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What are the rules for gender reveal?

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Cambsnan Mon 28-Aug-23 15:28:08

Grandsons girlfriend is have in a gender reveal party. I expect their will be a baby shower later but do you take gift to a reveal?

Twopence Wed 30-Aug-23 13:42:05

Took me a while to realise what a gender reveal was!!

5553n Wed 30-Aug-23 13:36:48

If I were invited I would take a batch of home baked fairy cakes 6 iced in blue 6 iced in pink!

00mam00 Wed 30-Aug-23 13:29:54

My thoughts too Nelliethe’. And wondered what the rules could be for ‘coming out’.

Nannashirlz Wed 30-Aug-23 13:24:00

My daughter inlaw had one just before lockdown and it was just a few nibbles so they could tell us what sex she was having so we could buy gifts at later date. Didn’t take any gifts no one did

Gillarms Wed 30-Aug-23 13:23:27

Don't go would be my advice nor to a Baby Shower. Just an excuse for more gifts. Wait until the baby is born, visit the new family at an appropriate time and give a suitable gift then, if you can afford one.

Washerwoman Wed 30-Aug-23 13:10:05

Our DD didn't want to know in advance what they were having with either of their children, And our other DD - birth imminent this month doesn't know either so no gender reveals for them.They think along with baby showers they are rather grabby and attention seeking too.I must admit DH and myself are glad ,and prefer the excitement of waiting to see what our next grandchild is.All we ever wish for is a healthy mum and baby of course.

Nellietheelephant Wed 30-Aug-23 12:46:50

I read the headline and had a double take wondering which Gransnetter was going to was going to reveal all!

Pennylucky007 Wed 30-Aug-23 12:39:31

I asked my pregnant daughter where was the baby reveal party and she replied “In America - where it belongs”!

StillNotGinger Wed 30-Aug-23 12:32:01

I don't understand how the parents know the baby's gender already. The child doesn't decide its gender till it's about two or three, according to Stonewall.

Uschi Wed 30-Aug-23 12:24:58

I do so agree with lyleLyle, silverlining48 and others that gender reveal parties and baby showers are attention-seeking nonsense imported from the USA and not to be encouraged. The important things are a healthy mother and baby not this peripheral rubbish.

Mollygo Wed 30-Aug-23 12:22:18

Schnackie 🤣🤣🤣

schnackie Wed 30-Aug-23 12:20:30

My friend's DD is pregnant and when the dad was asked which gender he hoped for, he replied "I don't care. As long as it stays the same." grin

5553n Wed 30-Aug-23 12:19:20

If I was ever invited to something like this ,I would take a batch of home baked fairy cakes iced 1/2 blue 1/2 pink.

nanasam Wed 30-Aug-23 12:17:03

I went to a baby shower once and found it very tacky, the friend organising it had silly games and quizzes to play, which went down like a damp squib. People were deciding who'd bought the mot expensive present and I found it quite uncomfortable. Will be sorting out my sock drawer if I ever get another invite!

InTheCove Wed 30-Aug-23 12:09:56

No gift - it's just a fun party. Gift is given at the shower.

Grantanow Wed 30-Aug-23 12:01:56

Rules?

Witzend Wed 30-Aug-23 11:51:10

I’m unashamed to admit that I won’t ‘celebrate’ until the baby has arrived safely and both mother and baby are well.

This feeling was reinforced quite recently when a friend of a dd tragically had a baby stillborn - for a reason discovered only at the post-mortem - at only a very few weeks before the due date, when all had apparently been 100% fine beforehand.

Grammaretto Wed 30-Aug-23 07:48:50

Presumably this reveal party is taking place at about 20 weeks gestation to give you time to knit in the appropriate colour.
It is really pretty ridiculous isn't it but any excuse for a party and why not take a pink and a blue cardi and whip out the correct colour to the utter amazement of the other guests?!

Joseann Wed 30-Aug-23 07:29:29

It must be exciting for you though Cambsnan to soon be a great grandma. Something to look forward to!

Joseann Wed 30-Aug-23 07:10:17

Daddima that's so funny! 😆
I agree with all the above. It's just another excuse to have a party, a bit like proms, hen and stag dos etc. I would just take flowers.

PamelaJ1 Wed 30-Aug-23 06:43:47

Count me out.
I’m taking no notice of the baby list my relative has put on Amazon either. She has even asked for disposable nappies on that!
She has masses of stuff already and I have a gift for when the baby is born.

Cabbie21 Wed 30-Aug-23 06:38:13

Tenko, you beat me to it. The time to celebrate ( and reveal ) is when the baby has arrived, and is safe and well. With all the sad stories recently of the deaths of so many young babies in hospitals or births that went wrong, I feel very uncomfortable about the idea of a baby shower and as for a gender reveal, I would run a mile.

NotSpaghetti Wed 30-Aug-23 05:24:46

I have to admit that this is irrelevant to me though (so maybe I shouldn't really even be on this thread)!
I don't care if babies are boys or girls and I can't see why anyone would bother with an "event" like this.

I wouldn't have wanted one for my babies and now I wouldn't want to go!

NotSpaghetti Wed 30-Aug-23 05:20:27

Doodledog you are right... it should be a sex reveal.

I expect some people would be thinking like Daddima then! 😆

Callistemon21 Tue 29-Aug-23 22:17:22

Smileless2012

Callistemon grin one of the most memorable episodes, had me laughing one minute and crying the next.

Yes, just brilliant.

Damien went on to unintentionally terrify Rodney 😁