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AGAA4 Thu 14-Dec-23 19:39:05

I've always driven a manual but want an automatic now as I find constantly changing gear makes my sore hip worse.
Good luck with your automatic. All those I know who drive them tell me how easy they are to drive.

Margiknot Thu 14-Dec-23 19:29:56

Little steps at a time. Don’t try to do too much at once. Get used to the controls before you try to drive the new car. Then perhaps a short trip.
Try not to get too worried about driving the new car- you’ll probably find the automatic gears will be surprisingly easy ( a bit like driving a dodgem car as a child - select drive ( or reverse) and use to accelerator pedal to go- )the car does the rest.

crazyH Thu 14-Dec-23 18:59:56

I can only drive an automatic - failed 4 times on a manual😂

Cabbie21 Thu 14-Dec-23 18:48:52

When I broke a bone in my hand recently I could have got back to driving sooner with an automatic so I think it is a good idea.

Greyduster Thu 14-Dec-23 18:28:33

I had to adapt to driving again last year when DH couldn’t. I’d never driven our automatic. It took me three turns round the estate and I wondered why I had ever worried about it. The only thing that phased me was the absence of a handbrake! I changed it for a smaller car, but still automatic. I wouldn’t go back to manual now. I still have confidence issues but they are improving. Take everything in bite sized pieces and you'll be fine.

CanadianGran Thu 14-Dec-23 18:22:45

KiwiQueen, glad you are feeling better and able to get out now. As for the new car, take several small trips to get used to all the controls. Figure out the wipers, lights, signals, defrosters, etc.

I got a new car in August, and still refer to the manual once in a while. By making small trips you will become more familiar with it, and gain confidence. Go for a drive just for the sake of it, don't wait until you need to get into an appointment in town.

GrannySomerset Thu 14-Dec-23 18:18:14

I adapted to an automatic in half an hour, DHD1 took ten minutes - having resisted one for years I loved mine from the test drive on, and would never want to drive a manual now.

Stansgran Thu 14-Dec-23 18:14:28

Anthem = and then

Stansgran Thu 14-Dec-23 18:13:50

I took a while to get used to it and I must admit there are still too many clever things on it that I’m sure I will never use. This car can park itself but neither of us have tried it although the car itself points out parking spaces. As I have a sloping drive anthem a sloping road which turns into a slope up or down its hill starting stopping is very pleasing. It also puts on the brake for me when I get home which is kind. For the first year I wanted to change gear a lot . I wish I’d booked a few lessons with a driving school now but I’m comfortable at the moment.

silverlining48 Thu 14-Dec-23 18:05:17

Definitely cabbie. I had a new left hip but because I had an automatic car I was able to drive quite quickly after the procedure instead of waiting weeks.

Cabbie21 Thu 14-Dec-23 17:47:42

What encouraging responses.
I think my next car ought to be an automatic and also a hybrid. Big step to take.

Gwyllt Thu 14-Dec-23 17:45:47

I can empathise with you had two years off the road. It does come back do you know someone who could take your car somewhere quiet at quiet time of day
Just sitting in car and pressing pedals and playing with the controls helps.
From personal perspective I found it easier on own than with someone
What I found hard at first was judging my speed
If I can do it I am sure you can
I had heart op. High dose steroids and two new hips

silverlining48 Thu 14-Dec-23 17:43:18

I love my little automatic fiesta. It didn’t take too long to get used to it and woukdnt go back to manual now.
No more hill starts, what joy. .

polnan Thu 14-Dec-23 14:07:17

oh I would love an automatic.. had one many years back, so not unfamiliar... oh I do hope you enjoy it... getting back to driving etc.

just take it slowly!

shysal Thu 14-Dec-23 13:54:48

When I changed to an automatic I was very anxious, and even considered having a lesson in one. However, I bit the bullet and found that by the time I had left the forecourt I had adapted. As long as you keep your left foot on the floor (or some people sit on it!) you can't go wrong. You will never stall or find yourself in the wrong gear, and hill starts are a doddle.
As for the shopping, going out etc., if you try a small outing at a time to start with I am sure you will be fine.
I wish you well with your continued recovery, you must have been very frustrated! flowers

teabagwoman Thu 14-Dec-23 13:48:43

I’ve been there and felt exactly the same as you; do not beat yourself up for feeling nervous. The advice I was given was to treat it as part of my recovery and take baby steps. I started by just driving round the block. I made my first trip to the supermarket at a time when it would be quiet and only bought one or two items. I felt impatient with myself but I was glad I did it that way. I had no setbacks to dent my confidence again. Wishing you well.

pascal30 Thu 14-Dec-23 13:45:37

I bought an automatic last time and it does take a little while to adjust to but it is somuch easier to drive.. I had to drive it 40 miles back from the dealers having only had a test drive.. I would do a little trip locally first..
I think you'll really like it..

Grandmabatty Thu 14-Dec-23 12:37:35

Download the handbook. Sit in the car and go through the handbook, familiarising yourself with all the bells and whistles of a new car. If you don't understand something, go back to the garage and ask them. I wish I had done that with my car when I bought it four years ago. Happy motoring!

Kiwiqueen123 Thu 14-Dec-23 12:29:26

For the last six weeks I've been at home almost 24/7 the reason being I had a tibial plateau fracture. Luckily it seems if I take things carefully I've avoided surgery. Told to rest, walk for only 20 minutes, no driving because of manual car and see surgeon at beginning of February when hopefully all will be healed. The good news is that we decided to trade in our 10 year old car for a newer one (I'm the only driver, DH has mobility problems) which is slightly higher and will probably be better for us both. Its being delivered tomorrow and is an automatic. I've been out for a test drive which went well.

My problem is that my confidence is at zero, worrying about the new technology I'm going to have to learn with the car, going to the supermarket again, just life in general. This is most unlike me as I normally approach everything head on. Anyone got any tips? I sound really miserable and helpless which is not me at all.