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Luckygirl3 Sat 14-Oct-23 10:17:11

...... my dear teenaged GD is in hospital after taking an overdose - we are all devastated. She is likely to be OK - has come round and is talking. There is a dreadful sense of having failed her and of not knowing how to help - she is on the autistic spectrum, has gender dysphoria and intractable Crohn's Disease. How can we help this poor soul?

pascal30 Sat 14-Oct-23 15:19:24

Luckygirl.. you might like to look at Lothlorien Therapeutic Community on the borders.. run by psychotherapists and Samye Ling.. It has communal gardening, creative activities, group work cooking etc. I have visited it and can tell you it is lovely.. I would be surprised if you are able to get much help from MH services but I think you can self refer for this.. very best wishes to you all

Callistemon21 Sat 14-Oct-23 15:05:32

Your granddaughter should however have an assessment while in hospital
Yes, there should be an urgent follow-up 🤞

flowers for you, Luckygirl and you mustn't feel you have failed her. It's difficult to know what is the best way to help, as long as she knows you are there to love and support her.

Is there a local support group for people with Crohns?

cornergran Sat 14-Oct-23 14:54:40

Please don’t blame yourselves lucky. Definitely not the family’s fault. Unfortunately NHS mental health support is very patchy across the country. Your granddaughter should however have an assessment while in hospital, which may at least give some suggestions if not direct intervention. My love to you and the family. x

toscalily Sat 14-Oct-23 14:16:56

My best wishes for her recovery and so sorry for you and your family. Poor girl, the teenage years can be difficult enough if you are in good health but with the addition of Crohn's must be very hard indeed ( I know two people with this disease and the many and various problems they have had to deal with, including in one case several surgical interventions). You may have to fight hard on her behalf but hopefully now you will be listened to and get the attention & care she deserves both for her physical & mental health. flowers

annsixty Sat 14-Oct-23 13:35:38

Just flowers for you all with kindest wishes.

downtoearth Sat 14-Oct-23 13:31:59

Lucky sending love and support,to you and your family.
I am aware of the huge problem of getting help from mental health services for my DGD.
I hope now your DGD gets the help she clearly needsflowers

GrannyGravy13 Sat 14-Oct-23 13:17:39

Sending you a (((hug))) Luckygirl3

Your dear GD has a lot of things to cope with, hopefully now she is in hospital she will get the help she so desperately needs.

hulahoop Sat 14-Oct-23 13:14:24

Luckygirl hope she gets help she needs.

BlueBelle Sat 14-Oct-23 13:03:04

I didn’t mean to offend Luckygirl
I m not sure if everywhere’s the same but here we have an excellent NHS mental health team for 14-24 year olds
Perhaps she could also see a counsellor specialising in Crohns
Wishing love and help for you all

J52 Sat 14-Oct-23 13:00:53

So sorry you and your family are experiencing such a traumatic time. No advice to offer, other than to be there for her, your family and be kind to yourself.💐

Luckygirl3 Sat 14-Oct-23 12:50:43

Thank you for all the kind supportive posts. There is some concern about her kidneys and she is having fluids to try and flush things through. I can only hope she will emerge from this physically unscathed.

ginny Sat 14-Oct-23 12:39:40

So sorry, what a shock for all of you.
Just keep loving her which you obviously do.
Hope she finds the help she needs.
X

HeavenLeigh Sat 14-Oct-23 12:38:23

So sorry to hear this! Sending a big virtual hug

rafichagran Sat 14-Oct-23 12:34:35

I am sorry to hear about your Grandaughter. She is lucky to have such a loving caring family, who are intelligent and will do the best for her.

Jaxjacky Sat 14-Oct-23 12:31:55

So sorry for you all Luckygirl I know of a family in a similar situation who ended up paying privately for the essential mental help support desperately needed.
I do hope you all have support as well as supporting each other, take care.

Blossoming Sat 14-Oct-23 12:18:25

So very sorry to hear this Luckygirl13. It’s natural to feel that you could have done something to prevent this, but you are in no way to blame. I hope your GD gets the professional help and support she needs. Wishing you and your family all the best flowers

Bea65 Sat 14-Oct-23 12:14:47

So sad to hear this..sending good wishes..

dragonfly46 Sat 14-Oct-23 12:06:43

Oh Lucky how sad for you and your family. All I can do is send love and hugs.

Callistemon21 Sat 14-Oct-23 11:56:10

Is she still at school, Luckygirl?

If so, perhaps, when she has recovered sufficiently, some gentle probing might find out if she is being bullied or if friendship groups have shifted as some did during lockdowns.
Teenage years can be so difficult without the added stress that Crohn's Disease can cause. And stress can cause a flare-up too.

2020convert Sat 14-Oct-23 11:46:24

Just don’t give up finding help and support for her. Someone, somewhere should be able to help, it’s just a case of unlocking it. So, keep on going. Sending you all strength in your difficult times. Meanwhile, we are here for moral support, even if we can’t offer practical help. Take care.

fancythat Sat 14-Oct-23 11:44:19

Crohn's is very miserable. That alone is enough for most people.
Could you get private advice?
I dont know enough about it to advise.
Perhaps start a thread on here?

Starof1972 Sat 14-Oct-23 11:42:24

Luckygirl I'm sorry that I too cannot offer much help but you are all in my thoughts this morning flowers

Doodledog Sat 14-Oct-23 11:36:57

I'm sorry to hear that Luckygirl. You must be reeling.

MH services are so stretched these days, which is ironic given the greater awareness and rise in the number of sufferers.

I hope your granddaughter gets the help she needs, and that you and the rest of the family can support one another too.

Greenfinch Sat 14-Oct-23 11:28:31

I can understand completely how you feel*Lucky*. All I can say is fight ,fight ,fight for help and support.

Chocolatelovinggran Sat 14-Oct-23 11:16:45

Oh Lucky I am so sorry to hear this. Hopefully she will be able to access some adult services soon. A loving, supportive family is a wonderful resource for her. I wish you all the best.