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Devestated for my DGD

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MissAdventure Tue 05-Mar-24 17:10:35

I don't think it's anything to be devastated about.

Grammaretto Tue 05-Mar-24 16:55:06

I think most young men in their mid twenties would be frightened off by someone who wanted nothing more than to get married and have kids.
Leave her alone 😔 and worry about something else.

My 3 DS were in their 30s or 40s before their babies were born. Their partners were much the same.

AlwaysSmiling Sat 02-Mar-24 21:30:33

My eldest divorced son (when he was in his late 40's) joined a dating app and found the woman of his dreams. I class her as a daughter, she is fantastic and we love her to bits. They bought a gorgeous house together and now travel all over on their holidays.

In my era the 60's, we met our husbands at the dance hall but now things have changed and the dating app seems to be the way to go.

Jaxjacky Sat 02-Mar-24 21:26:58

Perhaps she’s confused about her sexuality missjeanbrodie?

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 02-Mar-24 21:24:03

She is 25 and has never kissed a boy/man? Really? How did you raise her that you now think was too old fashioned?

fancythat Sat 02-Mar-24 21:14:23

Another new poster.
I may need to check things out first.

flappergirl Sat 02-Mar-24 20:49:32

I'm very surprised that most of her friends (assuming they are also mid twenties) have partnered up, moved out and in particular had children so young. Especially if they have a profession. It's extremely unusual in this day and age.

ginny Sat 02-Mar-24 20:23:57

25 is no age at all these days.
She should concentrate on living and enjoying the best life she can and things may happen.
My youngest daughter didn’t meet her husband until she was 30 and now has two lovely boys.
Middle daughter is 43 and has not met ‘the one’ but enjoys life, travelling, going to theatres and perusing other interests ( plus working of course) which she would most likely wouldn’t have time for.

fancythat Sat 02-Mar-24 18:34:52

25 is still young.
If she was 35 that would be a bit of a different matter.

Personally, I would suggest dating apps.
But I may get shot down in flames for that one.
I would suggest she is very selective and careful though.

Again personally, I would not suggest she only focuses on "getting married and having children".
I do know someone who sort of did that.
That maybe what she would like to happen, but is it 40% of people that are single nowadays?

Lollin Sat 02-Mar-24 18:25:48

Sorry but if you are really real then Get over to MN there are many chats about such matters , some are ‘even’ older. It’s not a race and remembering the tortoise and the hare etc I’d say enjoy your life it’s not a question of ticking the boxes like sitting school exams even then some do it much later in life when it suits their self more.

Cossy Sat 02-Mar-24 18:17:45

Oh dear! You sound very caring and so does your DGD!

Please share with her that I didn’t have my last 3 (of 4) child til I got married in my late 30’s, then produced two daughters and a son at 39, 42 & 44. She has so much much time.

Maybe get her to go on some solo (not necessarily singles) holidays and join some social or community clubs. I’m sure she’ll meet someone and one day will make a fabulous mum.

Failing this, she could have a baby alone, or foster??

Whatever happens she’s very lucky to have a grandmother who clearly loves and cares about her very much 😊

missjeanbrodie Sat 02-Mar-24 18:03:45

My DGD loves children, is a primary school teacher and loves every moment in the classroom. There is nothing in the world she has wanted more than to get married and have children since she was a little girl.

At 25 she has never even had a first kiss and is very down about it as most of her closest friends have children, all have moved out— which she can’t get afford to do alone despite careful saving. She is still very young of course but she feels that it will never happen for her, particularly as she watches her younger siblings move out with their partners.

I feel it is just so unfair for her, because she is so very lovely. I took a big part in raising her as my DD is quite troubled and I worry that I’ve raised her to be too old fashioned sad