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wildswan16 Thu 26-Oct-23 08:45:18

If it was you in the bathroom - wouldn't you prefer to know sooner rather than later?

Yes, just a word in the ear while the lady of the house is on her own.

Millie22 Thu 26-Oct-23 08:43:32

I think the title of this thread is very apt 😊

JackyB Thu 26-Oct-23 08:35:01

Ask them if they can see you in the kitchen from their bathroom.

Or put net curtains at the kitchen window.

I think I'm rather non-confrontational,

Beechnut Thu 26-Oct-23 07:39:31

Having said that if he looked out from his window he could see me sat up in bed. I do have clothes on though.

Juliet27 Thu 26-Oct-23 07:38:21

I don’t understand why it doesn’t occur to people that they can be seen (relatively clearly) through frosted glass. Maybe I’m just too self conscious or just don’t want to inflict the sight on others!!

Beechnut Thu 26-Oct-23 07:31:44

My neighbour is currently drying himself after his morning shower 🤣

nadateturbe Wed 25-Oct-23 23:18:48

Definitely tell them.

JenniferEccles Wed 25-Oct-23 23:05:41

And not just one pink body in the bathroom but two!!

Seriously though I agree with everyone else that gently telling the neighbours is the right thing to do.
Frosted glass alone is fine during the day but once it’s dark and the bathroom light is on, it’s a different matter.

SpringyChicken Wed 25-Oct-23 22:53:05

I would tell them that the frosted glass is see through when their lights are on. They might like to add a privacy film to the glass.

Doodledog Wed 25-Oct-23 22:44:25

This thread has made me laugh. A sexy fireplace, a regal window and pink bodies traumatising the neighbours grin

Callistemon21 Wed 25-Oct-23 22:16:03

SueDonim

A regal sized window? I’m not the queen, you know! A regular window is more accurate.

Queen SueDonim on her throne 😁

SueDonim Wed 25-Oct-23 22:12:11

A regal sized window? I’m not the queen, you know! A regular window is more accurate.

SueDonim Wed 25-Oct-23 22:11:03

Crumbs. I know no one can see into our ensuite because the window is high up but in our main bathroom, which we use occasionally to have a bath, there’s a regal sized window with frosted glass. I’m now worried I’ve traumatised the neighbours forever! 👀 I don’t like blinds in bathrooms, with all that steam, but I’ll have to think of something now.

Years ago, we had a couple move in next door to us, quiet young people who wouldn’t say boo to a goose. However, they had a very exciting sex life, the sounds of which would emanate from our fireplace!! The chap worked shifts so it wasn’t a strict nighttime activity and a few times I had to either turn the TV up loud or chivvy my two small kids into the kitchen if I wanted to avoid awkward questions while Blue Peter was on. 😂

The problem was solved when we moved - to a detached house. grin

Callistemon21 Wed 25-Oct-23 20:52:26

Oh dear, I remember a neighbour telling me she could glance out of a bedroom window and see another neighbour in the house below her going to the loo. She didnt really know the other neighbour well so said nothing.

I would suggest to them that they fit a blind.

Theexwife Wed 25-Oct-23 20:23:07

I would want to know if it were me, wouldn't you?

Squiffy Wed 25-Oct-23 20:21:00

Yes, do tell them! The new neighbour, who moved in opposite my house, could clearly be seen when she was in her bathroom when the light was on. I popped a note through her door, welcoming her to the road and letting her know about being able to see in. She had no idea and was very grateful.

Marydoll Wed 25-Oct-23 20:10:45

My neighbour across the road never used to feel the cold and once the children left home would often walk about naked.
After weeks seeing him through the new frosted glass front door, everytime he put the light on in the porch to go into the cupboard, I eventually told his wife, my friend. 😚
For a while I found it very difficult to look at him, without that image popping into my head! 🤣

AGAA4 Wed 25-Oct-23 19:54:23

Don't let this go on any longer. Let them know. A young woman whose bathroom was opposite our dining room was very grateful when we told her we could see in when her light was on. Our next door neighbour would have been able to as well and knowing him he'd have had his binoculars trained on her window.

RosiesMaw Wed 25-Oct-23 19:53:02

Years and years ago I looked out of the back of our first floor flat and saw what I thought was a young man doing some sort of gymnastics at his window. blushblush[blush when I realised he was getting undressed.
I'd tip them off PDQ

FannyD Wed 25-Oct-23 19:32:16

Many years ago, when I was a teenager, my parents were told by the people whose back garden adjoined ours at the bottom end that they could see into our bathroom, even though though both gardens were long. We had frosted glass but no curtain or blind, and the neighbour said she could tell whether it was me or my brother she could see! We were all mortified, but very grateful, and I used the bathroom in the dark until dad put up a blind! DO tell them, Boheminan.

M0nica Wed 25-Oct-23 19:18:38

Tell them. They can then fit a blind.

BlueBelle Wed 25-Oct-23 19:09:23

I think in fairness to them I would just drop it in with a conversation fairly casually that way it won’t seem so personal or embarrassing
If it was the other way round would you rather know ?

GrannyGravy13 Wed 25-Oct-23 19:06:48

I had a similar dilemma with my neighbours over the road, I told her and she was extremely grateful (we live on a main road)

boheminan Wed 25-Oct-23 19:02:11

I live in a terrace house. My neighbours have a new extension out the back that overlooks my kitchen. They've lived there for 15 years, are very quiet, keep themselves to themselves. But I found out their extension is a bathroom/toilet, so every evening they use the shower/toilet with light on but the window, although patterned glass can be seen through clearly - if anyone's in my kitchen they see a pink body (sometimes two) through their window. I tend to ignore it.

I've agonised over whether I should say something, drop them a note, but on asking 3 friends for advice 2 said I should keep quiet as the couple would be horrified (what you don't know won't hurt you) the other friend thought I should say something.

It's a block of terraces, so I think others may see them as well.

So, dear Gransnetter, what would YOU do? confused