Do you read people's calendars and cards?

I have, as do most Dutch people, a calendar in the toilet so most people can’t help but read it. It doesn’t bother me, the same with cards, go ahead but I don’t do it in other people’s houses, not even in my kids houses unless I’m invited to do so. My eldest has a calendar in her toilet too so we can see what she has on.

I always have, but people have never said anything. I don’t visit other people these days so maybe it’s just as well, I didn’t realise it was considered rude or intrusive. But I am on the spectrum perhaps that’s why.

Definitely not!

Cards - not unless invited to. Calendar - of course - it is on display.

Not my circus, not my monkeys. I even gave my children their birthday cards to open, when they were one year old and could not read, and then we read them together. I know a couple of people who specifically ask to use the toilet so they can check out the medicine chest. I would never rat on them, but I don't trust them.

No, to me this is just as wrong as reading their letters, e-mails or listening to their half of a telephone conversatio.

No. I used to read cards out of habit, because my Mum used to. Then I became uncomfortable when she read one I'd sent to my husband & realised I shouldn't be doing it. Don't think I've ever read anyone's calendar.

Certainly not, rather rude in my opinion. What a nosey poke you are.

I might read family birthday cards and we all read the letters that come with Xmas cards, outside the family no and certainly not diaries.
I once commented on a beautiful Xmas card only to find it was from a lady that my friend thought her husband was much to interested in, that stopped me!

One friend has her calendar in the kitchen and opens her mail and leaves the bills, appointments etc beneath it, probably to enter stuff later.

Another friend and I had been invited for coffee and cake and she thought nothing of perusing that month’s reminders of birthdays, anniversaries, medical appointments etc. She then proceeded to flick through the opened mail while our hostess fetched a parcel delivery from Evri!

When I remonstrated with her, she told me that anything left in view was fair game 😱 - she hasn’t been invited to my house since.

Goodness no I wouldn’t dream of looking inside a card that wasn’t sent to me. Or read what is written on other peoples calendars why would I.

Where does the idea come from that anything in someone else's house is fair game? I like to display cards (what else would you do with them?) but I don't see them as public property. Of course people can see the fronts, so saying 'what a lovely card' or similar is fine, but reading the messages inside is a step or three too far for me.

Wall calendars are for others in the house to know what people are doing, but not for visitors to look at appointments, and commenting on them is outrageous, IMO. It just wouldn't occur to me to do it. I mean, who needs to know that their neighbour is getting their haemorrhoids sorted out on Tuesday?

We're all different, I suppose.

Calendars are on display yes but not for other people to read surely it’s for the family that live there. One of my big bug bearers are nosey people can’t abide them

It’s private! I wouldn’t dream of poking about in other people’s business.

We used to hang our Christmas cards over the fireplace so my daughter wouldn't pull them down and one evening my mil was babysitting while my husband and I went out. We got an urgent call to come home by my fil and found that my mil had dragged a chair over to the fire to try and read our cards and had fallen into the fireplace!! She wasn't hurt but was very embarrassed getting caught trying to read the cards!!

I wouldn't read other peoples cards...and definitely not calendars...nor would I snoop in other peoples bedrooms,
I had a friend and her husband visit one day...he went upstairs to the toilet, and shouted down to his wife to come up and have a look at the bedroom...very rude...

No, I wouldn't look at the calendar or cards.

pably15

I wouldn't read other peoples cards...and definitely not calendars...nor would I snoop in other peoples bedrooms,
I had a friend and her husband visit one day...he went upstairs to the toilet, and shouted down to his wife to come up and have a look at the bedroom...very rude...

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Was he ever invited back? How could he think that was ok?

Oooh! I have to, they are too tempting!!! If you don’t want them read, put them away! I am amazed I am in such a minority! Where is the harm? It’s just idle curiosity I suppose!

In a word NO

Bluesmum

Oooh! I have to, they are too tempting!!! If you don’t want them read, put them away! I am amazed I am in such a minority! Where is the harm? It’s just idle curiosity I suppose!

The sort of people who come into my house wouldn’t dream snooping like this. You certainly wouldn’t be receiving an invitation Bluesmum. Don’t you understand that it’s rude?

Definitely cards…..if they’re on show…who the heck puts anything you wouldn’t want to read in a card?
Calendar ….no , unless requested to.
My daughter glances at my written calendar on passing ….just to say “ crikey, you’ve got a busier schedule than me”

I don't read the calendars but I have looked at cards occasionally, never thought about it being intrusive before.

I was a bit freaked out once, when mentioning to a friend about a future engagement I was booked with, and she told me the date. Six months in advance. She honestly couldn’t see what was wrong with going through my calendar. I started calling her my PA but also started withdrawing from our friendship.

My late M i L did exactly the same as yours Doodledog, commented on my doctors appointment and asked what was the matter! I was mortified! Would never read someone’s calendar but maybe peek at family cards 😁