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Good morning Farview, I hope you managed to get some restful sleep.

farview

I didn’t see the thread.
But 💐 for you farview.

Oh no,*farview*, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through such a rough time. I’m sure nobody on here has been upset by your deleting the thread, nor would anyone want you to be upset. Please take care of yourself.

I haven’t commented on this post as such but saw Farview’s comment and just wanted to wish them luck and a change in fortune.
The funny thing about life is that nothing lasts for ever and that goes for both good and bad things.
Hang on in there, Farview. It’ll be ok x

I’m sorry I asked why the thread had been deleted, farview. I didn’t realise you had asked for it to be taken down because it was causing you distress.

I’m sorry you are going through a bad time at the moment.

I missed your deleted thread Farview so don’t know anything about it
I’m so sorry to read what a difficult time youre having.

I apologise for upsetting people....I'm going through an absolutely terrible time in.my life....I was particularly sad and stressed last night...I started the thread re something close to my heart....but decided..due to numerous heartbreaking situations of my own...that i didn't want to read/see the replies....because am near to crumbling atm ..simple as that....

It was a perfectly innocuos thread I did post on it and it was quite interesting looking into why it feels justified to eat some animals and a big no no to eat others it was interesting from the psychology of how we all tick
Nothing nasty no big disagreements unlike, some other recent disgusting threads that have gone on and on and on in very poor taste

Joseann

Nevermind eating animals, I'm smelling a very large rat! 🐀

😂 The thick plottens !

Nevermind eating animals, I'm smelling a very large rat! 🐀

It never occurs to me that I “own” a thread. I am just grateful to people who are kind enough to reply.

Of course all content on GN is owned by GN.

It has legal responsibilities for a start apart from taking down stuff in poor taste etc.

I am pretty relaxed about it all tbh.

merlotgran

^Yes, nothing personal that I saw and a general discussion^

That’s a shame. I would have posted last night but it was late and I wanted to see how the thread developed before commenting.

It’s an interesting and topical subject so why are we being treated like children?

Oops sorry, I assumed it was from this morning. (I wasn't at pilates all night! I usually just look at the "I'm on" threads until I have longer to sit down and read).
But interesting points being made here.

Yes, nothing personal that I saw and a general discussion

That’s a shame. I would have posted last night but it was late and I wanted to see how the thread developed before commenting.

It’s an interesting and topical subject so why are we being treated like children?

merlotgran

Was the ‘Do you eat animals?’ thread deleted? I saw a bit of it late last night but was too tired to comment.

Yes, nothing personal that I saw and a general discussion.

It's a mystery.

I missed the deleted thread, I was at a pilates class.

I guess the OP in general has no idea how their thread might develop, so in that way they take a risk starting one. But then if everyone were worried about that, no one would start a thread.

I started one thread recently from abroad to ask about something innocuous happening in the UK. It went nasty in terms of poster getting a pile on, nothing at all to do with my question, just how the discussion evolved. GNHQ refused my request to take it down, probably rightly. It eventually petered out anyway.

Was the ‘Do you eat animals?’ thread deleted? I saw a bit of it late last night but was too tired to comment.

There was a thread the other day where the poster wanted it taken down as people were disagreeing with them, there were no grounds so it was left.

It would not be much of a forum if a thread could be removed if the poster didn’t like the way the thread was going.

I would rather that the only removal would be if someone had inadvertently given out too much info, even leave the bullies comments so they can be seen by all.

I’ve made my views on this very clear many times.
Unpleasant posters can be very sneaky. Stir things up with nastiness, await responses then have their part in it deleted. Then others think the responder is in the wrong and the unpleasant poster becomes the victim.
My view, as always, is to let things remain so that all can judge fairly.
We are not a bunch of wimpy pearl clutchers. We are grown women with life experience of trials and tribulations, we perfectly capable of forming our own judgement.
Also I agree with Kitty regarding posters coming back to a thread with thanks or outcome. This is good manners not ownership.

I agree kittylester they’re two different things.
I saw some of the thread called I think, ‘do you eat animals’ and nothing seemed controversial. I didn’t comment on it as wasn’t all that interested.

I think there is a difference between posters saying thank you for your help/replies/suggestions and posters starting a more general thread and believing they have ownership of it.

I missed the latest deleted thread (as per usual). But I agree that decisions to delete threads or comments are often arbitrary. I’d like to see fewer deletions all round. It often happens that a controversial or mean comment disappears, some who’ve seen it argue against it, some who haven’t (or pretend not to have) deny it ever existed, and it all gets very messy. Once we’ve taken the decision to post our views, they should imo stand for others to comment on if they wish. To my knowledge I’ve only had one post deleted in 12 years, and I wasn’t notified about that so don’t know why it went.

Exceptions of course for people who’ve inadvertently outed themselves.

It is publishing.
Personally, I like seeing my words in print!
Part of the reason I like being here.

But I do agree that if someone has overshared, it should be pulled by GN.

Sorry for the errors in spelling, my keyboard has now got sticky keys.

RosiesMaw2

I have often questioned the notion that the OP of any thread has any ownership of it.
Clearly there will be times when a thread with eg a specific question, has run its course and is no longer relevant. What to wear to a wedding for instance.
Curiously, these threads often stay up with comments added months or even years later!
A moratorium on such threads would make sense.
On the other hand, there are threads where the OP may not like what they are hearing and asks for the whole thread to be pulled - and I would question that.
Or there are threads where OP feels they somehow “host” the thread and seem to feel obliged to comment on each and every post as it occurs, even “thanking” posters for dropping by.
And there are normal threads- those where comments or advice or reactions remain relevant to the vast majority of posters, entertaining, useful and pertinent - and I remain grateful for these! !

If I had posted a thread on the forums asking for peoples help and had received numerous replies, I would think it only courteous, after the thread being active for a few months, for me to let everyone know the outcome and thank people for their help.

I am amazed that many people do post on the forums, asking for help with their family problems, receive lots of advice and the poster just vanishes into thin air. What is the point of posting if we never find out what happened in the end.

This hapens such a lot and makes me wonder if it is worthwhile replying to these posters as you never find out what happened. It is like reding a book and find the last few pages are gone.