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Bows in tiny baby girls' heads .....

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Luckygirl3 Sun 10-Dec-23 09:44:11

Am I just becoming a crabby old git or are these bows ridiculous?

Some of them are huge.

Why should a tiny baby have to tolerate a band round their heads? It needs to be quite tight to keep it on and that cannot be comfortable. And you see pics of babies lying in their cribs with them on - it only needs the baby to wriggle around and the band slip round their neck for a danger to be created.

Is it just me ........ ?

TiggyW Mon 11-Dec-23 22:03:07

I don’t like bows on babies - they look ridiculous! Definitely dangerous too. 😕
I also remember seeing a baby, maybe about 12 months old, wearing bracelets and pierced earrings. 🙄 Again - dangerous! Let them be babies!

Gwenisgreat Mon 11-Dec-23 20:58:02

I think babies look stupid with them on, I hadn't realised they are dangerous too, another reason why they shouldn't be forced to wear them!

Sennelier1 Mon 11-Dec-23 20:37:05

I agree these bows shouldn't be left on when the baby is napping/sleeping. If you must, then do so for pictures or on an outing when baby is awake and/or under permanent surveillance. Do I like seeing bows on tiny infants? No. But I got to choose what I did when my girl was a baby, now new parents have that same choice. None of my business. But again, I do hope they keep their child safe.

NotSpaghetti Mon 11-Dec-23 20:21:51

StillNotGinger

If bows are not your thing, then maybe BABY WIGS would be better?

I love the knitted/crochet "hat" sort! 🤣

Casdon Mon 11-Dec-23 20:21:14

Cressida

I have often wondered why prams/pushchairs need fur trim around the hoods!

Probably the same reason as lace trim was fashionable on pram hoods at one time, and people used those hideous broderie anglaise lacy parasols on their pushchairs - just fashion.

Cressida Mon 11-Dec-23 20:13:18

I have often wondered why prams/pushchairs need fur trim around the hoods!

Grams2five Mon 11-Dec-23 20:00:48

I. Think this is. Mind your own business situation 😆. My granddaughters have all worn them and they seem not to have been bothered by them at all and the ones my current baby granddaughter wears don’t leave any sort of marks or things that make one think they’re uncomfortable. Babies are pretty good at letting you know it when they are. ;)

Lucyd Mon 11-Dec-23 19:49:15

I was told by a friend who works in early years that health visitors warn against them because they can slip down and asphyxiate the baby. Why risk it? I think they look horrible anyway and as for pierced ears on babies... My son and dil were horrified when dad's other Gran wanted to rake her to get her ears pierced when she was a few weeks old. I have known several nursery age children covered in blood and in floods of tears when their earrings have caught on something.

Muffintops Mon 11-Dec-23 19:35:06

And cruel to make a poor child resemble an Easter egg

Dianehillbilly1957 Mon 11-Dec-23 19:28:38

I believe I read a warning very recently about these, advising parents not to put these on a baby. Reason being is that the skull is still developing and they compress the bone stopping development of the skull. Plus they look stupid 😭

suenanny Mon 11-Dec-23 19:21:12

No, it is not just you. I think that they are awful. Bonnets were definitely used to keep the sun off. I have read that putting a band around a baby's head is dangerous and putting pressure on their brain. Why would you do that?

Rosie51 Mon 11-Dec-23 18:15:55

I agree Dickens my eldest boy with blond curls was often mistaken for a girl, even when he was dressed in typical boy's clothing. I never minded, but some do seem to.

Rosie51 Mon 11-Dec-23 18:12:26

In my experience, new mothers become very offended indeed if you say, "oh what a lovely little girl" and the child is a boy or "oh what a lovely little boy" and the child is a girl!

And asking if the baby is a son or daughter invariable provokes the offended response, "Can't you see she is a girl orhe is a boy." "no dear, I can't - I wouldn't have asked if I could."

What often works for me if in doubt is "Oh aren't you lovely, and what is your name?" Mum answers of course since the infant can't and most of the time the name is a giveaway. Names used by both sexes can bring that conversation to an end pretty quickly 🤣

Dickens Mon 11-Dec-23 18:10:14

In my experience, new mothers become very offended indeed if you say, "oh what a lovely little girl" and the child is a boy or "oh what a lovely little boy" and the child is a girl!

My son was frequently mistaken for a girl until he was of toddling age - it was in the 70s when longish hair on men was fashionable.

I most certainly did not take offence! A complete stranger smiling sweetly at my baby but getting the sex wrong - what on earth is there to be offended about!

Greciangirl Mon 11-Dec-23 18:01:35

I have always thought those bows look stupid and ridiculous.

It’s a form of showing of on the mother’s part.

I doubt fathers would even think about putting one on their baby’s head.

Another bugbear is babies with pierced ears.

ileea Mon 11-Dec-23 16:12:45

My granddaughters both wear bows/headbands and they are quite soft and stretchy and don't put pressure on their heads. Both my granddaughters wore them as infants otherwise they were mistaken as boys.

Davisuz Mon 11-Dec-23 16:05:39

I so agree with that! So cold and uncomfortable - I like babies to look like babies.

Alison333 Mon 11-Dec-23 16:03:37

I'm a crabby old git too because I agree! Most of the babies wearing them don't have much in the way of hair so why do they even need to wear a hairband?

Also dangerous and aren't baby's heads still soft on top? A tight hairband pressing down can't be good!

grandtanteJE65 Mon 11-Dec-23 16:01:20

Grandma70s

I assume the bows are to show the baby is a girl, not a boy. Still not necessary.

Actually some indication of the sex is a very good idea with infants. After all, we can't go around taking off their nappies!

And honestly it is hard to see whther the infant you are looking at is male or female, now that new mothers don't either colour-code (blue for a boy, pink for a girl, except in Belgium where it was the other way around,) or put little boys into bonnets which came to a point in the middle of their foreheads, while little girls wore bonnets without a peak.

In my experience, new mothers become very offended indeed if you say, "oh what a lovely little girl" and the child is a boy or "oh what a lovely little boy" and the child is a girl!

And asking if the baby is a son or daughter invariable provokes the offended response, "Can't you see she is a girl orhe is a boy." "no dear, I can't - I wouldn't have asked if I could."

So I am all for some or other distinguishing sign.

JdotJ Mon 11-Dec-23 15:13:56

I'm not a fan but as others have said, everything is of a time.
I'm more crabby about young children/babies with earrings.
Luckily it's not seen so much now on young children, it was quite "a thing" at one time.

HelterSkelter1 Mon 11-Dec-23 14:59:07

I wish parents would put warm hats on babies in cold winds. And also not push babies into direct bright/hot sunshine usually when on their flippin phones.

Milest0ne Mon 11-Dec-23 14:53:18

It is the pierced ears that often accompany bows that I don't like , but then I cringe to see tattoos on their parents. It is difficult to keep my mouth shut when my GD gets another tattoo

Mallin Mon 11-Dec-23 14:52:27

Some babies look rediculous with bows, others look cute. Shame though, that most mothers can’t see what others see

Seagull72 Mon 11-Dec-23 14:41:28

Agree ridiculous. Also piercing young children’s ears which should be banned.

Nannashirlz Mon 11-Dec-23 14:27:40

lol it’s a style of fashion for little girls of now my granddaughter had some beautiful ones when she kept them on. I’ve photos of me wearing a huge bonnet if it slipped down no doubt I could have been strangled but I wasn’t and no doubt older ppl would have said something similar to what you are saying now about my bonnet lol if you feel that strongly next time you see a baby with one on I suggest you go tell its mum your views I’m sure she’ll will tell where to go