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Curling Mon 30-Oct-23 16:35:47

I have joined FB and successfully sold a few items through Marketplace, joining the relevant groups for the items I sold.

I did set my privacy levels the best I could, as to only be seen on the for sale groups I joined, with my profile low key and only for the Marketplace potential buyers to contact me.

I joined with an email address I only used for Facebook.

Not only did I get Facebook bombarding me with friend suggestions of people I know in person, real life friends, but also many who I have no connection with.

I was surprised to find that although I set my privacy levels, a friend of mine found my profile and sent me a funny joke....All I wanted was to sell stuff and be contacted by potential buyers only.

Is there a way of totally hiding my profile from all and not appearing on anyone's friends suggestions? I simply want to sell items, without friends contacting me when I see them in person anyway.

Theexwife Mon 30-Oct-23 16:49:24

Other people that are in groups you are in, marketplace, can see your profile.

BlueBelle Mon 30-Oct-23 17:22:05

If you are selling items on marketplace yes everyone in that group will see your profile so obviously your ‘friend’ would see your profile if she/ he is in that particular group
If people couldn’t see it they wouldn’t be able to contact you to buy your goods If you hid your profile you couldnt make any sales

You can remove the friend requests quite easily and you can keep your profile info to the limit ie school.. zero info, work place…. zero info, etc etc but can you hide it completely ….no

Curling Mon 30-Oct-23 18:05:04

The issue is, my friends are not in the Marketplace groups I am in.

Theexwife Mon 30-Oct-23 18:08:23

I have just looked it up, everyone within a 100-mile radius can see your profile if you are on marketplace, they do not have to be in the marketplace group.

maddyone Mon 30-Oct-23 18:25:13

I’m not on Marketplace on Facebook, but I do look at the items for sale. I’ve not joined any Marketplace groups. However everyone on Facebook will receive ‘friend suggestions’ but you just ignore them. If someone has applied to be your friend simply refuse if you don’t want them.

Ailidh Mon 30-Oct-23 18:37:31

Facebook seems to be able to make very hidden connections.

The other day it offered me "Jane"(not her real name) as a Someone You May Know. Never met her in my life before but, from her profile pictures, her current partner is my ex. We weren't married but we were together for a couple of years.

He and I never had a joint Facebook presence (duh, that should have been a redder flag than it was.....😳) but we had email and text and phonecall links, and I presume it's because of them that they've offered her to me as a friend. Weird, and faintly unnerving.

RosiesMaw Mon 30-Oct-23 21:53:00

Spooky!

Theexwife Mon 30-Oct-23 22:06:05

Do you have any friends or family in common with your ex? if so then that would be the connection.

Ali08 Tue 31-Oct-23 12:08:35

Fb does make me laugh, quite sarcastically!
We are not supposed to send friend requests to people we don't actually know, but they readily advertise people we don't actually know while saying 'people you might know' or 'people you have something in common with'!!
One rule for us....

ExaltedWombat Thu 02-Nov-23 11:33:48

Just ignore the friend requests if you don’t want to participate in the social side of Facebook.

Sawsage2 Thu 02-Nov-23 11:36:07

I get loads of friend requests every day from people I dont know. I just delete them all.

Blinko Thu 02-Nov-23 11:47:24

These ‘people you may know’ are often friends of friends. Though there seem to be a few random ones thrown in, courtesy of fb.

EEJit Thu 02-Nov-23 11:50:27

There is no such thing as privacy on FB.

jocork Thu 02-Nov-23 11:50:36

I regularly have my ex H and his current partner appearing in 'people you may know'! The first time it happened I found it amusing but now it is just irritating. Also people I've deleted as friends or who have deleted me keep popping up! I generally ignore as I'm not looking for new friends and if I want to find someone I do my own searches.

MayBee70 Thu 02-Nov-23 13:03:53

Having got into many ding dong battles with complete strangers on Facebook ( current one is about vaping ) I’ve realised how empowering it is to just block someone!

Vintagegirl Thu 02-Nov-23 13:12:48

I have a made up name and details on FB and use a defunct email account. I hate it but find it useful to follow interest groups.

Skydancer Thu 02-Nov-23 13:18:40

I agree with Vintagegirl. If you set up another email address and then go under a false name on FB you can avoid a lot of this. I am the same as you - I want only to sell on Marketplace and look at interest groups and have no interest in any "friends" or anything else. So I list under a fake profile and nobody knows me. However I constantly get bombarded with friend requests - and, disturbingly, some of them I actually DO know ... so goodness knows how FB has picked that up.

Paperbackwriter Thu 02-Nov-23 13:29:45

Maybe use Vinted or eBay instead!

I rather like Facebook and have made several real-life friends through it. I long ago gave up arguing with political numpties so it's all very relaxed. Privacy isn't a big issue for me but having said that, by using FB at all, for whatever reason, you have accepted their terms and conditions. You are using them for your own purposes - they are sure to want the favour returned, however private you think you're being.

maddyone Thu 02-Nov-23 14:50:05

MayBee70

Having got into many ding dong battles with complete strangers on Facebook ( current one is about vaping ) I’ve realised how empowering it is to just block someone!

Why do you bother getting into ding dong battles with people you don’t know Maybee?
I’ve set my privacy settings so that no one I don’t know can communicate with me, and even if it was possible, I’d block them.

MayBee70 Thu 02-Nov-23 15:12:05

I just wanted to point out on the vaping thread that it could potentially be dangerous as I feel that people did need to know that vaping wasn’t risk free. Most people on Facebook are lovely.

maddyone Thu 02-Nov-23 15:14:12

Well that’s true and fair enough Maybee. Vaping is dangerous. I have to add I’ve not seen anything on Facebook about vaping.

Maremia Fri 03-Nov-23 15:54:10

I suspect that Facebook sends out friend suggestions, without the people 'on offer' knowing anything about it. Just delete or decline, and check your own privacy settings.

Bluedaisy Thu 09-Nov-23 14:55:30

I’m same as vintage girl. I’ve made up a name, no other details and don’t accept friends purely so I could join the craft groups I want to participate in.