Days when you’ve got nothing on

Sometimes those days when you have nothing on end up busier than days when something is planned.

I'm with you Maw; I find I can cope with weekdays alone, but weekends are awful. I'm ok with reading all afternoon during the week.
I'm glad I have rugby to go to on Saturdays in winter, and I always try to schedule cinema visits on a Sunday matinee. Just booked for 'Paddington in Peru' next month and found a friend to go with.

Would give anything to be sitting companionably with my DH again...

I love days where I am not going out in the evenings too. The days are busy with activities but I really love evenings indoors.

I love a “me” day but seldom get one. 😥

Katyj

Cossy. No wonder you’d love a day on your own, you are very busy but probably in a good way. Even so try and find a bit of peace and quiet somewhere it’ll do you good.

Thank you, I didn’t mean to come across as dismissive of those alone not through choice.

When my dear mother died we sold her house and with our share bought a holiday lodge/static caravan, on a very quiet owners only park and since then (March this year) go as much as can (mainly weekends) to “escape” and recharge.

Our younger three are still in their 20’s, youngest only 22, so they will fly the coop (eventually) and then I’ll miss them!

eggplant

Aveline

I'm ridiculously inconsistent. On days when I have a lot on I fantasise about a day to myself-but on those empty days I'm fed up that I have nothing much to do!

Bingo! A bit like holidays. I want to go, when I get there, I want to go home!

Oh yes - sometimes holiday memories are better than the actual holiday! I have found it takes approx 10 days to get homesick.

Busy day today - got 2 grandkids here for the day - sunny here, so they can kick the ball around in the cul de sac. I have lovely neighbours who don’t seem to mind ….

biglouis

I try to keep sundays as free as possible but there is no such thing as "nothing on" when you run a business. There is only "putting off til tomorrow what you should be doing today".

I'm a great procrastinater.
Perhaps it's more a kind of back-against-the-wall attitude, like revising for an exam in the school cloakroom ten minutes before the exam is due to start!

Cossy. No wonder you’d love a day on your own, you are very busy but probably in a good way. Even so try and find a bit of peace and quiet somewhere it’ll do you good.

Georgesgran

I expect nanna8 just means a day of pleasing herself, rather than a day of being organised and having to please others? I don’t think she means sitting on the sofa for 10 hours doing absolutely nothing.
After my Sis-in-Law leaves here, I’m going to have such a day, but I’ll catch up with the laundry and tidy the garden - I don’t have to, but I want to.

That's what I thought she meant too.

Today is such a day and although there are so many things I could be doing eg a bit of housework, some decluttering, tidying, I'm on here!!

I have lots of nothing on days now, and I have a little routine.
Chores and online in the morning. Housework/gardening, then on pc for a while.
After 2pm (no earlier, I'm strict about it,) I watch something on Netflix or read a book. Sometimes I nod off...
Cook evening meal, watch 6pm news, then anything on tv.
But today I'm having my flu/covid jab......a bit apprehensive about the two together.

Like you Maw I’d give anything to have my busy life with my beloved back. The time alone is so depressing for me. Early days I expect I’ll get used to it but at the moment it’s bl**dy awful.

Aveline

I'm ridiculously inconsistent. On days when I have a lot on I fantasise about a day to myself-but on those empty days I'm fed up that I have nothing much to do!

Bingo! A bit like holidays. I want to go, when I get there, I want to go home!

RosieMaw2

Sorry, I didn’t mean funny in any kind of amusing way, I guess I meant funny-peculiar or maybe ironic is a better word.

Of course you’re right, I should be careful what I wish for.

Rather clumsy of me, sorry

I’ll always find something to do, but yes, a day with no obligations, instead choices, is a pleasure.
Not today, my daughter is borrowing my car for a couple of days, I have things to do before I hand it over.

Cossy

RosiesMaw2

You sound very fortunate Redhead, I frequently spend whole days or weekends (especially Sundays) without speaking to a living soul (the dog excepted) and as for “hustle and bustle”, when you’re on your own and the nearest family 1 1/2 hours away , days “alone” are far from rare.
Fortunately I like my own company, enjoy reading and can cope with the “empty” days up to a point. Judging by the comments of some of my other widowed friends, I am not alone in this.

It’s so funny, I long for days on my own (husband, four dogs, 3 AC plus a wife, all still living here!)

I guess each of us just gets used to our own particular situations

Funny, how?

All I’d say is, Be careful what you wish for.

I try to keep sundays as free as possible but there is no such thing as "nothing on" when you run a business. There is only "putting off til tomorrow what you should be doing today".

RosiesMaw2

You sound very fortunate Redhead, I frequently spend whole days or weekends (especially Sundays) without speaking to a living soul (the dog excepted) and as for “hustle and bustle”, when you’re on your own and the nearest family 1 1/2 hours away , days “alone” are far from rare.
Fortunately I like my own company, enjoy reading and can cope with the “empty” days up to a point. Judging by the comments of some of my other widowed friends, I am not alone in this.

It’s so funny, I long for days on my own (husband, four dogs, 3 AC plus a wife, all still living here!)

I guess each of us just gets used to our own particular situations

I'm ridiculously inconsistent. On days when I have a lot on I fantasise about a day to myself-but on those empty days I'm fed up that I have nothing much to do!

I never sit still all day - I would get back ache if I did that. A positive from our ridiculously long isolation was tidy drawers, abeautiful weed free garden and dozens of colour matched face masks. I actually don’t mind ironing,either because I find it soothing. Now that’s really batty, isn’t it ?

I expect nanna8 just means a day of pleasing herself, rather than a day of being organised and having to please others? I don’t think she means sitting on the sofa for 10 hours doing absolutely nothing.
After my Sis-in-Law leaves here, I’m going to have such a day, but I’ll catch up with the laundry and tidy the garden - I don’t have to, but I want to.

Still working so a day doing nothing is rare. However I do love a day that’s just spread ahead for me a rare treat.

Without wishing to offend anyone on their own, I would relish a day on my own, doing nothing. I always have something to do.

However, when on my own, I feel guilty if I do nothing. I envy those Gransnetters, who post about spending the afternoon reading. I would love to do that, but my failing eyesight, despite glasses, makes it difficult to read.

I would hate to have a do nothing day. I would need to find things to do. They could be at home activities, but I would have to have something to keep me busy all day.

You sound very fortunate Redhead, I frequently spend whole days or weekends (especially Sundays) without speaking to a living soul (the dog excepted) and as for “hustle and bustle”, when you’re on your own and the nearest family 1 1/2 hours away , days “alone” are far from rare.
Fortunately I like my own company, enjoy reading and can cope with the “empty” days up to a point. Judging by the comments of some of my other widowed friends, I am not alone in this.