It's not beyond me, GSM, but clearly we are very different people, which is fine - it takes all sorts, as they say. You refer to my views as Utopian, by which I assume you mean that they are based on some sort of pleasure principle? I don't think they are, but I do believe that when citizens are fulfilled, given something to aim for and have a belief that they can attain it (ie are not throttled by a system that prioritises the needs or wants of others) there will be more content, so there will be less crime and less risk of revolution. In turn, that means there is need for fewer restrictions on citizens and more freedom for everyone - things that I value.
If my views are Utopian, does that suggest that yours are Dystopian? Is Dystopia a laudable aim for society?
NotSpaghetti You and your husband may well have been right in the case of your son - I can empathise there from experience with my own family
. All the same, would you rather he had been told that he couldn't go, and on what grounds, assuming he was appropriately qualified and didn't bungle the interview, if there was one? Admissions Officers' hands are tied if someone has the qualifications, as they are vulnerable to accusations of discrimination if they don't accept someone - even if it is very clear that the applicant is going to struggle. Maybe his teachers could have tried to steer him towards a pathway that was more appropriate to him at that stage of his life - or maybe they did.
I think all we can ask is that everyone is given the chance to fulfil their potential - after that it is up to them. In an ideal world, 'university age' might be 35-40 when people have had time to mature, but life gets in the way of that for most people who need to make a living, and may have families to support.