Separate beds

Yes, best decision ever!

Definitely a big yes! We (like you) are fortunate to have a spare bedroom so we can each have our own 5ft bed - bliss. DH doesn’t sleep well whilst I am a snorer (although DH has never complained) so makes sense for us to sleep apart. DH brings tea in about 7am and we sit and chat, do Wordle & Connections, and decide what to do if we have a free day. When we ‘admit’ to friends that we sleep apart so many have said ‘us too’!

Yes. DH's snoring is intolerable.

Yes, and own bathrooms, I live alone now and would not even like to share a house

It’s a yes from me

No. We have a huge super king sized bed so have never considered it, despite having enough bedrooms. I snore, but it doesn't disturb DH, and I also get hot but nothing seems to stop DH sleeping. We love our bed and look forward to getting back to it after holidays.

Also a no from me,we sleep in a double bed but share a pillow,always have.Cant imagine wanting to sleep or wake up without him.I dare say that day might come if he dies before me but until then we,ll squash up together and enjoy it

@dotty123
We don’t do the early morning cuppa and wordle but I go in his room and we sit in his bed together in the evening chatting about this and that - usually the family, then I trot off to my bed to read or sleep.

Even when my late husband was in his last months of life we still slept together, luckily we had a king size bed. He refused a hospital bed and because I needed to be there in seconds when he stopped breathing, sleeping in the same bed was the best option, also, in the 50 years we had been married we had never spent a night apart unless I was in hospital giving birth or he was in hospital.

After he died I could not sleep on my own and even now so many years later I still wake in the middle of the night, tossing and turning. I did get a double bed instead but I missed having him next to me.

It's a yes from me ! My DH likes a heavy douvet and a bed spread , dark curtains and window closed. I am hot at night and have a very light douvet and a light cover to hand if need it. My curtains are light in weight and colour and I don't fully close them and I have the window open. I need light in the mornings- more of a problem in winter of course.
Fortunate to have spare bedroom! After 50 years of marriage we are both happy with this arrangement!

For some it can make life a lot easier and for some it could be the end of the marriage and you end up just being two people living in the same house.

Yes, have had separate rooms for years.
I like a cool room/bed, he is wrapped up in a big duvet all year long. I can get out of my bed and you would hardly know it's been slept in, his looks as if he's been fighting something all night. He snores, as do I. I like to read for a while before going to sleep, he has the telly on (often watching with his eyes closed...). I have a window open all the time, he doesn't.
So after months of broken sleep I finally got fed up one night and went into spare bed - never went back having had the best nights kip for ages.

Yep. Started after MrA had the flu some years ago. Neither of us was getting any sleep so I got up and went to the spare room. Once I retired and didn't have to get up at 5 am it also meant I could sleep in for an hour if I wanted.

Solves a lot of niggly problems like how cool/warm the bedroom should be, window open/shut/snoring, getting up/going to bed times/getting up in the night.....

Not for us, we accommodate each others nuances.

Yes, I have the double bed, he sleeps in a single bed in the spare room. Co stand his snoring.

I’d love too but DH would be mortified! My parents had separate rooms for years and years

No, not in separate beds camp.

We sleep together, have every night since we married - unless I was giving birth or either of us was having tkr - until we could go home.

Absolutely yes for me! Combination of snoring, menopause-related insomnia etc - never slept so well since!

paddyann54

Also a no from me,we sleep in a double bed but share a pillow,always have.Cant imagine wanting to sleep or wake up without him.I dare say that day might come if he dies before me but until then we,ll squash up together and enjoy it

Same here 😃we enjoy our cuddles too much.

We found a middle way - 2 small double beds in same room. Plenty of space for 'cuddles', we can chat and feel together- but have own duvet and own space- but together. Only since I had first knee replacement, and we found it so perfect, we didn't go back to our SK bed in next bedroom.

@oreo
Sleeping in separate bedrooms doesn’t mean we don’t cuddle or have an intimate relationship. When our grown family first saw that we slept apart they pointedly asked if ‘everything was ok’, to which I replied that the novelty of ‘sleeping together’ had well and truly become tedious but the not sleeping stuff we did in bed hadn’t.
They looked aghast.

We both snore so not a problem, one cancels the other out😄

So you sneak into each other’s rooms babs03 how exciting.

No, we share a king size bed. He snores a bit and I probably do, but I’d miss him if he was in another room. Besides it would make holidays more expensive.
I’m curious. Do all the separate roomers not go away, or pay for two rooms or just put up with one another when they’re on holiday?