I’m being totally unreasonable!

Theexwife

I feel the same about someone on this forum, she seems well liked, I just didn’t trust her, for no real reason and I sneer at all her posts and comments. I do make a point of not commenting on her posts or replying to her comments as I know I am being unreasonable.

Or gut instinct?

Sidelined who knows why you react that way but it doesn’t make you a bad person, maybe a good judge of character?
I find those overly smiley ever so humble people annoying too.

O once felt this way about a colleague, i thought she was too good to be wholesome. The boss thought she was wonderful, until she ended up in court!

lemsip, no not at all. He saves me from having to be nicer to her, lets me escape while steping into my wake with a few well chosen words.

you say ....... 'she's had more to do with OH'.......

is that what makes your blood boil?

As long as you are being polite you have nothing to worry about

I actually understand what you mean as there is someone I really can't stand and I just don't trust her. Everyone who knows me thinks it is hilarious because you can't normally push me to say anything negative about anyone

I am slowly being vindicated as I see this person caught out in lies and inappropriate behaviour so maybe you should trust your instincts too

Theexwife

I feel the same about someone on this forum, she seems well liked, I just didn’t trust her, for no real reason and I sneer at all her posts and comments. I do make a point of not commenting on her posts or replying to her comments as I know I am being unreasonable.

I feel like that about someone on GN too, but on a forum it’s easier to avoid the person than in real life I guess.

I usually see the good in folk, at least until I know otherwise. I’ll have to practice my own insincere sweet smile

I feel the same about someone on this forum, she seems well liked, I just didn’t trust her, for no real reason and I sneer at all her posts and comments. I do make a point of not commenting on her posts or replying to her comments as I know I am being unreasonable.

Coronation is right. Sometimes gut instincts are spot on. I don't like 'Uriah Heap' type characters either.

Maybe it's instinct and there isn't a clear reason. I don't think it makes you a bad person at all, because we have to carry on living close to neighbours. Polite but keep the boundaries unless and until it becomes clear?

What are your gut feelings like with other people? I used to feel anger with a colleague and we had barely spoken. It turned out she was a liar, useless at her job and took credit for other people's work. However she had lots of fake charm and many people liked her.

If I’m honest it’s her demeanour- very sweet and humble but I wouldn’t trust her an inch. She reminds me of those characters of Dickens who wring their hands and flatter and smile slyly while weighing you up! I know others think she’s lovely but I can’t see it myself….

We have had a couple of conversations and they didn’t help. I even apologised once for not making more time to get to know her. It’s not something she’s done particularly, it’s something quite hard to pinpoint but something about her makes me furious. Never happened before. OH says he doesn’t like her much either but she doesn’t get under his skin thankfully. It’s just me !

Sometimes that just happens though. At least sidelined is honest about it and is giving the situation some thought. We have neighbours I like, some I dislike and some who are OK.

I was puzzled as well Sidelined what was it that raised your hackles ?

I’m bemused why someone you have had so little contact with should make your blood boil?
Can you give some reasons?

Well at least you recognise that you are being unreasonable. Why not have a conversation where you actually engage with her and listen to what she says. It'll either reinforce your dislike or you will gradually soften towards her. To be honest, as long as you can be polite, that's probably enough