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merlotgran Sat 31-Aug-24 11:19:41

If this were a light hearted thread, I’d be tempted to suggest that Gransnet is beginning to feel like Midsomer Murders. Yet another poster has disappeared in mysterious circumstances.

It’s deadly serious though. Attempts to contact Urmstongran are falling on stony ground and many of us are concerned because we know how challenging her life is at the moment.

Many of us have received messages of support from Urms when life has dealt us the cruellest of blows and yet we are unable to contact her via pms.

She always let us know when she was taking a break from GN so to go on a long awaited holiday and just disappear is out of character.

I suspect foul play and I’m not taking the p**s!

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 11:24:34

Those male insults don't pertain to a mans sexual values where I come from.
There isn't a male version, except "man whore", and doesn't that just sound wonderful?
Yet people think its acceptable to fling it around about Rayner.

biglouis Sun 01-Sept-24 11:21:45

Tarty is a (mainly working class) adjective which was often thrown about in my native Liverpol when I was younger. I dont know if this is still the case as its 40 years since I lived there. The equivalent insult for a male was to call him a "prick" which carries both sexual and social class connotations. "Oik" and "twat" were two others.

rafichagran Sun 01-Sept-24 11:15:58

Oreo

Why on earth is this a third thread about missing posters?🤔

I suppose because people want to post about it. I have just looked at Gransnet. Petra are you saying equating someone to a tart is alright then. It is not however much you try to dress it up.

NittWitt Sun 01-Sept-24 11:10:12

I actually think Nicola Sturgeon's stylist got it right for her as First Minister, with outfits of jacket + skirt/trousers in solid colours.

Doodledog Sun 01-Sept-24 10:56:44

NittWitt

Male politicians have a 'uniform' of suit, shirt & tie.
That makes things much easier, tho boring, for them.

Yes. I think TM tired to copy that, but feminise it with the necklaces and shoes. It doesn't matter what women do, though. Other women will criticise their taste, their looks, their personal lives, their families - anything rather than see them as successful professional women who may well have done better than their critics, often in the face of difficult circumstances.

LauraNorderr Sun 01-Sept-24 10:56:20

I just wish that all of the petty reporting would stop and we, as experienced adults could be left to judge for ourselves and challenge those who are rude or downright out of order.
I’d like to see all posters return and those who have GNHQ on speed dial reprimanded.

NittWitt Sun 01-Sept-24 10:47:49

Male politicians have a 'uniform' of suit, shirt & tie.
That makes things much easier, tho boring, for them.

Doodledog Sun 01-Sept-24 10:32:30

Have you forgotten former Labour MP Tracy Brabin?
No, I remember. Another woman getting treated in a way men are not.

I also remember Theresa May getting a lot of sniggers about her choice of footwear and big, chunky necklaces.
More of the same, but less sexual, and more about the styles. I liked her necklaces, but thought her trousers always looked too short, for what that's worth. Nobody suggested TM was a tart though, although it was implicit in some of the comments about (the Northern, working class) Tracy Brabin.

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 10:30:03

grin

Oreo Sun 01-Sept-24 10:28:55

There are some good forums out there as well as MN.
Marydoll I just won’t read eight pages of waffle but have been assured that Callistemon has been banned, but now you say that isn’t so?I need a lie down.

Doodledog Sun 01-Sept-24 10:27:40

fancythat

There are several people, myself included, who are not good with jokes.
We just dont pick them up. And never have done. Anywhere.

There was nothing to indicate with the original post[and other posts by different posters on a range of threads] to indicate a joke.

Not having a go at GG at all.
But Doodledog, with respect, "jokes" help to add to spread of misinformation.

Fair point. They can do, if people don't pick them up. But at the same time, unless the circumstances surrounding the comment make the joke comment plausible (in this case that GN bans right wing posters) why would someone believe them?

I realise that we are all different though, and didn't mean to be insensitive to that.

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 10:23:03

Yes,we've had the mass migration of members to another forum before, and then they all came back. smile

Marydoll Sun 01-Sept-24 10:21:06

Freya5

Doodledog

Freya5

GrannyGravy13

The only connection as far as I can see between our banned/suspended GN friends is that they are right of centre in terms of their politics…

Banning someone for being right of centre, unless views were racist etc, why should they be banned for their political views.

Do you seriously think that is what happened? Of course it was a TIC comment. This is how misinformation is spread. And disinformation, come to that.

Seriously, why was it written then!

Some of us get to know personalities on GN and usually realise when something is TIC.
However, it does mean posts can be misinterpreted.
Just like posters saying saying Calli had been banned, because they haven't read the whole bloomin' thread.

Oreo Sun 01-Sept-24 10:19:14

MissAdventure

She hasn't been banned.
She is having technical problems, from what has been said a few posts back.

Callistemon has been banned, but Urmstongran has had tech difficulties.
This thread is getting like Chinese whispers.I hope Callistemon will be able to return, but she may not want to in any case.There are many other forums out there.

Caleo Sun 01-Sept-24 10:15:12

Well, Cossy ,I declare you may call me any name you like but don't misquote me, or dig up my sinful past.

MissAdventure Sun 01-Sept-24 10:14:39

She hasn't been banned.
She is having technical problems, from what has been said a few posts back.

Rekarie Sun 01-Sept-24 10:12:17

Late to this but I'd been wondering where Callistemon was. Tried to send a DM but it failed. I cannot believe she's been banned! She was kind and thoughtful and never ruffled feathers. In my opinion of course.

Primrose53 Sun 01-Sept-24 10:12:09

Doodledog

M0nica

All politicians, male and female, have their bearing and clothes criticised, Boris Johnson, Dominic Cummings, Michael Foot, Jeremy Corbyn - and that's just for starters, and of course a lot of women polticians

Still more why should someone who criticises a woman politician be banned but someone who criticises a male one not? Sauce for the goose should be sauce for the gander.

If anyone can tell me a word for a male politician (or any male person) that equates to ‘tart’, I’d be interested to hear it. I don’t mean ‘stud’ or another word that suggests prowess - I mean one that suggests prostitution or promiscuous sexual activity.

And whilst Johnson has been criticised for fathering numerous children, it was his infidelity that was mentioned but the ‘legitimacy’ of his offspring.

I don’t think anyone has ever linked a politician’s clothing to their sexual behaviour until AR, who, despite being more successful than anyone on here (AFAIK, anyway) has also suffered disparaging remarks about her social class, her accent and her lack of education.

If those remarks get anyone banned, and we don’t know that they did, it was nothing to do with geese or ganders. It was sexism mixed with classism - pure and simple.

Have you forgotten former Labour MP Tracy Brabin?

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/tracy-brabin-dress-labour-handmaids-tale-shoulder-twitter-a9324701.html

I also remember Theresa May getting a lot of sniggers about her choice of footwear and big, chunky necklaces.

fancythat Sun 01-Sept-24 10:04:28

There are several people, myself included, who are not good with jokes.
We just dont pick them up. And never have done. Anywhere.

There was nothing to indicate with the original post[and other posts by different posters on a range of threads] to indicate a joke.

Not having a go at GG at all.
But Doodledog, with respect, "jokes" help to add to spread of misinformation.

Doodledog Sun 01-Sept-24 09:59:48

It was a joke.

Freya5 Sun 01-Sept-24 09:59:03

Doodledog

Freya5

GrannyGravy13

The only connection as far as I can see between our banned/suspended GN friends is that they are right of centre in terms of their politics…

Banning someone for being right of centre, unless views were racist etc, why should they be banned for their political views.

Do you seriously think that is what happened? Of course it was a TIC comment. This is how misinformation is spread. And disinformation, come to that.

Seriously, why was it written then!

dogsmother Sun 01-Sept-24 09:55:50

I am so glad I only dip in and out commenting occasionally therefore not really able to make judgements on many of the personalities.
I have been around for several years and find this a wonderful place to come to share and ponder. I do know who can be brutal.

Doodledog Sun 01-Sept-24 09:51:53

Freya5

GrannyGravy13

The only connection as far as I can see between our banned/suspended GN friends is that they are right of centre in terms of their politics…

Banning someone for being right of centre, unless views were racist etc, why should they be banned for their political views.

Do you seriously think that is what happened? Of course it was a TIC comment. This is how misinformation is spread. And disinformation, come to that.

Marydoll Sun 01-Sept-24 09:48:42

GrannyGravy13

Marydoll yes it was 🤣

Callistemon is not right of centre I
got that wrong 🤦‍♀️

🤣

GrannyGravy13 Sun 01-Sept-24 09:45:14

Marydoll yes it was 🤣

Callistemon is not right of centre I
got that wrong 🤦‍♀️