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Fair2good Thu 07-Mar-24 11:26:02

Last night we watched the film Northern Comfort on Netflix. It’s supposed to be a modern comedy about a group of people on a fear of flying course getting stranded in Iceland. Our granddaughter who is 15 is staying with us, and the film is a 15. I expected the usual raw language that is endemic in everything nowadays, but didn’t expect full frontal male nudes on a character’s phone and to my horror a scene where a man gives another man oral sex watched by his girlfriend. Why are film makers deliberately including perversion sandwiched in a so called comedy film ?
Pornography is just that, it shouldn’t be in a film rated for fifteen years olds. Our young people are being corrupted by people who are morally degenerate. I am cancelling Netflix today.

silverlining48 Thu 07-Mar-24 20:24:39

15 year olds are children and under age. 16 and 17 year olds are
also children. . To be un happy they are exposed to gratuitous pornography so early in their lives is natural. Apparently many see it from the age of 10 - on their smart phones.
Its surely is not a good thing but this horse has already bolted.

petra Thu 07-Mar-24 20:32:22

I think the most sexually charged scene ever was the chess scene in The Thomas Crown Affair between Steve McQueen and Faye Dunaway.
But then I would say that 😊 Steve was meant to be mine 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

M0nica Thu 07-Mar-24 20:42:15

I should not be on this thread. i rarely watch tv and certainly not any of the programmes mentioned.

i have no moral outrage over what was seen but I think what we should ask is what would be public reaction if the people in these explicitly sexual situations were to behave in the same way in the street - and if the behaviour would not be acceptable in the supermarket entrance area, or on the High Street, or on any public highway, , why should it be considered acceptable to show it in our homes through public television services?

As fot saying that teenagers see worse on their phones. They do that mainly because they know that adults do not approve - and there is nothing most teenagers like more than a good dose of adult tutting.

Callistemon21 Thu 07-Mar-24 20:47:48

It should not be either/or, SeaWoozle

It is all unacceptable for children.

Patsy70 Thu 07-Mar-24 22:02:21

Skydancer

Fair2Good I totally agree with you.

So do I. I would feel so uncomfortable watching with my 15 year old granddaughter, and would switch off. Maybe that’s because I’m 76 years old, but I’m certainly no prude. However, I really don’t need this voyeurism portrayed on the TV in my living room!

Callistemon21 Thu 07-Mar-24 22:07:42

It's a form of desensitisation by the programme makers.

Dickens Thu 07-Mar-24 22:18:04

I've thought sometimes that, in a Capitalist world, 'sex ' is frequently just another commodity which sells and therefore also question the motives of script writers, film producers, authors, playwrights, advertisers, you-name-it.

And pornography definitely sells.

If you add to that the frequent objectification of women in all the above and consider the balance of power between males and females in sexual 'politics', I can only come to the conclusion that it is right to question the world of entertainment and its offerings.

TV and the internet are in just about everyone's homes. With the pressing of a few keys and buttons, anyone can watch all kinds of violence, sexual violence and just plain old explicit sex. Then there is the influence of these so-called "influencers" - the very name makes my toes curl.

I'm not sure this is the best way forward in the way children are educated about sex. Teenagers may well be 'clued-up' about sex, but there are still emotions, pitfalls and consequences involved which they have not yet developed the capacity to deal with.

I watched recently a clip from one of those 'talent' shows and saw an audience raving and cheering on a very young girl - aged around nine - singing a song about love and 'longing' in a very polished and professional gravely voice - bumping and grinding provocatively. I found the whole experience deeply depressing.

There is such a short window of childhood before you adopt the mantle of adulthood and I believe the process should be gradual. I think when people talk about the sexualisation of children they are acknowledging that what children and teens are exposed to through the media affects a variety of health behaviours later on. Does a sexualisedd media effecct their behaviour. Girls sending explicit photos of themselves to boys who have demanded them would suggest it does. And how will these boys view women as they mature into adulthood?

I think the OP has a point.

nanna8 Thu 07-Mar-24 22:32:30

On a recent cruise we went to one of their comedy shows in the evening. It was just crude and not funny at all but the young ones seemed to laugh and like it. I have come to the conclusion that the subtle comedy we liked has all but disappeared. Now it seems to concentrate on the shapes of vaginas, ejaculation and multiple partners, male and female. Yawn.

Cadenza123 Thu 07-Mar-24 23:04:11

Callistemon21

It's a form of desensitisation by the programme makers.

Totally agree. It seems to be working too.

Dickens Fri 08-Mar-24 00:22:36

nanna8 and Cadenza123

I agree with you both.

This anaesthetising is, I believe, bad news for women.

Curtaintwitcher Fri 08-Mar-24 06:46:42

If it attracts an audience, this sort of thing will continue to be made. If people switched off and watched the oldies instead, we might get better standards.

Iam64 Fri 08-Mar-24 08:36:21

I suspect most of us don’t watch these awful, cheap reality tv shows
I agree with all the concerns here about the malign influence of pornography. Dare I include the use of ‘drag artists’ in for example reading to children in schools/libraries

M0nica Fri 08-Mar-24 08:37:50

I am not sure that selling sex is limited to capitalism. Sex can be merchanted. and is in every society capitalist or no. It is just done differently.

Various dictators and leaders of ostensibly socialist/communist countries have found ways of making sure that the needs of those in charge, right the way down the hierarchy get what they want, when they want. Kim Jong Un in North Korea, Sadam Hussein, and Col gaddafi in Libya all spring to mind.

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 08:40:05

SeaWoozle

Freya5

Respectfully, the OP is a grown adult, knew this was a 15 film and could easily have done their research BEFORE sitting down to watch it. The internet is awash with honest reviews of films and programmes allowing folk to make informed choices on what to watch.
Especially as she had her grand daughter with her.

Nobody is tricking anyone. The warnings were one click away from the main page. Many people I know, myself AND my children included, research films before watching them and don't just go on the trailers or blurb.

I agree. I repeat again I would not wish to be watching sexually explicit scenes on TV with my children or grandchildren!

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 08:42:31

Iam64

I suspect most of us don’t watch these awful, cheap reality tv shows
I agree with all the concerns here about the malign influence of pornography. Dare I include the use of ‘drag artists’ in for example reading to children in schools/libraries

I think if you go onto the thread about Big Brother you might find quite a few watch “awful, cheap reality TV shows”

As for “dragging” in drag queens in the mantle of “pornography”…. I have no words!

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 08:44:40

silverlining48

15 year olds are children and under age. 16 and 17 year olds are
also children. . To be un happy they are exposed to gratuitous pornography so early in their lives is natural. Apparently many see it from the age of 10 - on their smart phones.
Its surely is not a good thing but this horse has already bolted.

I do get your point, however there’s a HUGE difference between a 10 year old and a 17 year old!

Harris27 Fri 08-Mar-24 08:46:43

I agree gin. I work with 3/4 year olds and even they are ahead with certain things in daily life. ( not sexual) but sometimes their terminology whilst playing and talking disturbs me how much they see and hear even from an early age. I would be mortified sitting watching that type of film with my 16 year old grandaughter.

Iam64 Fri 08-Mar-24 08:49:20

Cossy - my concern links to specific drag queens where enquiries have shown those individuals shouldn’t be around children. Not all

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 08:50:50

SeaWoozle

I appreciate this is digressing slightly, but I'd be more concerned these days about any teens or young children, for that matter, watching content on TikTok. I have some friends who have a young daughter and the times I've gone round to their house and she's been sat watching inappropriate things for a six year old. Young girls in their teens & older with voiceovers of internet "influencers", talking about showing their "booty" to boys etc. THAT'S not acceptable. There are teens all over TikTok, making funny videos, rude videos, inappropriate videos and assumed violent content. As much as I appreciate all the comments made thus far, I think young people are far more at risk from the stuff on these kinds of platforms and the internet itself. Andrew Tate being a prime example of someone I would NOT want influencing any son of mine.

I couldn’t agree more! The amount of very young children who have unmonitored internet access is truly shocking! I’ve known people giving 6 & 7 year olds tablets and leaving them to it! Very very dangerous, in my opinion.

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 08:52:26

Iam64

Cossy - my concern links to specific drag queens where enquiries have shown those individuals shouldn’t be around children. Not all

That’s very different, if any of them have been even suspected of any kind of crime or action against children or adults, no they shouldn’t be doing anything involved with children. I agree.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 08-Mar-24 08:54:07

Fair2good if you felt uncomfortable watching this with your granddaughter why didn’t you turn it off as soon as these scenes appeared?

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 09:01:23

Allsorts

I agree with the poster and don’t agree with a lot of what others consider ordinary life for most teen ages and certainly don’t agree with normalising anal sex. Thing a lot agree just to be down there with the kids which they can’t be,
If they lower the bar any more we will all be in the gutter.

I think your comment about “normalising anal sex” is homophobic and plenty of couples of all types do choose to participate in it.

Why would you care what happens between consenting adults of either sex?

I absolutely get you don’t want to watch it on TV or anywhere else.

Do you feel the way about same sex kissing etc ?

Galaxy Fri 08-Mar-24 09:07:36

How is it homophobic if all sexes do it. There is lots of information about young girls being pressurised into anal sex because it is a key part of porn. There was an investigation a while back about injuries at a and e amongst young girls relating to this issue.

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 09:07:57

Dickens

I've thought sometimes that, in a Capitalist world, 'sex ' is frequently just another commodity which sells and therefore also question the motives of script writers, film producers, authors, playwrights, advertisers, you-name-it.

And pornography definitely sells.

If you add to that the frequent objectification of women in all the above and consider the balance of power between males and females in sexual 'politics', I can only come to the conclusion that it is right to question the world of entertainment and its offerings.

TV and the internet are in just about everyone's homes. With the pressing of a few keys and buttons, anyone can watch all kinds of violence, sexual violence and just plain old explicit sex. Then there is the influence of these so-called "influencers" - the very name makes my toes curl.

I'm not sure this is the best way forward in the way children are educated about sex. Teenagers may well be 'clued-up' about sex, but there are still emotions, pitfalls and consequences involved which they have not yet developed the capacity to deal with.

I watched recently a clip from one of those 'talent' shows and saw an audience raving and cheering on a very young girl - aged around nine - singing a song about love and 'longing' in a very polished and professional gravely voice - bumping and grinding provocatively. I found the whole experience deeply depressing.

There is such a short window of childhood before you adopt the mantle of adulthood and I believe the process should be gradual. I think when people talk about the sexualisation of children they are acknowledging that what children and teens are exposed to through the media affects a variety of health behaviours later on. Does a sexualisedd media effecct their behaviour. Girls sending explicit photos of themselves to boys who have demanded them would suggest it does. And how will these boys view women as they mature into adulthood?

I think the OP has a point.

I do agree with many of your points, but I think parents should play a huge role with their sons, explaining that females are more than their looks and objects of sex and are to be respected, and to their daughters around consent and not feeling pressurised. To all children about safe sex and sex not being a commodity but a part of a living relationship.

However, sex has been a commodity since the year dot, it’s just so much more blatant now and I’m not suggesting that’s a good thing.

Cossy Fri 08-Mar-24 09:10:03

Galaxy

How is it homophobic if all sexes do it. There is lots of information about young girls being pressurised into anal sex because it is a key part of porn. There was an investigation a while back about injuries at a and e amongst young girls relating to this issue.

I’m talking specifically about your comment about “normalising” it, for many people this is normal and clearly it’s the way in which gay men primarily enjoy the act of sex together.

I’m against any girl or boy being pressurised into having sex of any kind.