Being called a 'Guy'

I don’t mind guys. It’s always in a group, because I’ve never heard anyone say “Hi Guy”.

Dee1012

I'm totally with you on this...I really don't like it!

My other pet hate is groups of couples and the men referring to the women as "girls".

I sort of agree with you on this, but, to me saying something like, "how are you women" doesn't sound right, it sounds a bit insulting, ladies doesnt sound much better.

Oh, just get over yourself! However much you don't like being referred to as a guy,for better or worse, it's become very much the normal form of address for a mixed - or maybe not - group of people. Any years ago when it first crept into use, it used to make me wince, but nowadays when DS & both DGSs refer to GraffaC & me as "you guys" & every waiter in creation does the same, it's time to stop being silly about it & just accept it!

Call me “guys”, girls, ladies, whatever. But please dont talk to me about your “hubby” , or worse still, “hubs” 🙉

As a transgender person myself I'd rather be lumped in as "guys" than have someone assume and get it wrong, to everyone's discomfort. Though I'd be just as happy with "hello people" if "guys" sounds to male-leaning for some.

We both have a hospitality background, of the Sir and Madam type. My husband points out if called guys that one is definitely not a guy, and he prefers gentleman or sir...I dread it, but agree I'm not a guy.

Whatever happened to all the dolls? As in "Guys and Dolls".

Can't stand it I find it insulting

'Guy' is just the modern word for 'people' so we need to accept that.

Dolls?

Noooooo, no way

I don’t like it but I’ve never fretted too much about it till recently.
I have become more and more annoyed by the sanctimonious and hypocritical attitude of the young. Every utterance has to be considered lest someone is offended. It’s often taking offence on behalf of “others”.
I’ve been accused of homophobia because I stumbled into a pride picture, body shaming a cartoon cat. Incidentally, called “chubby cat”.and my life experiences are unacceptable because how my disability was treated in my past is now not acceptable. So I’m apparently guilty of disability discrimination against myself!
In the mist of all this madness I think I can claim that being called a “guy” is misgendering but I’m sure I’ll just be told I’ve misunderstood the meaning.
Or perhaps they do mean GUY :- the butt of the joke.

I don't care for the expression'you guys'. I just happened to be old fashioned.

I enjoy being called "guys", - at 81 and a carer, I feel I am excluded from much of modern life, and am happy as long as people are being as friendly and helpful to me as I try to be to everyone.

I don't want to be too set in my ways, and don't feel the need for people to be over-respectful to me, just friendly.

As several have said, it's just a fad. No real point getting stroppy about it. I'd guess it's usually said by waiters/resses and maybe bar folk, and there are alternatives, but it's easier to just go with the flow?

I think it is a mine field for waiting staff. As long as they are not patronising and say it with a smile I accept most names.

No! You do not sound like a 'grumpy old woman.' I feel the same. It is classic Americanization of Britain. I saw it coming. It is sad. (Remember, we never celebrated Halloween - American/Canadian custom. I live in Canada, am a proud Britain. I'm only here for my children. We get referred to as "guys' too. I don't like it. We from another generation know the courtesies of respect, but we also put up with gender discriminated, but we did not know it. If someone calls me 'Pat' I say it's Patricia. If they call me a guy, I say, "it's the Lady Patricia to you"..or something like. It's my sense of play and humour why I tell them that. Sorry, I am belabouring this topic (as I do). I do also take exception to business people calling me by my first name. It was always Miss, Mrs. or Mr. in our younger days. Here, they finally caught on. When I call a bank they ask, "may I us your first or last name? or "how do you like to be addressed?" It's tough living in this era, isn't it? Especially as we are moving into the true age of Aquarius. The English language has has been bent in all directions in a country where there are so many using English as a second language.

Hate it

Being referred to as a guy used to really annoy me - it’s here to stay I’m afraid, just have to accept it! I still struggle with children being called kids maybe that’s me but can’t bring myself to call my small grandchildren young donkeys 😁

When my granddaughters play online games with their friends all I hear is ‘guys’ ‘you guys’ and they are all girls. I guess we’re stuck with it now.

Sorry - young goat not donkey 😂

RosiesMaw

I really feel I have other things to worry me and actually find “guys” preferable to the slightly patronising “ladies”.
But each to their own.
Why do people get so uptight about trivialities?
“Can I get” as opposed to “May I have” for instance , so what?
We’re not all Victor Meldrew clones.
Lighten up, maybe?

Couldn't agree with you more!! If that's all people have to worry about then life is good! I do wonder why people feel the need to moan about absolutely everything!? Lighten up, life is short, make it worth living, chill out and be happy!

Dickens I think we have a different definition of the word "interesting".....

I hate being called a guy. It is 'slang'. Unfortunately a lot of people use the word.

I've been using "guys" as a gender neutral term since the 1990s.

I only accept "Ladies" when used in certain and specific circumstances by women - otherwise it has too many disturbing 1970s connotations for me. Ditto "Girls".

Can’t abide it. Worse still I find when I’m told : sit here for me my lovely. Usually uttered by some health semi professional or a hairdresser. Makes my skin crawl.