Second wedding present

We decided that, aged 65 and 67, we didn't need any presents so we offered our guests the chance to donate to their own favourite charity instead. A few bought presents but most were pleased by our decision.

For my second marriage we asked for donations to Save The Children. Although we still did receive some actual gifts I just loved choosing what to ‘buy’ from the list provided by the charity. Must admit I was disappointed we couldn’t buy a yak but I seem to recollect books, chickens and mosquito nets. I sent thank yous to all who donated and let them know what we chose.
I still have the Save the Children fridge magnet. Not the husband tho, didn’t keep him.

I have read some of the replies .. and I agree that a Voucher or Paid Reservation at a lovely hotel is a wonderful gift to a couple that is getting married for the 2nd time.

Most people getting married for the 2nd time, have so many types of cookware, silverware, serving plates and bowls etcetra.

A gift the 2 will remember is the nicest form of a gift especially for close friends or professional colleagues of long standing.

A pewter photo frame if they a actually print photos, donation to a charity on their name. Otherwise go with what the couple have requested.

Lots of good ideas , thank you ladies. Even though they’ve said no presents. I know several other guests who are getting gifts. Charities , I’m not sure what charity they support . She’s not really a pampering type.
They are foodies and like fine wines and They also love their garden . So I’m thinking of named roses or a case of wine .

Second marriages often say they don’t want anything (and may not expect). I would go on that premise.

But when writing out their wedding card, perhaps say that you will treat them to a nice dinner out somewhere after the honeymoon. That way you get to enjoy it too!
To a long and prosperous life!
USA Gundy

Some friends of mine married later in life and despite it being a first marriage for both, they asked for donations to some favourite charities as they had everything they needed. A charity donation is often the ideal gift to those who have everything.
I used to struggle to buy a gift for my mum after she moved into sheltered accommodation where she had little space and wanted for nothing. For her last Christmas I bought a charity gift supporting a charity dear to her heart. I told her that was what I was doing. In the end she was admitted to hospital around Christmas and never returned home. When sorting her stuff we had unopened Christmas presents to deal with without indication of who they were from so I was glad my gift wasn't wasted!

It is a valid point that this couple might genuinely not want presents at all.

However, instead of just giving them something, ring whichever of the pair you are closest to, and explain that you feel that such an important occasion should be markd in some way. You can then ask if there is some little thing they would like, a dvd, a book, or something one or both have always wanted, but never allowed themselves to buy or wish for.

I would never denote to charity in this sort of situation, unless I knew that the couple concerned regularly did denote to a particular charity. I would not be pleased if someone gave to a charity I would never support myself on my behalf.

If they still say they don't want anything - make a firm invitation to lunch or dinner at your house after they come home from their honeymoon, or you from your holiday.

The photobook idea may work for some.

Garden voucher or (my preference) a donation to charity that's close to them. You can say you intend to do this and ask which charity they'd prefer.

I would probably roll my eyes if someone bought me a spa/holiday voucher/garden furniture/more crystal/more roses etc.

Sorry - but it really depends on the person!
My mother would probably have been happy with any of these!

a tree for their garden..maybe fruit or silverbirch

Roses, silver picture frame, fruit tree.

How about a Stargazing Experience ? Quite romantic

When we married in 2021, DH and I (both previously widowed) said, "no presents but if you want to mark the occasion please donate to XYZ charities." A few did.

We make a donation to charity- that seems to have been appreciated.

You can Plant a Tree through the National Trust and give the certificate , personalised for the occasion .
I've done this before , give back to Nature ,
The certificate was lovely, maybe put in a frame for them .

Shops like Oxfam issue cards showing what your donation is being used for eg goat, funds for a school, etc so you have something tangible to put in with a wedding card

annsixty
That’s a fabulous idea & I do much the same for Weddings & 1st Anniversary gifts 🎁 I did one for friends for a 60th Birthday of all our nights out & weekends away . Another for my friends 25th Anniversary of a previous party in her garden with her family & parents . Also gave another of a voucher for a photo book & shoot . It’s endless x
I’d like to add that as the person in my family who has amassed thousands of photos both digital & physically I woul love this 👌 alas not one person has done so 🥲

When friends of ours married, both for the second time, they requested that as many guests as could invited them to dinner at their home.
It was a great success and ensured that they were invited out weekend after weekend.
We enjoyed it ourselves having their company.
Of course it can only work if the couple themselves request it.

Germanshepherdsmum

A voucher for a really nice weekend break (I’ve never been into the spa stuff but they might be, I wouldn’t include that unless you know) or a voucher for a good wine merchant?

... I thought it was just me!

If I was given a spa treatment as a gift, I'd be disappointed (though wouldn't show it). I'm not one of those women who like beauty pampering and feel very much the odd one out.

A gift-voucher for a garden centre or bookshop would tho' make me a very happy bunny!

A voucher for a good wine-merchant sounds very civilised.

Some people really don't want any more things.
I like the idea of giving to a charity in lieu. Enjoy the occasion!
Invite the couple for a meal at yours later to talk about it.

I like the idea of ‘named’ roses. However, if there’s no garden, I think a wine voucher, or a bottle/several bottles/crate of champagne would be acceptable.

One wedding we took informal photos of people chatting, dancing etc, making as sure as we could we had everyone. Afterwards we made them all into a photobook

Gift cards are always my preference, to give and to receive. Garden centre, or Crocus, John Lewis, or Amazon, in that order!

DH got his mother a Cumbria crystal sherry decanter and six glasses. When as usual she managed to find a fault he told her "A second for a second".