What is the point?

I have chronic health problems, which are seriously limiting what I can do.
Strangely, "What is the point?" has never crossed my mind. My life is rubbish at the moment, so I try to focus on something positive each day, I am glad I am still here, when I wake up every morning.

I suffered twice from dreadful post natal depression and refused to see a GP, until my mother called out the doctor on one particularly bad day.
I am ashamed to say, I couldn't have cared less what happened to me, my DH nor my chidren and like you, thought about the point of it all.
However, after a consultation with my GP and medication, I gradually began to feel better and gradually came out of that dark place.
As others have said, please see your GP.

I'm sorry you feel like this eddie. As you can see from this thread, you are not alone in this. I too feel like this on many days. My life has been quite difficult from childhood onwards and I feel very hopeless most days, never as good as others. I am a plodder, no ambition. I just strived to get through it all. Don't beat yourself up. We can't all be high flyers. Somehow, and I don't now how, I still get up in the morning. Perhaps that's an achievement in itself. I wish you luck.

I have never been prescribed or taken anti depressants fortunately mine is just dull moods. When you are younger looking after children working and juggling stuff there’s no time for overthinking. When you retire and children have grown and flew that’s when overthinking can start.

I often ask myself what is the point and open the cupboard where I keep enough barbiturates to send me to sleep and never wake. So far Ive always closed the door again without getting any of the packets out.

I am already taking antidepressants but they will not improve my other health problems and it is those that are stopping me from doing what I want to do. I see friends packing so much more into their lives and do feel my life is less worthwhile than theirs. I probably do need to lower my expectations.
I think as women we do tend to feel we "should" be doing things - and when we can't it is hard to come to terms with.
Over-thinking is also a problem. Let's face it, the more you think about life and what we are all doing here the more pointless it all seems!

Yes I know the feeling well especially regarding health. I always try to have a positive outlook but sometimes the gloom takes over and I feel guilty.
I won't tell anyone what to do I might suggest a little outing if possible to change a low mood. We all know our own minds and we muddle on.
I have my family I adore them but sometimes I feel redundant. I think my DH feels a bit the same it must just be this stage of life.

I think a lot of us when we were younger had so many balls to juggle in the air. DH, Family, ageing parents. Working out of or in the home we often forgot about ourselves we were too wrapped up in others and keeping things on track.
Now we have time to reflect, we ask the question of how we coped and what was it all for.
If you feel depressed go to your GP. I did, with a litany of illnesses and he told me I needed to lose the stress of work.
My answer was to take early retirement which I was lucky to be able to do. When DH eventually gave up work we moved back nearer to where we were from.
Simple things make me feel I have achieved something,DD'S phoning for advice. Time to help a friend who has recently lost her husband.
If you are valued then you have achieved something.

My greatest achievement was having my son. Anything else pales into insignificance.

It is very much an achievement. I've often said that, if I never achieved much in life, at least I did manage to raise a daughter and son of whom I have very proud.

Yes, a very valuable achievement.

Oreo

Agree with Germanshepherdsmum

Your DH has the right idea OP, do what’s needed and enjoy what you can each day.A book, some tv, a glass of wine, sit in your garden if you have one.You have earned the right not to have to do too much and we don’t need to achieve anything.

This is so true. I think my problem is that I’m no longer achieving anything and, worse still, did I ever achieve anything? Yet I have a husband and children and grandchildren and relatives and friends who value me, shouldn’t I see this as an “achievement”?

Agree with Germanshepherdsmum

Your DH has the right idea OP, do what’s needed and enjoy what you can each day.A book, some tv, a glass of wine, sit in your garden if you have one.You have earned the right not to have to do too much and we don’t need to achieve anything.

I was the same, GSM. I don't even think I recognised that I had depression until I went to my GP about something else and then mentioned how I was feeling. I think I was in denial, and being prescribed antidepressants was the last thing on my mind, but they've made a huge difference to me. There's no shame in admitting you need help - whatever form that help might take.

I didn’t find that anything helped with my depression (and it sounds as though you’re suffering from it) other than medication so don’t discount going to your GP for help. It made a big difference to the way I viewed my life.

Yes, we have more years behind us than to come, but that’s not a reason to enjoy whatever small pleasures today can hold if we allow ourselves to recognise them. They may be smaller and simpler pleasures than we enjoyed years ago, but nonetheless sweet.

I feel exactly the same - as if it's all behind me. In my case I realise it's depression. I lost someone very close to me in sad circumstances years ago and I have never got over it and never will. Bringing up children and helping with grandchildren gave me a focus and took my mind off things. But now I feel just like you do. I am helpful and kind to others though I'm not sure I'm always appreciated. I am lucky to have a positive DH and he's just like yours eddiecat in that he just gets on with his day and doesn't overthink like I do. I agree that seeing my GP wouldn't change anything so I try to help myself by going out every day, eating well and trying to be positive but it is difficult and just to let you know you are certainly not alone.

I think we all (or at the very least, many of us) feel that way at times. I know I do. Working on your mental health is good - and even better if you have someone you can talk to. I don't, really - so I often find myself getting too much into my own head at times (if that makes sense). I've always been an over-thinker and that does tend to make it much worse.

Oh yes eddiecat I do this too and often for no particular reason. It's not as if anything's changed in terms of my health or our personal circumstances, so maybe it comes down to having aspects of my life that I wish I could change, but know I never can.

Could that be you too?