Second wedding present

I’m going to a wedding in August (older couple- both been married before). I’ve given them a voucher for a night in a lovely hotel with evening meal, breakfast and a spa treatment. A lot of guests are giving money but they don’t need it and I really don’t like the idea of putting cash in a card. It might be worth asking them if there’s something they would like or need.

Garden Centre vouchers are usually well received. Or how about a voucher from a reputable wine company - Laithwaites offer some excellent choice.

Tenko

Hi,
We’re going to a friends wedding later this month , it’s a second wedding for both of them , so they’ve said they don’t want anything. However several other friends who are guests are getting them something. Does anyone have any ideas ? I was thinking of an experience. Thanks

Our daughter, a widow with children, near 60, married recently. We gave the party, that qualifies as a nice experience, I think.

My single brother, married prior with no children, is marrying a widow with a grown child, we're just holding another party - experiences are lovely for people who have more than everything, want for nothing.

If people say they don’t want anything, I think that’s what they mean.

Perhaps ask if you can make a donation to a charity of their choice?

We went to a wedding that specified no presents, and we donated to our local Air Ambulance charity in lieu, which I mentioned in our thank you letter to the couple.

We recently went to a Ruby Wedding, no gifts was specified.
I will buy a rose to plant in their lovely garden when I see them next.

Calendargirl

If people say they don’t want anything, I think that’s what they mean.

Perhaps ask if you can make a donation to a charity of their choice?

We went to a wedding that specified no presents, and we donated to our local Air Ambulance charity in lieu, which I mentioned in our thank you letter to the couple.

Good point. They’ve never mentioned a charity that’s close to them . What they don’t want is money towards a honeymoon which is what many couples ask for .

Garden vouchers or wine is a good call.
I was thinking of a wedding rose for their garden which is lovely.

Sago

We recently went to a Ruby Wedding, no gifts was specified.
I will buy a rose to plant in their lovely garden when I see them next.

We spent our Golden alone in Gretna Green - our daughters insisted they must do something, we asked them to have roses planted. Lovely!

I would definitely make a donation to a charity.

A voucher for a really nice weekend break (I’ve never been into the spa stuff but they might be, I wouldn’t include that unless you know) or a voucher for a good wine merchant?

I got my cousin a seat pergola and roses with gold in their name. I nearly got them got a Jack and Jill seat with a golden parasol which I had seen at another golden wedding.

DH got his mother a Cumbria crystal sherry decanter and six glasses. When as usual she managed to find a fault he told her "A second for a second".

Gift cards are always my preference, to give and to receive. Garden centre, or Crocus, John Lewis, or Amazon, in that order!

One wedding we took informal photos of people chatting, dancing etc, making as sure as we could we had everyone. Afterwards we made them all into a photobook

I like the idea of ‘named’ roses. However, if there’s no garden, I think a wine voucher, or a bottle/several bottles/crate of champagne would be acceptable.

Some people really don't want any more things.
I like the idea of giving to a charity in lieu. Enjoy the occasion!
Invite the couple for a meal at yours later to talk about it.

Germanshepherdsmum

A voucher for a really nice weekend break (I’ve never been into the spa stuff but they might be, I wouldn’t include that unless you know) or a voucher for a good wine merchant?

... I thought it was just me!

If I was given a spa treatment as a gift, I'd be disappointed (though wouldn't show it). I'm not one of those women who like beauty pampering and feel very much the odd one out.

A gift-voucher for a garden centre or bookshop would tho' make me a very happy bunny!

A voucher for a good wine-merchant sounds very civilised.

When friends of ours married, both for the second time, they requested that as many guests as could invited them to dinner at their home.
It was a great success and ensured that they were invited out weekend after weekend.
We enjoyed it ourselves having their company.
Of course it can only work if the couple themselves request it.

annsixty
That’s a fabulous idea & I do much the same for Weddings & 1st Anniversary gifts 🎁 I did one for friends for a 60th Birthday of all our nights out & weekends away . Another for my friends 25th Anniversary of a previous party in her garden with her family & parents . Also gave another of a voucher for a photo book & shoot . It’s endless x
I’d like to add that as the person in my family who has amassed thousands of photos both digital & physically I woul love this 👌 alas not one person has done so 🥲

Shops like Oxfam issue cards showing what your donation is being used for eg goat, funds for a school, etc so you have something tangible to put in with a wedding card

You can Plant a Tree through the National Trust and give the certificate , personalised for the occasion .
I've done this before , give back to Nature ,
The certificate was lovely, maybe put in a frame for them .

We make a donation to charity- that seems to have been appreciated.

When we married in 2021, DH and I (both previously widowed) said, "no presents but if you want to mark the occasion please donate to XYZ charities." A few did.

How about a Stargazing Experience ? Quite romantic