Being called a 'Guy'

I don’t mind being called guys when out with my friends. Prefer it to ladies.

I don't like it in a reasonably formal setting -- the waiter (and it's usually a bloke) is liable to get a reply from me along the lines of 'It's Mrs Sharpe to you, sonny' .
In a pub and addressing a mixed group it's ok ....ish.

Hate it ! Nor do I like being called Sweetie !

Language changes. It can't be controlled. I quite like guys. That it has become gender neutral maybe shows a positive trend. I suppose the female form was doll once, as in guys and dolls. Some older Scottish men still use the word doll to address women. I don't really mind. As people say, if it is being said in a friendly way.
Words that irritate me are fur babies and hubby. But I feel it is unfair of me.

Thanks Nana8. I don't have it in me now to worry about trivialities. Let it go folks.

Guys, I find being called this is insulting.

OOh no a pet bugbear of mine I HATE the expression YOU GUYS .....aaarrggghhhh !

I know what you mean / but my daughters use it all the time as a collective. So I let it go over my head as I do a lot of things these days

Another dislike is when someone pronounces the letter between g and i
as ‘haitch’ in stead of ‘aitch’
We went to view a school for my child where the teacher said ‘haitch’ instead of ‘aitch’ This was a no no for me and we decided it’s not the school for us.

Hate it ! Don’t like Sweetie either !

I've noticed gay men are referred to as boys. Why not men?

Language changes and adapts all the time. So glad madam has disappeared.

I don't worry about what I get called unless someone is trying to be offensive! True, I might prefer some words to others, but each to their own.

I’ve sort of got used to it, but it still doesn’t sound right
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Same as the 'Hi,' that now replaces the 'Dear Sir/Madam' in correspondence. My most recent bugbear was noticing that the end of my correspondence had been shortened to read 'Best,' instead of 'Best Wishes.' Aaargh!

I don't mind it at all and have been guilty of using it as well.
As a Bristolian, we're well used to various terms of endearment from total strangers (alright my love, sweetheart etc) so I'm not bothered by it.

It's interesting to read the responses to this question as I posted exactly the same question in a Facebook group called Dull Women's Club and it turned out most people couldn't understand "my problem" with being called 'guys' in a mixed-sex group. What's wrong with 'folks' in this instance? I agree in the grand scheme of things it's not a big issue but it irritates me because it's just lazy speech.

It's pointless getting picky about being called things unless they are offensive. I like 'girls' and 'ladies' and can cope with 'guys'. Cut people some slack - often they are trying their hardest to use the right term and men understandably could think that we like being called 'girls'. (I do!) I feel much more annoyed at the idea I have to specify whether I'm a she/her, he/him, they/them

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I don’t mind ‘guys’ but can’t stand women being called, or calling themselves, ‘girls’.

I agree - but on the other hand, saying 'I'm going out for lunch with the women' or 'Women's night out' also grates on me. Difficult isn't it..? 🤔

Well said, undines.

It's not lazy speech, Altissimma. It's fashionable speech. No one is forced to like it just as no-one is forced to like other fashions.

I was called 'that young girl' today. Should I strenuously object because young girl I am not? Nope. And neither would anyone else on this thread, I imagine 😜

I don't tend to sweat it, but I often refer to mixed company as 'gals' just to redress the male default balance in a small way. It's interesting to see the reactions.

Guys, Gals, Girls, Ladies all fine by me if in a group. Not quite so fine if on my own. I do appreciate people like to have a word to call me when they don't know my name and have no need to know my name. It is only polite and respectful. What really gets me is when I am dealing with someone such as the bank and a young whippersnapper immediately calls me by my first name, I find that so disrepectful. Added to which, thanks to my darling parents, I am actually called by my second name, so calling me by my first name just rubs salt into the wound. The only place I tolerate it is in the hospital where I really don't have any option. Also I second the person who dislikes Hi to start an email and find I cannot do it. I either start dear or hello or good morning/afternoon/evening. But, as said, all these are mere irritations (apart from the bank - grrr).

I like it, it’s friendly.

I don’t mind ‘guys’. It sounds unisex to me. Better than ‘love’/‘sweetie’/‘darling’/‘lovey’/‘dear’, etc., etc.
Sorry, but the phrase which really grates with me is ‘Take care’!! What have I been doing wrong all these years?! 🤔 Do they know something I don’t? Are they having premonitions?! 🙄😂

I don’t mind at all. I feel that is a friendly way to address people.
One thing that does annoy me, why is ‘two times’ used now instead of twice ?
Or have I missed something, has twice being deleted from our vocabulary?