Esmay
Dickens -
You are right , of course .
I am getting better at getting out of things .
People's persistence absolutely amazes me .
I've had a whole year of being asked to go to things .
One of my friends is exceptionally nice to me and I'm grateful to her for many kind acts - she's the one who volunteers my services or insists on some new senior group .
I'm very different from her .
She hates being alone and has go out with her friends all the time whereas I enjoy my company listening to classical music and reading , writing or doing my art work .
People's persistence absolutely amazes me
Me too. I learned the hard way - explaining that I couldn't do such and such because... Which prompted the "Oh, but you can do that another day, can't you" type of response. Basically, I was allowing other people to dictate how I conducted my life and which activities I got involved in, and when.
It came to a head one evening when a friend was almost bullying me into doing something I really didn't want to do. Tired of the bullying, I blurted out the truth and said simply that I did not want to do what she was asking of me because it was something that I really would not enjoy at all and would she please stop trying to coerce me. The truth is that this friend simply needed another person to accompany her - anyone - she just didn't want to go to the venue alone.
After that, I stopped making excuses or giving reasons.
I would never do this to a friend (unless it was an emergency) and so don't accept it being done to me.
Your friend hates being alone - therein lies the problem. She's attempting to organise your life to fit around her need. Don't be intimidated by her kind acts, if she values you as a person in your own right, she wouldn't keep attempting to manipulate you.
