Hair quandary

Oreo the highlights and lowlights are OK. I just don't like the colour any more and don't think the final outcome is worth awful hours at the hairdressers to achieve as well as the significant cost.

If you are on fb there are a few grey hair groups where women support each other

Sorry Aveline on re -reading your post I see you already do what I suggest.
I think your problem may lie with the fact that the junior doing the foils is doing them too fine.I would ask for a senior colourist to do them and ask for thicker foils, which means you’ll see the difference.

I stopped having highlights when my hair was evenly grey. The back was the last to go. Now I use a special shampoo and conditioner for grey hair which is purple but stops the yellowing and gives a nice silvery colour. I do get some compliments on the colour which is nice

Nanna58

I’m definitely not ready for grey hair , my sister has . Apart from our hair colour we look exactly the same despite 5 years difference in age and guess what - everyone assumes she’s the elder
It’s a personal choice grey or not grey as long as you’re happy it doesn’t matter

I agree that grey hair is very ageing, if you don’t want an overall colour Aveline just ask the hairdresser to put two shades in your hair, a highlight and a lo-light?

My friend is an awful warning to me. She insists on dying her hair black as it was so dark when she was young. She's pushing 80 now and looks awful with a little pale face under a big black busby!

What a great thread this is! Thank you to all the ladies who have written in - I found it very interesting. I have been colouring my hair a honey blonde for years, but now finding more and more grey (silver?) The sun has lightened the blonde now so I’m tempted to just leave it and see if my natural colour will blend in and look ok. I do prefer a more golden blonde, but if the grey gives me more of an ash blonde, it might look nice. It is a pain colouring it at home, especially trying to do with back with two mirrors. I could go to the hairdressers, but begrudge spending all that money when a box costs around a tenner or less! Watch this space!

I gave up colouring after covid but my hair colour is the envy of my friends a now natural ash blond at (68) saving loads of money too

I also get my hair highlighted two colours and am wondering the same thing. I don't know why the white/grey hair is left alone? Can they not tint it? I keep meaning to ask my hairdresser this. I'm fairly new to having white/grey hairs but I can see more and more of them.

Im not ready to embrace the all over silver look, but even if I did I would probably use wash in colours for fun.

I also embraced the silver some years ago, and I love it. I get quite a few compliments on the colour (it's glittery silver not dull) and cut quite short . I do use make-up and an appropriate soft peachy blusher, which counters any washed-outedness.

I’m definitely not ready for grey hair , my sister has . Apart from our hair colour we look exactly the same despite 5 years difference in age and guess what - everyone assumes she’s the elder
It’s a personal choice grey or not grey as long as you’re happy it doesn’t matter

Before I was born my then childless mum looked after her baby niece after her mother died in her early thirties. She loved her like she was her own daughter. Kath had lovely dark brown soft curls and when I was born, with dead straight blond hair, my mum did all in her power to give me at least waves, if not curls. I spent ages with those metal grabbers in my hair and hairgrips to make curls - but it didn't work. The straight hair developed odd kinks in places which as a teenager I used to iron!!!

My hair lost its blondness and became a mousy-brown which was very, very dull. I always coloured it myself with a semi-permanent slightly auburn colour (now Nice n Easy). It has been going grey for about 30 years (I am 72 - my dad's was the same) but the colour is a dirty grey, so I've carried on colouring it.

This year I've been having radiotherapy for oral cancer and not allowed to colour it for 12 months. The grey is now even duller and I can't wait to do it.

I had highlights for my first DDs wedding 14 years ago and whilst it was lovely there was no way I was spending that amount of money several times a year or putting myself through the utter boredom of sitting around in a salon for over an hour. Anyway, I didn't have the time then, working a 70-hour week.

I joined our local u3a on retirement 12 years ago and am a member of several groups and on the Committee, and whilst there are lots of ladies who look incredibly smart and stylish, I am not one of them. There are even more who are "natural" like me, who can't be bothered with make-up, don't paint their nails regularly and to be honest I simply don't notice who does what any more. They are just lovely people with whom I share many pleasant and interesting hours. I hope they think the same of me!!!

I hope to colour my hair again soon, 20 minutes in my own home, and am sure it will be fine unless the radiotherapy has done something terrible to it. I will let you all know in a few weeks!!!

Basically I think there's much more to life than your appearance, providing you look presentable and friendly.

Went from black to silver in approx 14 months really love the colour should have done it years ago. Got so fed up of dying it every 4 weeks as grows fast. Will never regret going natural really happy

Looking at my hair today in good sunlight I don't actually like the highlights much. They look rather yellow than blonde. I'm going to leave it to grow out but keep up the cuts and blow dries. I'll check out those shampoos several of you have mentioned. Thanks all.

Give it a go and what do you have to lose? You might like it better. I have a lovely male hairdresser who I have gone to for over 10 years but I have had rubbish ones in the past with the social skills of a dead fish. It used to make me uncomfortable in the past and I refuse to be made to feel like that. You could always try another hairdresser.

I reduced my half head highlights to every other salon visit after the salon I used to go to with a fantastic hairdresser closed down. At present the highlights make very little difference and don't even last more than half a dozen washes. Thinking to stop them altogether especially as I think I get a better, longer lasting finish from using a silver shampoo and leaving it on my hair for 10 mins before rinsing off.

The last time I went to the hairdressers was when I was 13 in 1956, my mum was fed up of me looking like I had been dragged through a hedge backwards as my hair was very thick and wild. She made me have a perm, the old type with the metal stand and metal wires coming out of it, it looked like a massive stainless steel octopus, I hated the perm and brushed it out when I got home but all I was left with was a frizzy bush. My mum kept using my dad's Brylcream to try and make it look smooth. Since that day I have never set foot in a hairdressers, I cut my own hair and dye it myself, put it in rollers until dry and then tong it. I make a darned good job of it too.

I do it at home. Nice n easy hair colourant.

Do it! I gave up the highlights a couple of years ago in my late 50s.

I was told by my incredibly trendy grand daughter last week that my hair looks amazing and that young people are paying to have hair like mine.

I wear it just past my shoulders and I'm very lucky in that the grey is a nice grey and blends in well with my previous blonde shades.

I've never regretted it.

Only my hairdresser knows how much grey hair I have.... and I'm going to keep it that way~~ LOLOL

I'd absolutely roll with the natural colour.

Had to give up colouring my hair several years ago when my hairdresser said if I kept colouring along with the meds I have to take I would lose all my hair! Very scary so stopped colouring as my hair had become very thin & still is! Put up with the grey hair as it is so much better than being bald! Not happy but do still have some hair even if it is so thin now. Need the meds to keep going so cant change that. Sad life isnt it when you get old, getting old does beat the alternative though😂

At 83 years of age I've never had my hair coloured, it's exactly like my Ma's looked and I like it, of course, it saves me a fortune. I prefer to put petrol in my car.

I started to go grey very young and did dye it, but in later years - long ago now - I decided to go grey and it is a relief not to bother with dye. Also, I am old! Grey hair happens and I am ok with that.

Georgesgran

Go with the grey! At least give it a try - you can always go back to the bottle if you’re not happy.

Loving the hair colour, I also use a purple treatment for my grey, brings out the silver
highlights and softens the greys.