Impersonal

HelterSkelter
I have had some good recommendations, I am reading one now

If a poster starts a thread and doesn't like what they hear. Can they close the thread?
From my reading, it always seems to be the first few posts that set the tone.
I am no expert at this.

I like the book threads as well. Always good to get suggestions. I try and remember to write them down for when I go to our local charity book shop.

Reading! Not treading! Edit button PLEASE

eddiecat78

The vast majority of people just say their bit without reading anything else - especially if the thread extends to several pages.
I have occasionally thought about writing something really offensive just to see if anyone notices!
Ironically, I doubt if anyone is reading this

I’m treading this and I’d certainly notice if posted, offensive or not!

I think I was probably hoping to, if not make friends, to make some connections. To see someone’s name appear, and know I am going to emphasise with what they say.
I don’t post much anymore, I enjoy the book threads, but don’t get involved in much else.
I suppose there are only so many subjects that can be raised, but to me, it all seems a bit repetitive.
There are a few names I feel I would like in the real world, but a lot more that I think that I wouldn’t.

Have a look at the ‘ Online Dating Worry’ thread!
Despite the original poster replying that she has dealt with it, still folk are piling on with advice!

Eddiecat........... I read your post too!!

JaneJudge

It's difficult if you start a thread asking for advice, take on board that advice, post thanking for advice and clarifying your position and people still keep posting telling you how awful you are and a whole matter of fictitious scenarios

So true. And those threads can go on and on for pages with people making things up and repeating the same advice. That's why I think the OP should be able to end the discussion when they feel their thread has run its course and the question has been answered.

It's difficult if you start a thread asking for advice, take on board that advice, post thanking for advice and clarifying your position and people still keep posting telling you how awful you are and a whole matter of fictitious scenarios

Madeleine45 I recall very kind, thoughtful advice you posted some months back. Sorry can't remember the detsils nor the OP, but I thought this is what GN is all about.

Yes madeleine45 I have looked at my life...and opinions... carefully after reading some threads and the posts. And often changed my way of thinking even at this stage of later life. There is a lot of good information.
During the pandemic when I was shielding and having chemotherapy, Gransnet was company especially during sleepless nightimes. Courtesy of steroids.
It's recently the atmosphere seems to have changed.
Funnily enough I sometimes read Mumsnet Style and Beauty, although I am neither stylish nor beautiful, and I see a sea change on there as well. Many more abrasive answers. Unnecessary in discussions about handbags or shoes or what dress to wear to a winter wedding etc. That gets boring and I switch off.
I belong to a cancer forum and that is constantly moderated and posts deleted quickly if required.
I didn't join GN to make friends, ɓut have had a couple of pleasant PM exchanges. And one very strange one.

I do read all the posts usually, and generally find people helpful and friendly. It is interesting to read what people are doing or their views on subjects, which if I cannot sleep I find a good distraction from things and of course there are times when you really wonder if the person really did this or that, or how it seems that some family situations are allowed to happen, and it can make you look at your own life in a different way I would not like to go on things like Tik Tok or such like where it seems a much less friendly or helpful way

Daddima

eddiecat78

The vast majority of people just say their bit without reading anything else - especially if the thread extends to several pages.
I have occasionally thought about writing something really offensive just to see if anyone notices!
Ironically, I doubt if anyone is reading this

I was, and have often thought the same!

I read it too and I agree.

GN was a lifesaver when I had to shield for two years during the pandemic. I will always be grateful for those kind posters, who kept my spirits up.

Thank you, Aldom. That's very kind.

Sorry, should read eddiecat.

Helterskelter an excellent post.
eediecat I was reading
Doodledog I always enjoy reading your well composed posts.

eddiecat78

The vast majority of people just say their bit without reading anything else - especially if the thread extends to several pages.
I have occasionally thought about writing something really offensive just to see if anyone notices!
Ironically, I doubt if anyone is reading this

I read it, eddiecat . And your post, Daddima

I never reply without reading the whole thread, but I completely get your point.

I do enjoy GN, and have connected with several people whom I'm sure would be friends in 'real life' if we met, but I do understand why so many give up as they feel ignored, or that there are cliques.

I hear you eddiecat!

“And some frequent posters often beloved by many can be down right nasty as if by being a longtime poster excuses them.”

So true!! And if anyone calls them out they act all innocent- who moi??

Marydoll 😊 thank you. Eddiecat I was reading.

There are posters on here I would avoid avoid in real life and some I feel would be fun to chat to.
The threads such as health I have found very helpful and interesting/informative. But there are names I see and I think "oh here we go again". And some frequent posters often beloved by many can be downright nasty as if by being a longtime poster excuses them.
And so many fail to read the thread to see if the OP has been answered already and has left the thread.
Gransnet kept me occupied when I was not well and new to it so didn't post. Just read.
Whether I will continue reading I am not sure. Will see how the winter days pan out.

eddiecat78

The vast majority of people just say their bit without reading anything else - especially if the thread extends to several pages.
I have occasionally thought about writing something really offensive just to see if anyone notices!
Ironically, I doubt if anyone is reading this

I was, and have often thought the same!

I have been on Gransnet for a number of years and love it! I never expected to make friends but I recognise certain people's names and think to myself "Oh so and so is posting, that's good I enjoy reading their posts."
So THANK YOU Gransnet ..... I come on here first thing in the morning and a couple of times during the day and you are now an important part of my life!!! X