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Kate1949 Thu 10-Oct-24 12:12:56

Make my mother buy me a toothbrush and toothpaste so I didn't lose all my teet

Shadowdancer Thu 10-Oct-24 12:06:10

I wish that I had known that there is no shame in failing so long as you are able to regroup and move on. I failed the eleven plus and left school at 16 with three grade one CSEs (O level equivalent). I wish at that time I had been guided to continue with my education and gain the required number of O levels for the next step. It took me until my forties to go to university and gain a professional qualification. I will always be grateful to the Open University for helping me to get back into education. I wish my parents had recognised my potential and that my father had lived to see me graduate with my (BA (OU) & Bsc Hons OT

BigBertha1 Thu 10-Oct-24 11:06:35

Silence. You don't have to speak- use silence.

Athrawes Thu 10-Oct-24 11:01:01

I wouldn't like to go back to being a child though I had a pretty good childhood. I've enjoyed learning a wide range of work from 17 when I left home and went up to London. My parents were on the brink of being horrified that I changed jobs virtually as often as socks but I loved every minute of meeting different people at my various jobs and the wide range of opportunities I took on have been so very helpful over the years.

NanKate Thu 10-Oct-24 08:39:29

I didn’t do well academically even though my parents sacrificed for me to go to a private school. I left with no qualifications. I always felt I could do better. I did go back and sat both my English and French exams and passed them.

Years later I applied to University as I wanted to teach. I got a place at Oxford Brookes Uni one day a week for a year. It was a transformative time for me. I was taught Learning Styles and found out how I would best learn. It was a light bulb moment in my life and subsequently I taught a variety of subjects such as Presentation Skills, Time Management, Confidence Building etc

The only sad thing is that my parents never saw my true potential.

If anyone is interested in knowing their Learning Styles look for the Honey and Mumford Learning Styles online and find out what your style is. I’m an Activist married to a Theorist.

Esmay Thu 10-Oct-24 07:39:05

Rosiebee -
Do you wonder what turned you into a people pleaser ?
In my case , I think it's survival tactics from being bullied by my mother and later by my daughter .
I've met other people ,who were bullied and they are really bolshy
not at all agreeable and easy to get on with .
I'm just too trusting and generous in my friendships .
Going over to a friend's house with yet more flowers and another Get Well card and to be treated like something stuck on the bottom of her shoe - really got to me .
I wish that I'd learnt this lesson before .

Ziplok Wed 09-Oct-24 14:06:41

I wish I’d followed my own wishes when it came to choosing which subjects to take at O level, rather than be influenced by others. I think I would have done better at the time. However, all was not lost, it just took me longer to reach my goals.

Rosiebee Wed 09-Oct-24 14:00:14

Not to be a "people pleaser". For most of my life I didn't feel able to give myself permission to be happy until I'd sorted everyone else out. Then I met DH and have been a very happy bunny ever since. It's all about perspective and that's what I would wish for my younger self.

Ilovedogs22 Wed 09-Oct-24 12:17:53

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aonk Wed 09-Oct-24 12:05:55

How to be a better judge of people. How to improve my self esteem and how to deal with my difficult father. Also how to manage anxiety.

Ilovedogs22 Wed 09-Oct-24 11:33:10

Esmay

To stop being bullied by people !

Hear, hear! Esmay. 😊

Ilovedogs22 Wed 09-Oct-24 11:31:18

MissInterpreted

To somehow be more assertive and stand up for myself, especially to my mother!

Ohhh MissInterpreted yes! I was bullied by the 'Golden Boy' in the sixth-form, he was upper-sixth, I was lower-sixth and he made my life a torture! The teachers just turned a blind -eye! I still suffer with a dreadful lack of confidence & bouts of agoraphobia, when I can only go out in the dark or wearing a sort of disguise (stupid hat/glasses). He effectively destroyed my life. 🤔

lixy Wed 09-Oct-24 11:22:09

To take at least ten breaths before saying ‘yes, of course I can help move that grand piano to your attic/dig up your pampas grass/ collect the children from school even though I am currently more than 100 miles away.
But then life might not have been so much fun.

nanna8 Wed 09-Oct-24 11:11:36

Same with the piano. Wish I had practised more and that I could remember how to play today. My husband can just sit down and play lots of tunes , I am so envious.

halfpint1 Wed 09-Oct-24 10:46:54

Not to get married young.

Esmay Wed 09-Oct-24 10:08:54

To stop being bullied by people !

Redhead56 Wed 09-Oct-24 09:45:00

To be less gullible and naive as a young adult it could have saved me heartache.

Cossy Wed 09-Oct-24 09:40:30

Definitely arithmetic, also to be fluent in another language, master a musical instrument, (started lessons on several, gave up as hated practising!), and make up lessons (rarely wear make-up, I’m rubbish at it!)

Indigo8 Wed 09-Oct-24 09:35:48

Not to think that people know better than I did simply because they are older. The amount of bad advice I took, because I assumed they were wiser far outweighs any useful information.
The world changes all the time and the older generation are ill equipped to offer much in the way of advice, especially career advice.

sodapop Wed 09-Oct-24 09:23:48

Kim19

Wish I had stuck in at piano lessons.

Me too Kim19 I did well learning to play as a child but then the teen years brought other interests and I gave up playing the piano.

MissInterpreted Wed 09-Oct-24 08:01:03

To somehow be more assertive and stand up for myself, especially to my mother!

Kim19 Wed 09-Oct-24 07:59:53

Wish I had stuck in at piano lessons.

midgey Tue 08-Oct-24 21:26:52

Arithmetic! The sight of numbers just makes me shut down. Discovered fairly recently that my brother had the same problem and have come to the conclusion that we just weren’t taught properly! We shared a governess when we started school .

Babs03 Tue 08-Oct-24 20:34:31

As a young child what would you like to go back and teach yourself, am not so much thinking of school topics, but lessons that could have saved us a whole heap of trouble or unhappiness later on.
For me it would be that 'failing' isn't the worst thing in life, that in fact failure is okay and can be a good thing when it makes us take stock and possibly change direction, discovering other things we are good at. And it makes us more tolerant of other people's limitations rather than espousing the view that those who fail should simply 'pull their socks up.'