Charity donation for funeral

I would just send what you can afford. For some posters, I'm sure even £50 would be more than they could afford. It's the thought behind your donation that is important.

It’s awkward if the charity is one you disapprove of. I failed to make a donation in memory of a cousin’s late husband and she hasn’t spoken to me since - forty years ago!

I think the gesture of donating is more important than the amount. Give what you feel able to afford.

Its entrely up to you and what you can afford.
I tend to go for £50 for friends, ex- colleagues or neighbours, and for family £100 /200 or more.
I have a Charities Aid Fund account which I pay into every month so there is always a "pot" that I can't use for anything else - not until the Charity Commissioners allow me to claim Seasalt or the John Lewis Partnership as Charities!
If you were to travel and stay overnight eg in a hotel, you would spend much more

Phone her undertakers and ask what Charity it is and what others are donating, one even said I could send them a cheque and they would put it into the donations so no one would know the amount. Another when flowers were being sent asked me how much I wanted to spend gave a range of prices and got a florist to send them for me.

Could you discuss it with the other family members you mention? Donation amounts are always tricky unless there is some kind of guide.

Flowers would cost more than £15 to £20, probably. I would suggest perhaps £40 if you can afford it. Nobody expects you to send more than you can afford.

Think that may be a bit on the low side now ordinarygirl

This is only a suggestion but try to find out what flowers would cost and then donate the financial equivalent. My guess is between £15 and £20 but like you I've not sent flowers for many years.

Is there a nominated charity or do you choose?