Separate beds

yes seperate rooms, hubby is always cold, always restless. and wraps the duvet round him. I only have a light bedspread over me...

My parents had separate single beds in the same bedroom for several years before my Dad died in 2018. Mum likes a soft mattress and Dad liked a firmer one and this halfway house arrangement suited them brilliantly. Mum has a top sheet under the duvets so that she doesn't have to change the duvet covers every time (as do l). When she changes her duvet cover, she always changes Dad's cover to match.
We moved house last year and the main spare bedroom is a double bedroom. We decided that buying two single beds rather than a double bed was more flexible. If we have a married couple staying there, we are all of an age where we don't mind sleeping in single beds for a few days.

We share a bed but not a duvet. We have separate coverings which is wonderful because I get far too hot, but he does not. So I may have a sheet and a very light other layer over me, while he has a duvet. It works brilliantly for us!

We’ve had separate rooms for years, and we’re both very happy with the arrangement. Fortunately the house is big enough that we both have large rooms and decent sized beds, but I bagged an en-suite shower room. 😁 We actually sleep at opposite ends of the house, but after the summer influx of visitors have left he’s moving to the room next door. 😘

No atm we sleep together but I am considering it. OH goes to bed at 10pm or 11. He's a big guy and takes up most of the bed even though it's king-size. He loves a cool room and leaves window open.
I go to bed about 1am or later. I like to read and the lamp disturbs him. I close the window as its freezing most nights, then have to partly wake him to move over so I can get in bed. Total nightmare.

There is nothing wrong with separate beds/rooms if that suits you better, what is is important is to maintain the intimacy of the relationship, a kiss and cuddle morning and night makes all the difference

We have had separate rooms for years now-Hubbie a very very loud snorer- and I could not cope with the sleep deprivation - it was making me ill- felt a bit embarrassed about separate rooms to begin with but used to it now- more expensive to go away tho we have to book apartments with two rooms!!!

I occasionally disappear into a spare room to put a fan on if we're having a hot spell and I'm tossing and turning so as not to wake my other half. I'm generally back in our bed before he wakes. These days I have quite a bit of broken sleep, it's a matter of not wishing to inflict my restlessness on him. I have no desire to take up permanent residence in another room.

We share a king sized bed but always book twin beds on holiday as it gives you a bigger room usually

I’m in. Best thing ever, DH snores, I get hot, it just works x

I vote for separate houses, one of us is tidy and likes daylight, the other is messy and nocturnal. We get along very well.

Married well over 50 years. Hubby had heart attack over 20 years ago. Happily put up with broken sleep just to have him beside me.❤️

Yes we have had separate rooms for many years. He snores badly and we both get up and down for the loo. We put up with one bed or have twin beds when away but I have to have ear plugs and sleeping pills! Sometimes we go self catering to get the 2 rooms. Our friends have always been understanding and given us a room each when we visit.

Yes and separate bathrooms, best decision ever

Hell yes! Started when I was in a severe period of Meniere's Disease and spent many nights vomiting but unable to get out of bed. Best thing ever.

We had to go into separate rooms due to DHs Parkinson's I was getting attacked on the night It didn't stop cuddles or indeed regular intercourse it just saved me black eyes and broken bones

We called our single bedroom ‘the escape room’ where my late husband, who had insomnia, often moved into in the middle of the night in order to read. On one occasion, not noticing that I had already left the marital bed for the escape room, woke me when he dropped a pile of books on me when he ‘escaped’!

PetalPop I can hear my husband snoring when I'm sitting downstairs, with all the doors shut! He's having some tests later today, to see if he's got sleep apnoea. If he has, it'll mean him having to wear a mask attached to a CPAP machine, which is in itself, very noisy, apparently

I'm with HowVeryDareYou2 on this one. We sleep apart. I am in the double bed and he sleeps in the single bed in the spare room. If I get up in the night I can hear him snoring through the closed door of his room. I am a moody old boot if I can't get enough sleep. Now happy wife and even happier husband without me snapping at him all day.

Same bed but separate duvets. Sort of halfway house. We might have to think about separate rooms soon as like "Shelflife" I like windows open and plenty of fresh air to sleep, DH doesn't.
He sleeps wrapped in his duvet even on hot nights, I sleep on top of mine uncovered. We manage OK but the window issue might send into separate rooms!

Best thing we ever did

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No. We cuddle up in a king size bed, no separate rooms for us. Couldn’t imagine that my Dh snores doesn’t really bother me, whatever keeps you happy. Each to their own of course. We dread the day when one of us in the bed.

Pretty much agree with this. No separate rooms for us, I need someone to warm my cold feet on!😂.

I was curious because there’s another thread somewhere about splitting the cost of accommodation.
We meet up with friends or with family quite often We don’t often use hotels, but when we book gîtes or cottages, I’m not sure how I’d feel if we had book and split the cost of a 6 bedroom place when we only wanted one bedroom and the couples wanted separate rooms.
I couldn’t find the thread but there was a good debate.

I started sleeping in another room when GC were born I was up very early to help with them. My DH was still working then we decided we would have own rooms to get some decent sleep. It suits us both very well now we quite like our own space. When we go on holiday we hire a cottage and have our own bedrooms in a hotel we have separated beds.

Well if it was good enough for the late Queen......