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Do you read people's calendars and cards?

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Doodledog Sun 17-Mar-24 14:17:15

Just that, really grin. If you are visiting someone who has a calendar with days filled in, or cards on the mantelpiece do you see it as ok to have a look, or do you see them as private?

dogsmother Sun 17-Mar-24 17:51:10

It really irritates me when anyone does this, but a lot do. Thing is if you put them on display I suppose it’s fair game but I get very irritated as I said when some do.

MissInterpreted Sun 17-Mar-24 17:52:54

Well, I confess to looking at them - if they're out on display, they're fair game as far as I'm concerned.

Shinamae Sun 17-Mar-24 17:54:58

I wouldn’t be the slightest bit interested in looking at somebody else’s calendar. I barely remember to look at my own! 🫣

Pantglas2 Sun 17-Mar-24 18:05:02

I don’t read other folks calendars or cards without invitation.

My diary with all appointments is in my handbag at all times and although cards are on the mantelpiece I wouldn’t expect anyone to just pick them up and read the greeting inside. (especially not Mr PGs anniversary ones, he’s been known to make some racy comments 😉)

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 17-Mar-24 18:16:54

Our calendar is in the hall. I don’t mind if people read what’s written on it. It was my 70th last year and many visitors read the messages on my birthday cards. I didn’t mind a bit. All these things were/are on display.

Sago Sun 17-Mar-24 18:23:49

No, when my mother used to come and stay she would read any cards, letters, anything not locked away.
I once went out and left her in my home alone, on my return she asked me how I knew a certain person, I asked why she wanted to know, she said she had read through our address book and couldn’t work out how we would have met this person!
No shame.

Cossy Sun 17-Mar-24 18:27:02

Yes, at family and very close friends houses I have been known to!

Never as a professional in someone’s home nor in those peoples homes I have known well for years and years.

I certainly wouldn’t open cupboards and drawers and have a good poke around though grin

NotSpaghetti Sun 17-Mar-24 18:31:14

Cards of family on display I'd ask if I could look.

My own children have been known to look at my cards too. They are often hand made so I suppose invite looking at.

I don't look at calendars though!

dragonfly46 Sun 17-Mar-24 18:31:29

I find it depends who it is. Friends and acquaintances no never. Sometimes with family I might.

Doodledog Sun 17-Mar-24 18:58:05

Galaxy

No.
My mum often shows me her cards.
I used to have a friend who when in someones house, if she went upstairs to the loo, would go round all the rooms upstairs and have a look in.

I know people who would love to do this. My friend's sister is one of them - she always comments on things she's seen in other people's houses, and when asked how she knows she'll say 'Oh, I saw it when I went to the loo - the bedroom door was open' and the wardrobe door, and the drawer inside it, no doubt. She's only been here once, when I was dropped off on the way back from a group outing, and she asked to come in to use the bathroom. She was visibly disappointed when I told her there was a loo downstairs grin

flappergirl Sun 17-Mar-24 19:57:38

Good grief no. Who on earth picks up cards or scrutinises someone else's calendar. I would only do so if invited to read them or under exceptional circumstances, an example of which escapes me.

crazyH Sun 17-Mar-24 20:04:46

No, never , although my nosey neighbour can never leave my cards alone. And if my mail is still on the mat, she’ll pick them up and have a good look 👀

fancythat Sun 17-Mar-24 20:08:17

Private.

I dont even want to, even when I am invited to, generally.
I dont care enough!

Hetty58 Sun 17-Mar-24 20:13:47

I don't put cards on display - tend to bin them. I don't have a calendar or diary either - just reminders on my phone. A certain family member (female) would look around and ask where my calendar was - even bought me one after I said I don't use them. She certainly would have read it, but then, she's nosy. Another infuriating habit of hers was to ring the doorbell - then immediately peer through the letterbox - until I fitted a draught excluder (just to stop her doing it).

Cabbie21 Sun 17-Mar-24 20:17:03

I might do at my daughter’s but she actively encourages me to. I don’t mind close family looking at my cards on display. If there were any private messages in them I would not put them on display. I wouldn’t dream of looking at things like that in a friend’s house though.

Doodledog Sun 17-Mar-24 20:52:25

I can't remember the last card I got that had a private message in it grin. All the same, you never know, do you wink.

We both use our phones for appointments etc, but have a calendar for things we might both need to know, so my doc's appointment was on there so that Mr D didn't arrange for us both to be doing something at the time. It was just about iron levels, so nothing too personal, but again, it could have been anything. My mum would have fainted if I told her it was because I am pregnant with triplets. . .

Bridgeit Sun 17-Mar-24 21:06:53

Definitely Private.

Galaxy Sun 17-Mar-24 21:12:07

Next time she is due round just put a list of bogus appointments, sexual health clinic, gamblers anonymous, Scientologist AGM, etc smile

Mel1967 Sun 17-Mar-24 21:16:58

Yes, I would

flappergirl Sun 17-Mar-24 21:27:27

Mel1967

Yes, I would

What are you like Mell.

Purplepixie Mon 18-Mar-24 03:36:08

Never, because they are personal and private and I wouldn’t like it done to me.

annifrance Mon 18-Mar-24 11:37:45

No

Megslotts Mon 18-Mar-24 11:38:52

Theexwife

No, I wouldn’t , although they may be on show I still see it as private.

I know someone who puts fictitious events on her calendar incase people look and say they can see she is free on a certain day for childcare.

Well that's clever grin

OurKid1 Mon 18-Mar-24 11:40:33

Absolutely not. Having said that I visit an elderly lady who has early dementia, so I will often ask her if I can check her calendar (which her daughter writes on) in case she needs a reminder of appointments. She does take a great deal of pleasure in sharing her cards with me though. So ... I guess, although I said not, it does depend on the circumstances.

RosiesMaw Mon 18-Mar-24 11:45:44

Good heavens, no!
How nosey and intrusive is that?