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Biscuitmuncher Tue 15-Oct-24 17:47:31

A bit of a funny one, DD is going on a first date. She's mid 20s he's 30 and he wants to go somewhere dog friendly so he can bring his dog! She's not sure if this is a bit odd

cookiemonster66 Wed 16-Oct-24 11:59:55

I don't think it is odd at all, the dog is part of his life and it is a deal breaker if dog and new potential partner do not get along, better to find out right from the start

Kate1949 Wed 16-Oct-24 11:02:50

Well if it was a test to see if the dog liked the date that would be a massive red flag to me. The first date would be the last.

Allira Wed 16-Oct-24 10:51:54

Oreo

I would regard it as a red flag tbh.
What kind of guy wants to bring his dog on a first date?

I think the breed might be an indication of what type of man he is.

American Bully XL - stay clear
Cavapoo - Married? 🤔
Labrador - Reliable, dependable?

Oreo Wed 16-Oct-24 10:48:06

I would regard it as a red flag tbh.
What kind of guy wants to bring his dog on a first date?

Allira Wed 16-Oct-24 10:45:47

dragonfly46

Sounds fine to me. He probably just wants to check she likes the dog as they come as a pair.
Unless a first date sounds dangerous I would go for it.
I wouldn't be happy if it was a dangerous breed however.

"Love me, love my American Bully XL"

JenniferEccles Wed 16-Oct-24 10:44:30

I’m not surprised at this at all.
Dog owners these days seem to think they are entitled to take them everywhere.
There have been several discussions on here about how difficult it is to find a cafe or even a restaurant which is dog free for those of us who would prefer that.

We were in a large out of town John Lewis recently, trying to listen to an assistant in the electrical department, and were struggling to do so as there was a blasted dog near us barking away with the owner seemingly oblivious as usual.

In the case here my guess is the chap wants to see what his dog ‘thinks’ of the potential girlfriend.

dragonfly46 Wed 16-Oct-24 10:42:33

Sounds fine to me. He probably just wants to check she likes the dog as they come as a pair.
Unless a first date sounds dangerous I would go for it.
I wouldn't be happy if it was a dangerous breed however.

Allira Wed 16-Oct-24 10:39:57

infoman

Would never start a relationship with some one who already had an animal in situ.

On the first disagreement,the animal owner would seek solace in their animal.

I'll let DD know 😀

Allira Wed 16-Oct-24 10:39:10

We can worry but the only thing you can say is to advise her to get you or a friend to phone partway through so she has an excuse to leave if she wants to.

It's a cliché but it should work!

henetha Wed 16-Oct-24 10:14:22

It seems relatively harmless to me. Hopefully it will go well.

Kate1949 Wed 16-Oct-24 10:11:46

Things have changed. When I was a teenager, people would be so excited about a first date with someone they fancied the last thing on their minds would be whether or not they could bring the dog!

Kim19 Wed 16-Oct-24 09:20:55

Wouldn't do for me but just as well we're all different. If your daughter has reservations she should heed her vibes.

winterwhite Wed 16-Oct-24 09:13:30

Depends what sort of ‘somewhere’ has been chosen for the meeting. If a walk, no problem. If a meal out, yes very odd.

Redhead56 Wed 16-Oct-24 08:47:52

Just a meet up or drink but not a pub or restaurant meal with a dog in tow. Sounds like a man who has a dog and it’s the centre of his life. I’m sitting on the fence about this one glad it’s not up to me to decide.

karmalady Wed 16-Oct-24 07:01:17

Perhaps he is nervous and needs an ice breaker if conversation dries up, I do find it strange though. Dd should be cautious about this person or perhaps the dog is a trained helper dog

Sago Wed 16-Oct-24 06:54:57

infoman

Would never start a relationship with some one who already had an animal in situ.

On the first disagreement,the animal owner would seek solace in their animal.

What a bizarre post!

infoman Wed 16-Oct-24 06:52:20

Would never start a relationship with some one who already had an animal in situ.

On the first disagreement,the animal owner would seek solace in their animal.

mum2three Wed 16-Oct-24 06:35:53

Has he checked if she actually likes dogs, or is he one of those 'love me, love my dog' people?

Summerfly Wed 16-Oct-24 06:10:25

MissAdventure

Unless it's a chihuahua called princess FooFoo and wears pink tutus... (or is a crotch sniffer)
Oh MissA, love it. 😂

Esmay Wed 16-Oct-24 05:51:47

Is this canine a service dog ?!
Much as I love dogs and have had many rescue ones -I do find this request a bit strange !
Maybe he's had dog hating past girlfriends .
I do recall trying to suppress my amusement when a friend , who can't stand any animals told me that the first time she went to bed with a guy-his dog climbed in a licked her face throughout the entire romantic encounter .
The dog in question was a huge hairy mountain dog of Bernese origin !
I still laugh about it .
The guy was history .

annodomini Tue 15-Oct-24 23:35:24

Obviously the young man has to have his dog's approval of the new girlfriend.

Biscuitmuncher Tue 15-Oct-24 23:26:19

Millie22 that's nothing to do with me

Millie22 Tue 15-Oct-24 21:05:40

I'm sure this was on MN recently.

Biscuitmuncher Tue 15-Oct-24 20:59:04

Quite a mix of views, I think it's a little odd for a younger couple to do

JudyBloom Tue 15-Oct-24 20:30:51

Maybe he's been watching 'You've Got Mail' LOL ! Anyway, it seems a nice idea and he might want to see if the dog likes his date and how she is with the dog also, as others have said, it will break the ice. Hope all goes well.