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Days when you’ve got nothing on

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nanna8 Sat 05-Oct-24 00:57:40

I sometimes think these are the best days. Excluding family get togethers, of course. It is such a luxury to have a whole day spread out with no social events ,no appointments, no pressing things you have to do. I must be getting b. old because I appreciate these days more and more ( and I sleep better the night before,too !) Do others have this feeling or am I just becoming weird in my old age ?

Redhead56 Sat 05-Oct-24 01:05:21

Not weird the rare day that occurs even in retirement nothing planned. Its do what you want day for you so do that exactly what you want.
It’s a rare day on your own without any kind of commitments to relish then get back to hustle and bustle of reality.

BlueBelle Sat 05-Oct-24 07:20:16

Days when you ve got nothing on….could be darned chilly at this time of year

Marg75 Sat 05-Oct-24 07:23:56

BlueBelle 😂😂

Katyj Sat 05-Oct-24 07:26:40

Yes nanna8 I know where you’re coming from. I sleep much better when I know I’ve not much on the next day. For this reason now I try and condense my chores, we pick the grandchildren up twice a week, so I make those my busy days with appointments and cleaning. It’s usually the weekend and maybe Monday that’s quiet. I look forward those days 😃

RosiesMaw2 Sat 05-Oct-24 07:47:26

You sound very fortunate Redhead, I frequently spend whole days or weekends (especially Sundays) without speaking to a living soul (the dog excepted) and as for “hustle and bustle”, when you’re on your own and the nearest family 1 1/2 hours away , days “alone” are far from rare.
Fortunately I like my own company, enjoy reading and can cope with the “empty” days up to a point. Judging by the comments of some of my other widowed friends, I am not alone in this.

M0nica Sat 05-Oct-24 08:01:17

I would hate to have a do nothing day. I would need to find things to do. They could be at home activities, but I would have to have something to keep me busy all day.

Marydoll Sat 05-Oct-24 08:26:05

Without wishing to offend anyone on their own, I would relish a day on my own, doing nothing. I always have something to do.

However, when on my own, I feel guilty if I do nothing. I envy those Gransnetters, who post about spending the afternoon reading. I would love to do that, but my failing eyesight, despite glasses, makes it difficult to read.

Harris27 Sat 05-Oct-24 08:26:22

Still working so a day doing nothing is rare. However I do love a day that’s just spread ahead for me a rare treat.

Georgesgran Sat 05-Oct-24 08:27:11

I expect nanna8 just means a day of pleasing herself, rather than a day of being organised and having to please others? I don’t think she means sitting on the sofa for 10 hours doing absolutely nothing.
After my Sis-in-Law leaves here, I’m going to have such a day, but I’ll catch up with the laundry and tidy the garden - I don’t have to, but I want to.

nanna8 Sat 05-Oct-24 08:41:08

I never sit still all day - I would get back ache if I did that. A positive from our ridiculously long isolation was tidy drawers, abeautiful weed free garden and dozens of colour matched face masks. I actually don’t mind ironing,either because I find it soothing. Now that’s really batty, isn’t it ?

Aveline Sat 05-Oct-24 08:44:18

I'm ridiculously inconsistent. On days when I have a lot on I fantasise about a day to myself-but on those empty days I'm fed up that I have nothing much to do!

Cossy Sat 05-Oct-24 09:06:09

RosiesMaw2

You sound very fortunate Redhead, I frequently spend whole days or weekends (especially Sundays) without speaking to a living soul (the dog excepted) and as for “hustle and bustle”, when you’re on your own and the nearest family 1 1/2 hours away , days “alone” are far from rare.
Fortunately I like my own company, enjoy reading and can cope with the “empty” days up to a point. Judging by the comments of some of my other widowed friends, I am not alone in this.

It’s so funny, I long for days on my own (husband, four dogs, 3 AC plus a wife, all still living here!)

I guess each of us just gets used to our own particular situations flowers

biglouis Sat 05-Oct-24 09:08:22

I try to keep sundays as free as possible but there is no such thing as "nothing on" when you run a business. There is only "putting off til tomorrow what you should be doing today".

RosiesMaw2 Sat 05-Oct-24 09:13:55

Cossy

RosiesMaw2

You sound very fortunate Redhead, I frequently spend whole days or weekends (especially Sundays) without speaking to a living soul (the dog excepted) and as for “hustle and bustle”, when you’re on your own and the nearest family 1 1/2 hours away , days “alone” are far from rare.
Fortunately I like my own company, enjoy reading and can cope with the “empty” days up to a point. Judging by the comments of some of my other widowed friends, I am not alone in this.

It’s so funny, I long for days on my own (husband, four dogs, 3 AC plus a wife, all still living here!)

I guess each of us just gets used to our own particular situations flowers

Funny, how?

All I’d say is, Be careful what you wish for.

Jaxjacky Sat 05-Oct-24 09:52:46

I’ll always find something to do, but yes, a day with no obligations, instead choices, is a pleasure.
Not today, my daughter is borrowing my car for a couple of days, I have things to do before I hand it over.

Cossy Sat 05-Oct-24 09:55:45

RosieMaw2

Sorry, I didn’t mean funny in any kind of amusing way, I guess I meant funny-peculiar or maybe ironic is a better word.

Of course you’re right, I should be careful what I wish for.

Rather clumsy of me, sorry flowers

eggplant Sat 05-Oct-24 10:02:03

Aveline

I'm ridiculously inconsistent. On days when I have a lot on I fantasise about a day to myself-but on those empty days I'm fed up that I have nothing much to do!

Bingo! A bit like holidays. I want to go, when I get there, I want to go home!

Doodle Sat 05-Oct-24 10:05:15

Like you Maw I’d give anything to have my busy life with my beloved back. The time alone is so depressing for me. Early days I expect I’ll get used to it but at the moment it’s bl**dy awful.

henetha Sat 05-Oct-24 10:10:06

I have lots of nothing on days now, and I have a little routine.
Chores and online in the morning. Housework/gardening, then on pc for a while.
After 2pm (no earlier, I'm strict about it,) I watch something on Netflix or read a book. Sometimes I nod off...
Cook evening meal, watch 6pm news, then anything on tv.
But today I'm having my flu/covid jab......a bit apprehensive about the two together.

Allira Sat 05-Oct-24 10:12:10

Georgesgran

I expect nanna8 just means a day of pleasing herself, rather than a day of being organised and having to please others? I don’t think she means sitting on the sofa for 10 hours doing absolutely nothing.
After my Sis-in-Law leaves here, I’m going to have such a day, but I’ll catch up with the laundry and tidy the garden - I don’t have to, but I want to.

That's what I thought she meant too.

Today is such a day and although there are so many things I could be doing eg a bit of housework, some decluttering, tidying, I'm on here!!

Katyj Sat 05-Oct-24 10:13:16

Cossy. No wonder you’d love a day on your own, you are very busy but probably in a good way. Even so try and find a bit of peace and quiet somewhere it’ll do you good.

Allira Sat 05-Oct-24 10:16:28

biglouis

I try to keep sundays as free as possible but there is no such thing as "nothing on" when you run a business. There is only "putting off til tomorrow what you should be doing today".

I'm a great procrastinater.
Perhaps it's more a kind of back-against-the-wall attitude, like revising for an exam in the school cloakroom ten minutes before the exam is due to start!

crazyH Sat 05-Oct-24 10:21:25

Busy day today - got 2 grandkids here for the day - sunny here, so they can kick the ball around in the cul de sac. I have lovely neighbours who don’t seem to mind ….

nanna8 Sat 05-Oct-24 10:24:36

eggplant

Aveline

I'm ridiculously inconsistent. On days when I have a lot on I fantasise about a day to myself-but on those empty days I'm fed up that I have nothing much to do!

Bingo! A bit like holidays. I want to go, when I get there, I want to go home!

Oh yes - sometimes holiday memories are better than the actual holiday! I have found it takes approx 10 days to get homesick.