Being called a 'Guy'

I prefer in a restaurant being asked if we are ready to order. No need for "guys, girls or folks"which some may not like.
In other situations surely you plural is enough.

I hate being told not to worry about things as there are other more important things going on.
Today I have given some thought to whose bin was blowing down the street and whether the Tesco man would cope in this weather.

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Germanshepherdsmum

I don’t mind ‘guys’ but can’t stand women being called, or calling themselves, ‘girls’.

Or even worse GSM ' girlies' makes me cringe.

When she was well over 80 dh’s old aunt still referred to her bridge-playing cronies of much the same age as ‘the girls’. 😂

I don't mind "guys" but "girls" is just patronizing and twee.

There are more things to worry about than this these days, I don’t really care that much.

Agree guys if fine by me ladies tad patronising.
Can't see any problem.

RosiesMaw

I really feel I have other things to worry me and actually find “guys” preferable to the slightly patronising “ladies”.
But each to their own.
Why do people get so uptight about trivialities?
“Can I get” as opposed to “May I have” for instance , so what?
We’re not all Victor Meldrew clones.
Lighten up, maybe?

I couldn’t agree more 😊
Btw, op, it’s been around for some years. In my own experience 30 years +

I dont mind "guys" at all.
I have spent quite a lot of my life around men, in a working capacity. [that still doesnt sound quite like I want it to sound].
"Guys" suits me fine.

Its slang, no harm done.

Guys has morphed to be gender neutral

In the 1970's my husband had a Californian colleague. He and his wife, who were good friends of ours, referred to us and everyone else as 'Guys'. So it's not new.

I also really like it, all the younger generation in our family use it in an inlusive, affectionate way so used to it out and about. Different generation, different terminology. Preferential to ladies and gents.

Germanshepherdsmum

I don’t mind ‘guys’ but can’t stand women being called, or calling themselves, ‘girls’.

Or even worse GSM ' girlies' makes me cringe.

I don’t mind it at all. Sounds cheery and friendly to me whenever it’s been used and I always feel warmly included by it.
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I really feel I have other things to worry me and actually find “guys” preferable to the slightly patronising “ladies”.
But each to their own.
Why do people get so uptight about trivialities?
“Can I get” as opposed to “May I have” for instance , so what?
We’re not all Victor Meldrew clones.
Lighten up, maybe?

I too detest being called a guy. To me the word is derogatory when used of men and not applicable at all to women.

I am sadly afraid ours is the last generation to feel this way about the word guys when used in sentences like " How are you guys?"

Perhaps it is just the fashion right now and will fade away, as some of the seventies and eighties catch words have done.

Just as a sidenote, one thing I really do hate is 'sick' for good or cool. What do these young people say when they are unwell or vomiting, off sick, or something is in really bad taste which we would describe as sick (i.e. Jimmy Savile). It's a horrible word that I associate with negative things so how on earth did it turn into something so positive?

I don’t mind ‘guys’ but can’t stand women being called, or calling themselves, ‘girls’.

I really don't like guys but it is used all the time by everyone now. If you said in response 'actually, I'm not a guy' you would get a funny eye roll and they'd think you were a grumpy old bag. Sometimes you just have to bite your lip. You won't make any friends or change anything by saying it! It seems to be a substitute for 'people' these days.

As ever, it ain't what you say but the way that you say it. 'Guys' sounds friendly and informal. I even don't mind 'girls' if it's said kindly.
Once at a formal dinner the waitress coming round with the vegetables referred to us as, 'Sir' and 'Dear'. We loved it! It was so funny but intrinsically well meant.

I don’t mind, used to hearing it at work.

I really don’t have a problem with it. I do cringe if I say something to someone and their reply is ‘oh bless’.

I still remember the first time this happened to me - and it was in 1974! I was doing my Health Visitor training and the new Health Education officer (what a title!) came to do a lecture, and called us (all women, age 22 to about 50) 'guys'!!!

I prefer “folks” too. I am not a guy!

Don’t really like Guys but so many people seem to use it nowadays and as Katie59 says, as long as it’s said with a smile …

If it’s a group of ladies I would say “ladies”, a mixed group I would say “folks, but as long as it is said in a cheery way “Guys” is OK