Wedding Anniversary

I confess I like a little celebration - a card and a meal out - but DH's mind just doesn't work that way, so I organise the meal out and we always enjoy it.

AS GSM says What’s important is having someone at your side who you can trust. That’s worth more than all the flowers in the world.

We have been married 56 years and still enjoy being together - and that is what really matters.

We will have been married 54 years in October. I would be upset if DH didn't buy me something. Last year it was a stone with a butterfly painted on it.

55 years this month. Unless I plan something nothing will happen.
Happy anniversary Ivy

49 years this month ,we always go back to the church where we got married.A meal out which is just we two ,he,s not great with gifts but has been known to have a piece of jewellery on an anniversary with a 0 or a 5 .For our 30th I bought him a new wedding ring to replace the original which was ost under the floorboards and never found ,the same year he replaced my engagement ring which no longer goes over my knuckle after an accident.We didn’t.t arrange this so when he took the ring out of his pocket at the altar I was very surprised and touched .He doesn’t wear the new ring except if we,re going somewhere nice ….in case he loses it

Thst p's lovely, paddyann

For our 30th I bought him a new wedding ring to replace the original which was lost under the floorboards and never found

Oh dear!
We lost a hamster under the floorboards once but managed to rescue her.
I lost my engagement ring for 11 months years ago, it turned up in the Christmas decorations when DH retrieved them from the attic the following December.

DH has bought me jewellery for special anniversaries, this year just a card but he cooked a meal as I was incapacitated this year.

Thst p's
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That's lovely

I’ve never put much importance on gifts, it’s the everyday kindnesses that matter.

We just used to exchange cards but weirdly for our 38th we decided on a night in an Edinburgh Hotel, spent the day wandering in the city and had a lovely lunch in our favourite restaurant. Less than 2 months later he died suddenly. He was the kindest man but never thought about flowers or jewellery so when what would have been our 40th anniversary arrived, I bought myself a picture at an art exhibition. I think he would have approved. For the 50th, last December, I planned to return to the hotel where we had our honeymoon however, events overtook me and I spent it in hospital instead feasting on NhS food 🙄

GrannyIvy

It is my 47th wedding anniversary today. We usually exchange a card and maybe a meal out but generally our celebration is low key. My husband never buys me flowers but I always hope to receive flowers on this special day. Anyway this year he proudly announced I have bought us a posh box of shortbread biscuits from the garden centre as thought we would both enjoy them. I know I shouldn’t and would not say anything but I would have loved a bunch of my roses which are my favourite flowers. I will buy myself some when I do the weekly shop later this week. I count my blessings but feel just a bit disappointed. What do others receive on an anniversary?

Congratulations on your 47th wedding anniversary. Whatever he bought you it showed he was thinking of you. By the way what did you buy for him.?

My husband and I were married for 50 years when he died and we never bought each other presents. We used to go out for a meal with our children on anniversaries and birthdays and that was enough for me. He showed me he loved me every single day of his life as I showed him.

He did buy me a dozen Red roses when I gave birth to our first son.

I miss him every single day and always will until we meet again.

petra

I’ve never put much importance on gifts, it’s the everyday kindnesses that matter.

How true. 👏👏👏

I’m sorry you were disappointed, OP - 💐.

Our 50th was in June. Dh bought me a box of Black Magic and ditto of Maltesers. I was quite happy!

What did mean a great deal was some years ago when he brought me a bouquet of flowers - I was nonplussed, since it wasn’t any special day, not to me anyway. And he’s not usually a bringer of flowers anyway.

He explained that it was 50 years to the day since we’d met. I was truly astonished that he’d known. Although I still remember the occasion very well, I had no idea even of the month, let alone the date!

Next year send some to yourself from local florist / Eflorist / Prestige Flowers - open them and say "How Thoughtful" "What a lovely thing to do - I so enjoy roses" - DH may get the hint!

It may set the tone for your 50th!

Happy Anniversary

Just had my 68th birthday, despite being retired & not having anything that takes up all his time my husband forgot/ran out of time to get me anything, no card, acknowledgment, gift (he knows I have an Amazon list of ideas so doesn’t even have to think of gift ideas himself) He then gets ‘upset’ that he ‘forgot’ so people tell him it’s ok & that it’s the length of our marriage that matters
But I matter, it’s the lack of thought that hurts & cuts through like a knife

As an old timer with 64 years of marriage clocked up, I'd ask you 'do you expect him to read your mind?'

I’m inclined to agree with that. There’s nothing wrong with dropping heavy hints beforehand. Many men are hopeless at remembering dates and need prompting.

It was our 58th on Tuesday. We both forgot! The fact that we are still together is enough for me.

Congratulations on your 42nd anniversary we celebrated our 42 anniversary whilst on holiday this year, I took a card with me, but DH said he didn’t think of that. Usually I get flowers but this year he bought me some hair mist( it was Chanel) so I was delighted. Most years it’s a meal out usually with the family, so this year was totally different.

Congratulations on your 47th anniversary. You've just reminded me that it's our wedding anniversary on Sunday, must get DH a card. We'll both get the in the same shop and hide them until the day! We don't buy presents but will probably go to our favourite restaurant for lunch.

It's strange over time how you get different perspectives, older and wiser maybe. My husband actually forgot our 10th wedding anniversary so I bought myself a lovely watch, he didn't forget after that! Now our 40th is looming and he suggested buying me a ring but I only wear one lovely dress ring and have a few I never wear so I said that was a lovely thought but not necessary. We will actually be away for our anniversary with our DD, SiL and wonderful GC so perfect.

GSM summed it up perfectly!

Soon be 52 years for us. Definitely no presents. I'll get the old card out and put it on display. It's 'to us' 'from us'

Now, DH makes a new card when we reach a milestone, which is now if it's a 5 or a 0! We know how we feel about it each other.

Oh dear. Well, I've learned something from my daughters. They are not shy about suggesting. And it seems to work well with them.
So I tried it.
My 35th wedding anniversary was fast approaching. I told my husband I didn't need a gift but I'd love some flowers. Although I didn't say, I wouldn't have minded if they were from a supermarket, a garage forecourt, etc etc. I understand he thinks flowers are outrageously overpriced.
So, the day loomed. And the florist van parked in front of our houose. After a while, she knocked on the door. Tears in my eyes, sentimental fool that I am, lip a trembling, I answered. Only for her to ask if I would take in flowers for my neighbour.
On discussion with said neighbour, who thanked me for keeping her flowers, she told me her father had died. We talked a bit and I laughingly told her about the mix up and how my husband was a self centred git, unable to think of anyone but himself.
When said git came home, I confess to tearing a strip off him. I asked him what was wrong with him. Why should I have to beg for flowers?
Other wives didn't have to.
And then there was a knock on the door - my neighbour stood there with a bunch of flowers and handed it to my husband.
All in all, it was a bigger deal than it need be. But I got a bunch of flowers from the same florist the next day, and a bunch the week after.
Your husband is, like mine, self centred. He needs to confront his failings. Tell him so in no uncertain terms.

We dont do pressies or cards for our wedding anniversary, nor do we go out. Indeed now our 48th is coming up in August we probably wont even remember on the day. Its a relief to me because DH is impossible to buy for. There is absolutely nothing he wants. I am probably just as bad. I would quite like to de-clutter actually and get rid of a few things, but all my good resolutions on that score tend to come to nothing.

We got our sums wrong and forgot our silver anniversary, thinking it was the next year. We both laughed. We don’t bother with cards and presents, but either go out for a meal or have a takeaway. I don’t know why some women feel wounded if they don’t receive a gift or flowers. I just don’t understand it.

We holiday at Gretna Green every 10 years. Seems enough. I don't fancy cards, flowers, restaurant food - I'm just pleased we survived the odds.

So much pain is caused by the 'marketing' of these essentially private events. To GrannyIvy I'd say - enjoy a bikkie or 2 (or don't if they just are not your thing) - get roses when you fancy. It is the daily warp and weft, not the days we are told to think are special, that really matters. It is hard for any of us to truly know what are nearest and dearest are dreaming of. All things do pass.