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Faffing about in Older Age!

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eddiecat78 Wed 27-Mar-24 11:03:45

My elderly parents very much did certain things on certain days and at certain times. I don't see that as a problem - it gave them a rythm to their lives when they were retired and less physically able to be "spontaneous".

downtoearth Wed 27-Mar-24 11:00:35

I am not a faffer, a friend is a faffer and a moaner it takes a lot of patience and good humour to smooth and deal with the faffing an,d flapping and moaning,this a personality trait not age relatedgrin

eazybee Wed 27-Mar-24 10:56:48

Sounds like obsessive behaviour to me, not faffing about.

1summer Wed 27-Mar-24 10:51:51

I am afraid that since my husband died 18 months ago I have started to notice some of the annoying traits my Mum had as she got older and after my Dad died in me.
With me it’s worrying and stressing about minor things, getting upset about things going wrong in house or garden but become indecisive about finding tradesmen to fix.
I want to move house but have been saying to daughter I will put house on market next month for about 9 months.
Meal times or bins do not bother me yet!

Redhead56 Wed 27-Mar-24 10:47:25

My dh does all that dithering about trivia my only concerns are real worries family and health.

Grandmabatty Wed 27-Mar-24 10:44:31

I have always been organised and I still am. I found the Mumsnet thread very ageist and fake 'amused at these old doddery parents '. I suspect it may take some folk longer to make decisions because that's their nature. Nothing to do with their age

MiniMoon Wed 27-Mar-24 10:43:48

I'm 72, been retired 10 years and none of this resonates with me. DH faffs about a bit, but he's always been like this. I put it down to his being on the autism spectrum although he's never been diagnosed.

Kate1949 Wed 27-Mar-24 10:37:05

Bins never enter my head! My husband puts them out. I'm not sure they'd ever go out of it was up to me. I am 74 and quite well organised I think, bins excepted!

henetha Wed 27-Mar-24 10:33:10

Not really. Well, only a little bit. At 86 I am allowed a bit of faffing about, but generally I'm still reasonably together and organised.
I must admit to being indecisive, but I've always been like that.

Witzend Wed 27-Mar-24 10:33:02

Nor me, dithering and faffing make me want to scream!
I’ve known non-elderly people do it too, though - it’s not confined to older-age.

LucyAnna Wed 27-Mar-24 10:30:09

None of that resonates with me! Bins? Meals? Indecision? No, sorry. I’m 76 this year and not concerned with any of that. Maybe some folks have those traits when younger, then they get more pronounced when older?

zakouma66 Wed 27-Mar-24 10:12:26

I read an interesting thread o'er yonder on the young folks' site entitled 'Please tell me we don't all end up like this'

I recognise some of the traits; the constant worry about food and minor details, obsession about set meal times, indecision, minutae becoming huge. Bins loom large as does the Radio Times.

Anybody else?