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Greyduster Tue 22-Aug-23 21:30:04

Over the years, I can count on one hand the number of photos of myself I would give any seal of approval to. I avoid cameras like the plague!

VioletSky Tue 22-Aug-23 20:42:43

We all see what we don't like looking at pictures

She sees you as beauty and wants you on her wall

That is so special

Biscuitmuncher Tue 22-Aug-23 20:37:35

I think as some of you have said that even though I think I look grim. My daughter just sees her mum

Oldnproud Tue 22-Aug-23 18:20:32

How I sympathise. Over the years, I have slyly thrown away most photos of myself over the age of about 12, and that includes my wedding photos!

Firstly, I have never been attractive. Photos of myself as a teenager generally made me want to cry.

As an adult, the moment someone poins at camera at me, I literally feel my facial muscles pull my features out of place. I was so self-conscious.

But - in my sixties, I think I have finally overcome that. I have found a way of sticking out my chin and putting on a false smile that comes across acceptable in a photo.
I only realized I had cracked it when, for the first time in my life (now in my early 60s), my elderly mother actually commented recently, while looking through some new photos of a family celebration, that I take a good photo!!! Ok, I think that was an exaggeration, but I knew what she meant.

If there is hope for me, there is hope for anyone!

Primrose53 Tue 22-Aug-23 16:33:12

I detest having my photo taken. I have friends who stand slightly turned to one side and look great, another friend always places her feet really well and it flatters her. I forget, so stand straight on, feet together and usually end up with my eyes closed.

Another thing is I have a small mouth and even when I smile I don’t show a lot of teeth. Friends have big, wide mouths and their teeth look lovely.

Hetty58 Tue 22-Aug-23 13:55:38

We see all our faults and wrinkles - and they see 'Mum'!

My mother would only be photographed showing her 'good' side and would make us all wait ages while she 'arranged' herself properly -side on, standing tall, chin up, tummy in, hair flicked back - with a little smile. Result - we thought her ridiculously vain - and she still managed to look like an idiot!

fancythat Tue 22-Aug-23 13:26:47

op, I feel for you. Not sure what my advice is.

Grammaretto, oh that is sad.

fancythat Tue 22-Aug-23 13:23:56

I watch other women, and men for that matter have their photos taken. And it is all so easy for them.

I have learnt over the years to shut my mouth[dont like my teeth]. Smile. But I can only do that for 5 seconds, and people have not normally clicked by then.
Even if I get that right, my hair will be out of place[I dont use many products so that could be my fault]. Or my tummy looks big. Or something else.

Can you tell I have put some thought inot this over the years. And still not got far?

I then went into, oh who cares mode. But I dont like the results of those photos either!

I have started to try and see them and agree before the sending[i know someone who is very strict on that which would explain her faultless photos]. But as my last post says, I dont always succeed.

Mirren Tue 22-Aug-23 13:20:42

I honestly think someone could take the best photo ever of me ....and I would still see the truth....a plain ,bespectacled, grey haired , wrinkly ,slightly overweight 67 year old woman.
I have never seen any photos of myself, even my wedding pics , where I thought I looked pretty.
I was a pretty baby and younger child but ,the fact is , I am " plain ".
No 2 ways about it.
It is the simple truth.
So , while I do not enjoy seeing my own images, I have to accept those who love me think some are " good photos " and want some visual record of me ,their wife ,Mum , grandma ,sister friend etc.
On this basis I allow photos of me to be taken although I have never displayed any, even my wedding photos, in my house.

fancythat Tue 22-Aug-23 13:18:43

I didnt realise that there others like me who dont like their photos.
A lot of times others dont see what the problem is. Thankfully.

Only last night my DD took a photograph with me in the background. And shared it before I had seen it. To me I look shapeless and slumped. DD cant really see what my problem is. Which is nice. Other DD cant either.
But there are very few photos of me that I actually like. And I really dont think that I am wrong about all this!

rubysong Tue 22-Aug-23 13:09:22

There are very few photos of me as I am usually the one taking the photos of everyone else.

Oreo Tue 22-Aug-23 10:52:21

Grammaretto

At least she likes it!
My DD couldn't find a decent one of me at her own wedding so has missed me out entirely on her framed medley of wedding photos. boo hoo!

That’s very sad.

I don’t know many women that like themselves in photos OP, sometimes I think I look quite good and sometimes awful.
Your DD likes it and that’s what matters, and it’s lovely that she wants it in her wall, so rejoice!

Blondiescot Tue 22-Aug-23 10:24:30

My kids joke that if I ever went missing, there would be no missing person posters, as there are no photos of me! I hate getting my photo taken, so go out of my way to avoid it!

Juliet27 Tue 22-Aug-23 10:18:18

When my son, daughter and their four year old son visited from Australia last year, while we were out for a walk the grandson took a photo of us all sat on a bench. When he came to show us, he looked a bit sheepish - he’d left me out! Shows what he thinks of me!! Mind you, looking at the next photo he took I rather wish he’d left me out of that one too!!

Grammaretto Tue 22-Aug-23 10:09:19

At least she likes it!
My DD couldn't find a decent one of me at her own wedding so has missed me out entirely on her framed medley of wedding photos. boo hoo!

Redhead56 Tue 22-Aug-23 09:53:57

My DH has a habit of taking the worst photos (he fails to see that) and forwards them on. I used to be furious with him I give up now what you see and others see is different. I would just shrug it off it’s not worth upsetting your DD.

nanna8 Tue 22-Aug-23 09:42:13

Tell her you don’t like it and give her another one ?

Biscuitmuncher Tue 22-Aug-23 09:40:50

My lovely daughter has had a photo printed of me that she likes. In it I look like Jabba the Hutt! Best of all she wants to frame the monstrosity and put it on the wall. What do I do? I cant look at that bloody thing!