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Help! I’m turning into my mother (😂😂)

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Cossy Tue 19-Mar-24 17:02:50

Anyone else turning, or already turned, into their mothers?

I some times look into the mirror and see her looking back (very scary) but it’s when I use her many used expressions or tones that I know I’m turning into her!

She was a very plain speaking, to the point lady and one of her favoured expressions was “I cannot be doing with…..” I use this a lot now. Her second favourite was “you just have to get on with it” and “lots of people are much worse of than us”

She was very kind hearted, and generous and loving but “she didn’t suffer fools gladly”

I miss her flowers

MissInterpreted Sun 24-Mar-24 12:27:59

Happygirl79

It's the biggest compliment to say we look like our mother's. What could be better?

No it's not - not always. For those of us who didn't have a good relationship with our mothers, the last thing we want - or need - is to be reminded of that every time we look in the mirror.

Callistemon21 Sat 23-Mar-24 23:20:07

M0nica

Happygirl79

It's the biggest compliment to say we look like our mother's. What could be better?

What about our fathers?

I look like my father.

However, I realise I often sound like my mother; she was the Queen of Proverbs, a saying for every occasion. 🙂

M0nica Sat 23-Mar-24 22:28:25

Happygirl79

It's the biggest compliment to say we look like our mother's. What could be better?

What about our fathers?

Happygirl79 Sat 23-Mar-24 22:07:15

It's the biggest compliment to say we look like our mother's. What could be better?

Grandmaofone Sat 23-Mar-24 12:58:57

whenever I had boyfriends, in my mid to late teens, who would be at our house, even just come to call for me, my Mum would tell them, “well John, they say if you want to know how the daughter turns out, look at the mother” girly giggle. I wouln’t see them for dust.

M0nica Sat 23-Mar-24 08:42:01

I am not like my mother in looks or personality and would not wish to be, but it doesn't follow that I did not love her for everything she was.

I have to thank her for her understated belief in the importance of education and feminism, and her casual assumption that her three daughters could be anything they wanted to be, and that marriage and children need not restrict a woman from being what she wanted to be.

None of those are things that are visibly obvious in any way. But they are there.

Sasta Fri 22-Mar-24 17:53:21

Sasta

I look like my mum, and am becoming more and more like her. My daughter says it’s like being with her nan sometimes as I also sound like her, now she says she’s turning into me 😳.

The pictorial jokes are on us, as both my daughter and I take after my mum, and we’re happy to. I realise many people would not like to think this way.

Sasta Fri 22-Mar-24 17:50:59

I look like my mum, and am becoming more and more like her. My daughter says it’s like being with her nan sometimes as I also sound like her, now she says she’s turning into me 😳.

Minerva Fri 22-Mar-24 10:10:07

This has been an interesting thread to read. It’s the kind of question I often ponder.

Happily I don’t see my mother when I look into a mirror but I hear her dialect speech in recordings of my voice. My daughters say I am nothing like her for which I am grateful.
I do see but not hear my mother when I’m with my sister.

My beautiful adopted daughter doesn’t look like me but her likes and interest are the same as mine and I hear myself when she talks to the children and so does she🙂

Mel1967 Fri 22-Mar-24 09:15:30

Fingers crossed that I don’t turn into my Mum.
I’ve asked my family to let me know if I start to.
I’ve no wish to be like her

Saggi Fri 22-Mar-24 08:31:40

Apparently , my older - by - 10 years sister , tells me I’m turning into my dad , NOT my mum🤷🏻‍♀️

Gossamerbeynon1945 Fri 22-Mar-24 07:25:14

Unforuntately, she died when i was 13. I wish could remember her.

Gummie Fri 22-Mar-24 07:03:36

I’d love to be like my mother. She was far more beautiful than me.

Janet24 Fri 22-Mar-24 06:44:24

I am turning into my mother.I now realise how lonely she must have been as she became older.Like her I do not want to be a nuisance to my busy children and grandchildren so am moving to a Retirement Village with a community and lifestyle for old ladies like me.

Celieanne86 Fri 22-Mar-24 00:16:50

My eldest son has just informed me that I will never be gone as long as his daughter is here alive as she is not only the image of me in looks but she talks like me users the same phrases as me and what’s more argues blind like me. As she is a midwife and now a clinical psychologist with a fantastic job and I adore the very bones of her I’m quite pleased.

Ikiesgranma Thu 21-Mar-24 23:47:42

I certainly don’t want to be like my mother. She was and still is age 90 a narcissist. Made my miserable for far too long.

gagsy Thu 21-Mar-24 22:18:16

My hands have become like my Mum’s.
I’d be very pleased if I became like her. I loved and admired her and miss her very much.

DeeAitch56 Thu 21-Mar-24 22:03:22

Not me, but after my DS had left home to move in with his GF, I happened to see them in the supermarket, they didn’t know I was there, but I heard him say to his GF ‘No we are not buying branded beans own brand is just as good’ This is after he’d spent his teenage years moaning about me buying own brand groceries 🙄

DevonshireSalop Thu 21-Mar-24 20:08:03

I’ve heard my mother’s words coming out of my mouth for years, almost as many as people have been telling me I look like her !!

Grandmabatty Thu 21-Mar-24 19:30:57

I am nothing like my mum, not in looks nor personality nor politics and I'm very glad. I'm more like my dad.

Growing0ldDisgracefully Thu 21-Mar-24 19:22:51

I see my Dad when I look in the mirror when I haven't got my make up on, and even when I have, I have the same chin shape. I seem now to have developed old lady hands - scrawny and with age spots, which resemble Mum's hands in later years, so I have a somewhat unflattering legacy from both! However I do have Dad's warped sense of humour so don't mind that.

MissAdventure Thu 21-Mar-24 19:10:03

I love the old phrases, and use them when I can.
Our language is so quirky, it would be a shame to lose the humour out of every word. smile

Boolya Thu 21-Mar-24 19:08:12

'which' not 'with' !!

Boolya Thu 21-Mar-24 19:07:16

My mum died when I was 16, but I can still recall some of her phrases with I use from time to time.

hollysteers Thu 21-Mar-24 19:01:45

Oh yes, I certainly am and thought I was so different to her as a teenager.
Her sayings and superstitions pour out of my mouth, photos show the likeness and her love of roaming about independently prove the point.