the last few years so I MAKE him come out and have a walk/meal/drink/holiday. He is quite happy doing jobs at home but I tell him they will still be there when we get back.

It is hard, isn't it, to balance enjoying a busy life and stopping to cherish what we have.

Very thoughtful post, Foxy.

Chin up and KBO friend. 💐

Thankyou GSM