I was a financially strapped SAH mum of 2 small boys when my mother presented me with 3 cake forks. Cake was an unaffordable luxury. The same Christmas my 2 small boys got 'grown up' trousers as their present, outside of school they lived in joggers. When my first son was born she gave me a pink babygro. It was 'the only colour the shop had' - apparently. The maternity ward was awash with beautiful floral arrangements, I was given a handful of limp flowers picked from a garden. When second son was born, no visit, no flowers, no babygro. Another son, the ultimate disappointment.