The other in laws .Are you alike or different.?

Only one of our DC is married and in our case, the two, quite small families have become one.

We live 200 miles apart, but when we visit DS and family we stay with his MiL who was widowed when her children were at infant school and has not remarried. We have been on holiday together and she has stayed with us.

All three of us(DH, Ds'sMiL, and I) have very different backgrounds, different lives and different incomes, but we have shared values and a similar approach to life. She is also 7 years older than us.

We have been so fortunate. Our parent's also got on well, although again their lives were very different and when DFiL died, DMiL stayed with my parents several times and they delighted in her company.

Interesting thought. DiL#1 has no parents alive but has close siblings. She has never looked to me as a mum.

DiL2 lost her dad recently as has my son lost his, ofcourse. We grans live at other ends of the country and our DGC is in NZ. I have only met her on a few occasions but hear about her. We are very proud grans.

DiL3 is very close to her DP who have had a lot to do with the DGC. They are nice and if we lived nearer, we would be friends. They love my son which pleases me.

DD married the boy next door (almost)
I like his parents and see them socially. They are younger and fitter than me and are super DGP. I think DD is lucky.

I wouldn't say any are like us in personality but similar backgrounds and values.

Same situation as Grandmabatty

3 DDs.
DD1 has a FIL but he moved to Thailand several years ago and they haven’t seen him since. We met him a few times but he is very different to us and indeed his son.
DD2 not applicable as she is single.
DD3 has MIL and FIL. We meet up at some family dos and get on perfectly well. We don’t socialise otherwise with them. They are quite different to us, more serious and a bit fussy. They seem to love our DD so they will do as far as I’m concerned.

We have a polite relationship but we are very different and only get on superficially.

Goodness, they are all varied, aren't they?

Our lot were our neighbours for all of our children's lives! We were very friendly in a neighbourly way, but not great friends; and remain the same - they are lovely people, and I am so glad that our GCs have them.

The other GC has no other grandparents. They had their daughter when relatively old and died before we met her. I sometimes look up at the photo of her mum and say 'I'm doing my best to look after her, but not take your place'. I actually have a feeling that they were rather exacting parents - DiL is a high achiever - and might have found us a bit 'laissez faire'. but I do know that DiL appreciates all we do, which is lovely.

They aren’t in my life anymore but we were different. They were educated and she often made a comment on something I was wearing in an odd sort of way.