Charity donation for funeral

This is only a suggestion but try to find out what flowers would cost and then donate the financial equivalent. My guess is between £15 and £20 but like you I've not sent flowers for many years.

Is there a nominated charity or do you choose?

Think that may be a bit on the low side now ordinarygirl

Could you discuss it with the other family members you mention? Donation amounts are always tricky unless there is some kind of guide.

Flowers would cost more than £15 to £20, probably. I would suggest perhaps £40 if you can afford it. Nobody expects you to send more than you can afford.

Phone her undertakers and ask what Charity it is and what others are donating, one even said I could send them a cheque and they would put it into the donations so no one would know the amount. Another when flowers were being sent asked me how much I wanted to spend gave a range of prices and got a florist to send them for me.

Its entrely up to you and what you can afford.
I tend to go for £50 for friends, ex- colleagues or neighbours, and for family £100 /200 or more.
I have a Charities Aid Fund account which I pay into every month so there is always a "pot" that I can't use for anything else - not until the Charity Commissioners allow me to claim Seasalt or the John Lewis Partnership as Charities!
If you were to travel and stay overnight eg in a hotel, you would spend much more

I think the gesture of donating is more important than the amount. Give what you feel able to afford.

It’s awkward if the charity is one you disapprove of. I failed to make a donation in memory of a cousin’s late husband and she hasn’t spoken to me since - forty years ago!

I would just send what you can afford. For some posters, I'm sure even £50 would be more than they could afford. It's the thought behind your donation that is important.

Give what you can easily afford. It’s your donation and there’s no right or wrong amount.

£50 would be too much for me - about £25 to £30 would be tops. The funeral directors may give the best advice and you needn't say who you are or what connection you have with the deceased.

I agree with Marydoll. When DH died during Covid, we were ‘forced’ to list his charity on Just Giving - so people could donate, but remain anonymous if that’s what they wanted. Donations ranged from £10 to £1000 for a charity related to his illness.

Thank you for your suggestions. My sister is a member of the Woodland Trust and would like a tree planted in his memory.

My first thought was £50, as it is your sister's husband.
But I have learnt that areas vary, families vary, finances vary.

When donations are sent via the funeral director, (they send on the cheques on to the charity after a given period, probably around a month after the funeral), in my recent experience there is a list of donors & the amounts donated. We wanted to send personal thank you notes to those who gave. If others chose to donate directly to the charity, then we wouldn’t know it unless they told us.

I think it's best to send any donation to the charity direct, rather than via the undertaker. It will have a website with all contact details.

We've been to a lot of funerals of friends and people in societies we belong to in the past two years. Usually there is a donation box for charity donations on exit and we put in about £10.
However, for a family member would make a donation in their name to the charity direct of about £50.

It depends, of course what you can afford, it's the thought that counts. A tree is a lovely idea, LittleAnnie.

If I’ve understood the Woodland Trust website correctly, Littleannie, you can dedicate a tree to someone’s memory for a suggested donation of £20 or more, and have a certificate to this effect sent to your sister, so that she knows you have donated, without it saying how much you have given. There is absolutely no need to give more than you are comfortable with, it’s the thought that goes into your donation that matters.

shop.woodlandtrust.org.uk/in-memory?_gl=1*19tcom0*_ga*MTMyMDI4NTYxNC4xNzA1MTg2NDYw*_ga_YYKVQEPV0X*MTcwNTE4NjQ2MC4xLjEuMTcwNTE4NzMwNC41Mi4wLjA.

I do hope the charity selected is forth coming in their thanks. Or that they even receive the money.
Many years ago we asked for donations for the scoliosis society, 150 pounds raised. No acknowledgement from them whatsoever. Never again. Flowers only, and if donations requested, then sorry no.

littleannie I suggest you give what you can afford. My husbands funeral last February raised £1,000 which I gladly gave to the hospital he died in

So sorry littleannie my recent post wantnt meant for you, this stroke business has my head all over the place 🙃

Yes it is for you littleannie

Thank you all for your suggestions, they have been very helpful.

Usually for colleagues, neighbours and acquaintances I would give between £10 and £20. For a close family member I really would not give less than £50. Although of course it depends on your financial circumstances.

It depends on you and your finances, the relationship you had with the deceased. I saw the giving list for a friend and domations went from £5 to way over £100