So upset here .......

Have a look at Papyrus...a charity but possibly a good link for mental health support and their focus is young people, I think under 30.
I can't imagine what you are going through as a family.
My thoughts are with you.

Your poor g.daughter must have felt so desperate. So very sad. Do not make her feel guilty by this action. Hopefully, she will get good tratment for Crohns, it is a horrible illness,, specially for one so young, but there is massive knowledge and research and medication.

Hopefully, her family are all okay with her gender dysphoria and trreat this with all respect. Many local Pride branches have special meeting nights for teenagers and also for families - could be worthwhile finding out about those.

Luckygirl it must be so devastating for you. Stay strong both for this young person and also for their parents, they must be so shocked and unsure of everything. Few parenting manuals contain chapters on this.

So sorry to hear this Luckygirl.

If she's prescribed medication get a pharmacist to check compatibility between any antidepressants/anxiolytics she may have prescribed and any Crohn's meds. In my experience sometimes different specialties prescribe meds without considering other meds prescribed by another specialty.

How very sad. I do hope she will improve and get the help she needs.

Tell your daughter to persist she has a proper assessment if there are no Dr's around today there will be tomorrow. She as you rightly point out needs a full care package.
Don't go blaming yourselves. I do personally know of a case very similar that went horribly wrong. We don't always know our children and grandchildren as we think we do.
I hope you all get the help and care you all need.

We are awaiting results of today's blood tests - they were improving last night. It makes be feel quite ill to think she was that desperate - but I can understand it - no proper joined up care for her mental health problems or her Crohn's. It has been like banging head against brick wall. I have told DD not to let them discharge her till a proper mental health assessment is done and some sort of plan put in place - but it is a Sunday .....

How is she today Luckygirl? I hope she (and you all) had a good night's sleep.

How devastating for you all, Luckygirl3. I do hope the poor girl will now get the help she needs. 🙏

Your poor GD has a lot to bear so sending her a big hug and hopes that she will get some treatment soon.
My GD is the same age and I can understand how upset you must feel.

At the moment we are all standing back but being available. \I do not think it would help for us all to pile in and offer opinions - they just need to know we love them and are thinking of them. I have sent her a message just to say sending love - we often text each other. And of course the same with her Mum - we have all sent loving messages. I find it hard to think of my own DD suffering so much, as well as my DGD - and my other AC.

I am hoping that I will hear some more before the day is out - but I do not want to be hassling them with messages - they just need to know they are in our hearts.

If she can just get past the possible physical results of the drugs, then they can tackle the other problems - though heaven knows we have all been trying to do so for so long. This wretched Crohn's was the last straw. It is so hard to settle on a treatment that works - it sometimes takes years.

Your poor family must be reeling with shock.
Do you think it would help to write your granddaughter a letter telling her how precious she is to you, and ask her if there is anything she thinks would help?

Wishing you all well Luckygirl
Just to add that it is very common in the teenage years. Often a cry for help . Thankfully she's ok.

I took an overdose aged 15 . Looking back I think it was a kind of breakdown. I had had a traumatic childhood and was always quiet and well behaved but became angry with the world in my teens. I was lucky that a relative took me to stay with her for a while afterwards. Her home was a haven of peace. She taught me to knit and made a bit of a fuss of me.
No counselling in those days

Luckygirl, I'm sending thoughtful hugs to you. We have recently had a suicide attempt by a nephew (in his 30's); he has been discharged from hospital, but I don't know much about his mental health care plan.

I think the best thing is to be a sounding board and shoulder to lean on for your family. They have to be chin up and positive for their daughter, but need the time and place to let go of their worries. I don't know how often you see your GD or her parents.

I know when I talked to my SIL she vented her frustration about her sister , who was always calling, wanting to visit, bring food, wanted to do something. We all react differently in a crisis, and sometimes there's nothing you can do but be an ear and a shoulder to lean on. My nephew has let his family know he is not ready to see anyone else, so we have to respect that.

The road ahead will be a slow and bumpy one, but it's good that you be along with them all.

Your poor granddaughter do hope she gets the help she needs, with you all behind her and fighting 🤞she will.💐

So sorry to hear this awful news - as Grandparents I'm sure we can all feel the worry and anguish you must be going through. All best wishes to your family and your dear GD.

DGS 'must have been feeling awful'. Crucial missing word. Sorry.

So sorry to hear this Luckygirl. What a terrible time for you all not least your poor DGD who must have been awful. She's lucky that she's got such a good supportive and sensible family around her. She will have a psych assessment before she's discharged. Not sure what will happen after that. Follow up support from a CPN? I do hope so.

Luckygirl - for you all x

Oh I am so sorry Luckygirl- been trying to keep away from GN- and just seen this.

Can't find any words that could possibly help- but sending love and hugs to you and family. You have been through so much last few years- so hope she will get all the support and help she needs.

Our GCs are being bombarded with so much conflicting and desperate information, and it is affecting so many of them so powerfully negatively.

hugs

Thinking of you Luckygirl, I can well imagine how distressed her parents and you feel. You seem to have a secure and loving family and will support one another. I sincerely hope your GD can access appropriate professional help and I wish her well - you too. She has so much to contend with Crohns is very dibilitating and her gender dysphoria must cause her and your family great anxiety. I feel sure you will be there for her .💐💐

This must be such a worry for you all I hope your granddaughter gets the support she needs.

Lucygirl to you and your family especially your poor granddaughter.

Sorry to hear this Luckygirl. Hope your GD recovers and gets the help she needs. Sending a virtual hug to you all.

Luckygirl3 my heart goes out to you in what must be an awfully worrying time for you and your family.

In her teens one of my daughters took an overdose too, and like you I worried about the effect on her kidneys and other organs. She is an adult of 30 now and thankfully none of her organs have been affected and she has run several marathons.

I also took several overdoses in my teens and twenties , and again have been fortunate enough not to have had any effects on any of my organs.

I do hope this will be the same for your granddaughter, and that she is able to get the support she needs. I am appalled that CAMHS have offered nothing in the past for her; the three conditions (not sure if that is the best word to use) she is going through must be terribly hard for her to deal with especially in her teens. It sounds very like a desperate cry for help (which I now know was the reason behind my overdoses) and I do hope the professionals involved in her care will help.

You sound like a wonderful, sensitive and intelligent grandparent, and I wish you and all your family the very best for the future.