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What are the rules for gender reveal?

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Cambsnan Mon 28-Aug-23 15:28:08

Grandsons girlfriend is have in a gender reveal party. I expect their will be a baby shower later but do you take gift to a reveal?

Smileless2012 Mon 28-Aug-23 15:30:36

I suggest you report your OP to GNHQ and ask them to post it on a more suitable forum Cambsnan.

Georgesgran Mon 28-Aug-23 15:31:36

I’ve no answer to your question, but perhaps repost under a different heading rather than bereavement.

Norah Mon 28-Aug-23 15:32:14

We don't take a gift.

Smileless2012 Mon 28-Aug-23 16:23:50

I've never been to one but if there's going to be a baby shower later, I wouldn't take a gift.

lyleLyle Mon 28-Aug-23 20:09:41

I find that gender reveals are nothing more than an attention grab. Personally, I haven’t waisted any time attending one despite several invites.

lyleLyle Mon 28-Aug-23 20:11:31

*wasted

fancythat Mon 28-Aug-23 20:34:31

We didnt take a gift.

GrandmaKT Mon 28-Aug-23 20:46:32

I saw a little video clip of a gender reveal the other day. They had a big balloon, which presumably had pink or blue confetti in it. Big sister had been given a sharp pair of scissors to pop the balloon, but instead, she smartly cut the string and the assembled party gazed open-mouthed as it floated away!

Chocolatelovinggran Tue 29-Aug-23 07:59:41

I think that for me, the rule would be that I am unable to attend due to a previous engagement.

Blondiescot Tue 29-Aug-23 08:11:21

Chocolatelovinggran

I think that for me, the rule would be that I am unable to attend due to a previous engagement.

I think I would also have one too!

nanna8 Tue 29-Aug-23 09:06:42

Is that the same as a baby shower? Quite a few mums to be have them these days for friends and family. They can collect baby clothes etc and these days,for young ones, it is probably a way of saving money. Don’t forget many have massive mortgages, much bigger than anything we had and they need all the help they can get.

silverlining48 Tue 29-Aug-23 09:13:18

I really struggle with this sort of stuff and nonsense brought to us from across the pond as most of our new ‘traditions’ are.
Reveals? baby showers? Oh dear. Good excuses for more gifts. Call me bah humbug if you like grin

lixy Tue 29-Aug-23 09:15:30

Never been to one but I think I'd take something small and neutral - a set of spoons for example - wrapped up in my handbag so I was ready to produce a gift if it was expected.

Baby showers seem to be much closer to the date of expected birth - two days before in my DD case!

Rachel75 Tue 29-Aug-23 09:20:25

nanna8

Is that the same as a baby shower? Quite a few mums to be have them these days for friends and family. They can collect baby clothes etc and these days,for young ones, it is probably a way of saving money. Don’t forget many have massive mortgages, much bigger than anything we had and they need all the help they can get.

No, not the same, nanna8 - it’s where they “reveal” if it’s to be a boy or girl.
Baby shower later!

Blondiescot Tue 29-Aug-23 09:49:49

nanna8

Is that the same as a baby shower? Quite a few mums to be have them these days for friends and family. They can collect baby clothes etc and these days,for young ones, it is probably a way of saving money. Don’t forget many have massive mortgages, much bigger than anything we had and they need all the help they can get.

No, quite different from a baby shower. A gender reveal party is held to announce the gender of the baby. Baby showers are when most people would take along a gift.

VioletSky Tue 29-Aug-23 10:00:09

I have never been to one but, I would assume there is going to be food and things, so maybe you could ask if you can bring something to contribute to that? Then you won't arrive empty handed?

Daddima Tue 29-Aug-23 10:55:14

So, we now have ‘gender reveal’, baby shower, then maybe christening or ‘naming ceremony’. How long before we’re invited to attend the birth, or, God forbid, the conception?

silverlining48 Tue 29-Aug-23 11:16:12

Think people are already invited to the birth , though usually it’s family not friends or neighbours grin

ElaineI Tue 29-Aug-23 13:12:24

GrandmaKT had such a laugh at your post 😂
No you don't need a gift at gender reveal though I would probably take some eatables.

HousePlantQueen Tue 29-Aug-23 15:05:35

Nope, if there is going to be a baby shower later, take a gift to that. Frankly, I would avoid both (and there will be both, anyone who is tacky enough to have a gender reveal, will have a grabby baby shower too). Sorry, but I dislike both 'events', and prefer to give a gift when the baby is here, and when I can ask what the parents would like or need. Apologies to anyone whose children have had one!

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 29-Aug-23 15:08:22

I’m very pleased not to have been invited to such an occasion, nor a baby shower. Tacky American ideas.

Callistemon21 Tue 29-Aug-23 16:06:35

lixy

Never been to one but I think I'd take something small and neutral - a set of spoons for example - wrapped up in my handbag so I was ready to produce a gift if it was expected.

Baby showers seem to be much closer to the date of expected birth - two days before in my DD case!

Tommee Tippee spoons?

😃

Callistemon21 Tue 29-Aug-23 16:07:43

Daddima

So, we now have ‘gender reveal’, baby shower, then maybe christening or ‘naming ceremony’. How long before we’re invited to attend the birth, or, God forbid, the conception?

Daddima !!

😂😂😂

Callistemon21 Tue 29-Aug-23 16:08:00

Ps I was drinking my tea 😂