How good are you at sorting out your life's belongings and how do you decide what to throw away?

I've known quite a few people who have kept things for "their children", only to find their children aren't the slightest bit interested in them.

Not very good unfortunately. I try but am too sentimental.

MissAdventure

I've known quite a few people who have kept things for "their children", only to find their children aren't the slightest bit interested in them.

Mine keep saying that yes, they do want stuff but not yet .....
I'm tempted to fill a crate and ship it off.

I don’t think my two will want anything - apart from the house, one lives abroad and the other isn’t the slightest bit interested. Though they will be interested in the house 🏠

Mine only want things they remember as children - only arguments when we downsized were over the Christmas decorations 😂

I’m relatively (some might say completely) ruthless. I have one A4 box file that contains some memorabilia from when my sons were young, everything else I’ve asked them if they want - they didn’t, so it’s long gone. My photos are mostly scanned and stored online, although I have 5 albums too. I have two small items that remind me of my grandmothers, and some jewellery from my younger days that I no longer wear, which I’m about to get shot of.

I have two ‘failings’ though: books and a husband.

When we first downsized five years ago, I disposed of 25 large boxes of books, which was very hard, and I still had a couple of thousand (books, not boxes) left. Inevitably, I’ve added a few hundred more since then.

And my husband likes stuff - we have everything from his mother’s school reports to enough camping equipment to start a shop, even though we only use a fraction of it these days. If anyone has a solution for that, short of death or divorce, do let me know!

Yes, MissA - things I’ve asked the DD’s about having, I’m advised to ‘just get rid Mum’.

Spag that £3K is for a brand new Balmoral. My friend who is very wealthy would be lucky to get £50 for his (it’s not that model) and when he’s gone, I suspect it will end up in a charity shop or skip.

I'm with your husband on this. Ruthless is the only way. I moved about 7 years ago and had a good chuck out/charity donation then. 7 years on I'm doing it again. I don't want my kids to have to chuck out/donate skips worths. I quite enjoy looking through drawers and cupboards, coming across things that meant something to me but nothing to my kids so get rid. I've told them that if they want anything to come & have a root round. They're not bothered!

I just think - I don't want my daughters to have to wade through mountains of things once I'm gone and that is an incentive.

I'm doing ok with this I feel. It's definitely an ongoing process though and I have to pace myself carefully as my hands don't work very well.
I find it so cathartic but have a huge problem with the number of photos I have on my various platforms - Onedrive, Amazon, Google etc. I need someone to come and physically help me with this as I don't have a clue!
I'm afraid that, if I delete photos from one platform, I'll lose it in the others. Wish I was more tech savvy but at least I've got the house mostly organised thought it's taken me the best part of two years.
Good luck with it all everyone!

A new Silver Cross coach-built pram is the better part of £4,000.00 these days.

I’m finding it very hard to get rid of stuff. After my DH died, we had a skip and disposed of a load of old garden stuff, and car stuff from days when DH used to repair the cars himself. We haven’t attacked the garage yet, it contains loads of old diy tools. We don’t know what some of them are! Another skip will be needed I think. My DDs are quite good at sorting their things when they’re asked!
Books are another matter & I hate getting rid of them. Need to bite the bullet & get on with it all instead of procrastinating!
Good luck everyone!

I have a jewellery box that was full of stuff. My daughters not interested so I've boxed it all up along with a few other bits and pieces to send off to Vintage Cash Cow.
I've also got 2 bookcases full of books. My DH wanted all the books from a particular author and most of them have never been read. I've reference books etc. Would love to get rid and get money for them but not wanting to take them to a charity shop for nothing.

my rule is "have I used/touched this in a a year?" nope then it is gone! after leaving a 20 yr relationship with only my clothes in bin bags I soon realised that all that clutter is only 'things' I can live very minimalist now because I don't want 'stuff' because other things are more important in life

I think it's quite normal to have a good clear out when you move house, and then another one when you arrive in your new place. It's almost like letting go of the past and starting afresh. Of course, my excuse is that I need new furniture too!
Occasionally I regret getting of items, particularly sentimental ones, but on the whole I'm pretty minimalist.
I find our GC are more interested in looking at things from their mummy and daddy's childhood than our children are themselves. Especially photos of all the old pets!

* getting rid of

Moonwatcher1904 sadly, most secondhand books are worth very little, and it’s very unlikely a dealer would bother to visit for relatively few books. There are some modern authors whose books (mainly good condition first editions) are valuable though - so it’s worth checking some online sales (not buying) sites for any you think fall into that category

For the others, if you have a good secondhand bookshop near you, you could take in a list of the books, with ISBN or date of publication, and condition and see if they are interested/would pay for some of them.

Otherwise there are various online sites, where you can put in details of the book and they will offer you a price. This one offers instant valuation, and pre-paid labels and collection but you have to provide boxes. Other sites are available. St don’t, in all honesty, expect a lot of money.

www.webuybooks.co.uk/how-it-works/

I've cluttered in 2 house moves but more to do. Congrats to the brave declutterers! 😊. It can depend on your mood! I've not done bad I'm doing clothes next they say if you haven't worn it for one year it has to go but I'm not sure who they are! And I don't quite agree with that. I think a lot of us though save things just for that one occasion, that one time when it may be useful for a 70s night ha ha or fancy dress ! My three children have had no interest in sentimental things. It was quite a shock. I have kept a few as I think as they get older they may have a change of heart. Some people are so good at not accumulating clutter. It depends a lot on your circumstances and also your Upbringing, what did your mum do? I had a Scottish mum who was quite savvy Thrifty by nature some of it is in your blood! At the end of the day, I don't want somebody else having a big job of getting rid of my clutter!😊

Callistemon213

MissAdventure

I've known quite a few people who have kept things for "their children", only to find their children aren't the slightest bit interested in them.

Mine keep saying that yes, they do want stuff but not yet .....
I'm tempted to fill a crate and ship it off.

I have a friend who still has adult daughters’ ‘stuff’.

They have their own homes now, so if it were me, I would insist they looked through their ‘stuff’, and take it with them. Or get rid of it if not.

Surprising how the mind focuses if it’s cluttering up their own home, and suddenly not so necessary to hang onto.

But as long as it’s at mum’s.,..

My oldest sister hoarded everything. She would throw nothing away.
I don't have a hoarding problem.
20 years ago I moved to this little one bedroomed home and have done my best to hoard nothing. I don't want my daughters to have to deal with it when I am gone.
Throw it out now, no one else wants it or needs it.

With you all the way nipsmum. Having cleared two relatives’ houses in recent years I want things to be as easy as possible for my children, paperwork more or less in order and as little stuff as I can. However said children do insist on giving presents despite being asked not to many times - how many ‘throws’ does one person need?!

Large house and outbuildings. I know I might well need to downsize soon but so much of the stuff belonged to my late DH and at the moment I haven't even been able to take many of his clothes to the charity shop as it's too upsetting even after more than 2 yrs. I have got rid of quite a lot of other stuff which was collected by the local hospice but seem to have come to a standstill with it all now. I don't even know what some of the stuff in the garage is for let alone if it might be needed.

I'm a bit of a hoarder - OH is exactly the opposite, but we have been having a bit of a clear-out following on from having to clear out his parents' house last year and being horrified at the amount of stuff they had. It was quite sad in a way, as there were bags full of brand-new clothes, some still with the price tags on, and many things which had been given as gifts but never used.
Oh, and we do still have the Silver Cross pram which my MiL bought for my husband - he will be 66 this year!

cookiemonster66

my rule is "have I used/touched this in a a year?" nope then it is gone! after leaving a 20 yr relationship with only my clothes in bin bags I soon realised that all that clutter is only 'things' I can live very minimalist now because I don't want 'stuff' because other things are more important in life

Same here. DH is the opposite but has a garage and a shed!

Nothing ever goes into the loft to be forgotten about.

We're downsizing, too and so far I'm being fairly ruthless, but my husband is still insisting on taking all sorts of stuff with us 'in case we need it' - I'm talking about planks of wood, old melamine slabs, rusty tools - you name it, he wants to take it. It's not as if he's physically able to make a cupboard anymore!

Anyway, I have thrown lots of mementos away - son's first tooth, daughter's first lock of hair, their early medical records, old birthday cards - a heart-breaking task. But as I reasoned, most of it had just been transferred from attic to attic over the years, had never been looked at, and the boxes even smelled of damp. So out they've gone.

I've just had one regret so far and that was throwing out my son's last day at school shirt with all his classmates' good wishes and funny comments written on. I stupidly put it in the wash to get rid of the damp smell, but when it came out, the comments had been washed off, so I ended up throwing it out. I wanted to show it to him when he visits from Australia in the New Year. My daughter saw hers, and she said it brought back some great memories.

It is a difficult task.