Are you a planner or a freewheeler?

AskAlice

*Theexwife*, I'm the same. Working life was always strictly organised, busy and stressful at times. I'm finding over the last few years that if I have a definite appointment in my diary, even an enjoyable day out, I get a bit stressed in the build-up to it. I'm very much a "let's see what I feel like doing on the day" type of person now...

We do have regular childcare arrangements every week, but those are at our own home so I feel more relaxed about those.

I too get stressed when something is coming up ... Good or Bad! and I am definitely a see how I feel on the day person due to some anxiety feelings over certain health things I am dealing with

I'm a freewheeler, MrA is a planner. I hate to have too many commitments, it would make me feel tied down. MrA likes to plan everything, so we have the best of both worlds. Neither of us feels the need to be always out and about seeing people though - we are quite happy most of time being busy in our own little world.

I’m in the middle.
Like to have things planned and to look forward to but love a free day.
Never bored can always fill an empty day with hobbies and crafts.

I have to be an organised freewheeler!! Whilst I will make plans, perhaps to take friends to the coast, they all know that I will have worked out things, got all the things ready but it has to be DOB - not not date of birth, but how bad my back is. So they know that if it is very bad and I cannot walk or do anything I will ring them by 8.30am to say that have to cancel. It has also been very annoying as things like visiting NT places or gardens or any shows etc, with the covid situation ,meant that I either paid for a ticket and at the last moment couldnt go , or didnt get an advanced ticket and no places available on the day. I used to be very organised buying advanced tickets to Great Yorkshire Show etc and of course it was cheaper that way. I have always been organised about appointment times etc putting them in diary and also on the calendar. When home with a family we used to have different coloured pens to show who was where when. |Now life is more frustrating in general, but by choice I am a freewheeler, so whilst I stick to such as hospital appointments, once the basic cleaning of self and clothes are dealt with, then doing something I enjoy whilst I am in less pain is my choice. I take little notice of the weather forecast, but if the day looks good, any indoor jobs can wait and I will try and make the most of the decent day.

I prefer to plan . My mother was right !

A couple of my friends really stress me out with their sudden ideas :

One will phone me "I'm at the till did you want anything from the supermarket ?"
I ask her the day before I plan a shop .

Or at 6.00 am "Are you coming down today so we can do so and so ?"
This is accompanied with some pressure .

I'm an extreme planner to the point that I have lots of empty days because I take so long planning the few busy ones.