Calling women by a Mrs title ... & commenting on what they wear.

...to your Bumface anyway!

Golly 'Bumface' not a nice name. Hope no one calls you that to your face.

MissAdventure

I'm worse than the grandchildren.

So am I.

I'm worse than the grandchildren.

I've been spending too much time with my 5 year old GS who thinks these things are hilarious

MissAdventure

You have to feel for some couples.,

If they use both their names it would be Long-Wiwi.

Bumface

welbeck

Bumface

I am not sure about the practice of women using their maiden name (often their father's surname) in front of their husband's surname. In the case of me and DH it would not have worked and would have looked comical. I suppose it works with some name pairings and it sounds posh, so why not?

ah, now we understand your username; it's an example of simply combining your surnames, when you married mr face ?

My secret is out. Yes, I was Miss Bum and he was Mr Face so naturally.........

I havn't stopped laughing since I read your comment, you've made my day.

thank you for being so gracious.
am much relieved that you are amused, rather than offended.
all the best,

You have to feel for some couples.,

Or a hairdresser with scissors in her hand.

Mis Muzz or Mrs Muzz 😂. He sounds a bit slow on the uptake.

I've never used Ms, and was rarely called Miss, as I married young, so I went straight to Mrs, other than at work. As you say, if someone asks me, I'm happy with Doodle, but if they don't, I might give them a Paddington Stare. If they call me Doodledog, and themselves by a title, I will object.

Maybe not in the case of a dentist - I don't want to get on the wrong side of anyone with a drill in my mouth.

Oh and I don't comment on people's choice of clothes. As long as they are clean that's fine by me. I know lots of very talented people who have absolutely no talent when it comes to choosing clothes that suit them. My best friend comes into that category, she's very very clever, exceptionally kind and she has absolutely no interest in clothes but I'd rather spend a wet week end in a caravan with her than anyone else I know.

My rule is if someone I don't know uses my first name without asking if that's OK, then it's not. If someone asks what I would like to be called, I always say use my first name.

When I divorced I used Ms and when asked for my name by a contractor I started with Ms, paused for a moment and he asked if that was "Miss Muzz or Mrs Muzz?" Married for a second time I am happy to be known as Mrs followed by OH's name but I didn't change until we had a child and I wanted us all to have the same surname.

Such fun in KS1 when Benjamin Sanderson-Cheverson and Alexander Witherington-Smithall had to write their full name on SAT papers. Thank heavens they don’t have to do that any more.

welbeck

Bumface

I am not sure about the practice of women using their maiden name (often their father's surname) in front of their husband's surname. In the case of me and DH it would not have worked and would have looked comical. I suppose it works with some name pairings and it sounds posh, so why not?

ah, now we understand your username; it's an example of simply combining your surnames, when you married mr face ?

My secret is out. Yes, I was Miss Bum and he was Mr Face so naturally.........

I havn't stopped laughing since I read your comment, you've made my day.

I often wonder what the children of the double-barrelled do when they marry. If Arabella Ponsonby marries Jonty Smythe and the children become Wayne and Chardonnay Ponsonby-Smythe, then Chardonnay marries Greg Higginbottom-Jones, do they and their children become the Higginbottom-Jones-Ponsonby-Smythes? Their Christmas cards would take forever to address.

My nephew and his family are similar, come to think of it. They aren't married, but their children are registered as Mum'sname-Dad'sname, and all have three given names, as the tradition in the mum's family is to take her mother's name as a middle name. So the children are Givenname, Middlename, Granny'smaidenname, Mum'sname Dad'sname.

Poor little blighters

Bumface

I am not sure about the practice of women using their maiden name (often their father's surname) in front of their husband's surname. In the case of me and DH it would not have worked and would have looked comical. I suppose it works with some name pairings and it sounds posh, so why not?

ah, now we understand your username; it's an example of simply combining your surnames, when you married mr face ?

One of my daughters never uses her doctorate as a title,either. Neither does my husband. One of the reasons is people assume it is medical and start to ask for advice!

I rather enjoy being mrs last name. It’s who I am after all. My daughter is often called mrs and doesn’t seem to mind nor do my daughter in laws. In fact my newest daughter in law ( married a year now) always comments on how much she loves getting cards address to mrs so and so.

I don’t use mine either.

Juggernaut

I never use my Academic title unless it's necessary. It seems big headed and boastful. (Also, I don't claim to reside in two different cities according to whether or not it suits my 'tale').
I use my forename and surname (which oddly enough is the same as my husband's surname)
I'm quite happy to be referred to as Mrs, but absolutely hate Ms, it means nothing!

I never use my academic title either, mainly cos I don’t have one.But good for you for not using it at every available occasion.
I have reverted to my maiden name since divorce.

I do have a doctorate but hesitate to use it. I'm not a medical doctor so feel a bit sheepish about using it.

If I had a doctorate I would certainly use Dr rather than Mrs. Something to be proud of.

biglouis

*I have never used my academic achievements in my title, (and there are a few), other than in a job application. I find it unnecessary and slightly boastful.*

How very old fashioned.

Its something I earned by my own efforts rather than a label which society has stuck on to me, like Mrs. Mrs would imply I am some man's property. No man has ever owned me or ever will.

Do you really think that’s how marriage is viewed in the 21st century?? I don’t know any woman who belongs to her husband or any husband who owns his wife.

How very old fashioned.

I was happy to take my husband’s name when we married as it was my mother’s maiden name and it went very nicely with my Christian (I’m happy with that as I am with fore or first) name.

As for needing to use my academic title to make a statement, I find that a little sad.

I think I read somewhere that Ed Balls found his surname an opportunity for a certain amount of piss taking from his peers when he was going through school, which is never nice. Hence some or maybe all of his children have opted for Yvette's surname "Cooper" I kind of think that makes sense, if the mother has a nicer sounding surname, then go with that for the children.

Casdon

Most women don’t use the ap, just the surname, but I’ve heard them use ferch or verch for daughter of. It’s usually an ancestral family name now- we’ve got one, which is used as the second name of all the boys in the family, going back hundreds of years. It’s a really interesting subject I think (but I know I’m a nerd).

The women I knew did use the ap. It is an interesting subject. I must be a nerd too.