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watermeadow Thu 17-Oct-24 11:39:18

I’m nearly eighty, very well but so lazy now.
I look at the housework needed or out at the garden but have no desire to do the dusting or the weeding. I do the essentials, like walking the dog, shopping and tidying, but so much gets put off.
Lots of people my age are running marathons and lots more are on their last legs. I feel guilty to be so idle when still capable of being more active. Do the rest of you force yourselves or put your feet up?

Shinamae Tue 22-Oct-24 10:17:30

I am 71 and still work part time three days a week in a high dementia care home, if I didn’t I would sit at home watching daytime TV and eating and I would soon get to 14 stone (11st now) 😫
Another loather of housework…

Mt61 Sat 19-Oct-24 15:44:01

I am not sixty yet & feel exactly that, knackered, my muscles ache as if I’ve run a marathon

Gundy Sat 19-Oct-24 15:39:01

I look at it this way - I earned my laziness. Hahaa. I’m capable too of doing more but choose to do more interesting things, and that is whatever I feel like at the moment (a lot of reading, socializing).

I’m really good at helping and supporting other people in their endeavors, to completion. It just seems that my situation at home gets put on the back burner.

My remedy is to create a dinner and invite guests - that way every nook and cranny gets the once over.

mskaz Sat 19-Oct-24 13:54:52

Whilst I understand why you feel like being 'a lazybones' now that you have reached 81 years of age, I would gently like to remind you that one reason you HAVE reached 81 years of age, in relative good health, is because you were not 'a lazybones' before. So, as far as possible, I think you need to exert some self-control and schedule in some regular physical and social activities each week. In this way, you can ask this question again when you reach 101 years of age, in relative good health. Use it or lose it.

Grandma70s Sat 19-Oct-24 12:24:00

It’s interesting to see people’s different perceptions of idleness. To me, housework is doing nothing. It doesn’t use your mind or expand your knowledge. Reading is the most important occupation . It widens horizons, exercises your brain and improves your mind. Reading is definitely not doing nothing.

Jane43 Sat 19-Oct-24 12:09:08

I’m 81 and absolutely loathe housework now. I used to get satisfaction from cleaning the whole house when it was my day off work and at weekends I enjoyed keeping the outside of the house and the garden looking cared for as well as cooking and baking. The inclination to do all that is gone and I think it is inevitable that I will have to get a cleaner to help with the heavy jobs such as cleaning the kitchen, bathroom and en suite.

Sasta Sat 19-Oct-24 12:07:10

Spot on Sue2505!

Sasta Sat 19-Oct-24 11:54:04

biglouis

I dont feel guilty. I employ a cleaner so Im doing my bit for the (black/cash in hand) economy. I have a rule that unless something brings me either money or pleasures I dont do it.

My cleaner is male so he doesnt judge me.

Love your style biglouis 👌🏼

JoanyVG Sat 19-Oct-24 11:32:39

Love that poem Sue2505. Just me!

crazyH Sat 19-Oct-24 10:25:11

My little grandson calls me ‘nannylazybones’

Witzend Sat 19-Oct-24 10:09:30

I love housework. I can sit and look at it for hours. 😂

TBH I spend 20 times longer knitting than I ever do on housework. At least that’s productive - the items I make are needed. But housework, you do it, and sooner or later it just needs doing again.
I do have a bit of a blitz when guests are coming, but apart from that, as long as it’s vaguely presentable….

henetha Sat 19-Oct-24 09:58:35

I'm 87 and still feel guilty if I don't get my chores done in the morning. But I do take the afternoons off now. All my energy has disappeared by then.
I do have a huge list of extra things waiting to be done.... plant spring bulbs, sort out the airing cupboard, tidy paperwork etc.
Will they ever get done? grin

Chardy Sat 19-Oct-24 09:58:26

Early 70s. I do what has to be done, pets needing feeding and exercising. Poorly folk need supporting. But other than that I'm a tired slob.
If I'm cleaning my teeth and the basin needs a clean, I'll do it it there and then. I certainly don't wake up thinking today the bathroom, tomorrow the kitchen. I'm currently looking at a living room carpet that's been desperate for a vac for several days.
After forty years of knocking myself out with work, kids and home, when I retired I said 'No more'! I certainly don't look at other people and wish to pack my life as they've packed theirs. We are individuals and we each do what we do.

Cossy Sat 19-Oct-24 09:52:46

Sasta

You have earned this time
watermeadow to do exactly as you wish! ‘Guilt is a wasted emotion’. (I say that but I do feel guilty, a lot, about not doing ‘stuff’ or enough ‘stuff 🤔.)

👏👏👏

Cossy Sat 19-Oct-24 09:51:40

I’m so much younger and absolutely lazy as they come!

I had such a busy life pre retirement that I relish these times so much!

www.yourdailypoem.com/listpoem.jsp?poem_id=4232

biglouis Sat 19-Oct-24 09:51:32

I dont feel guilty. I employ a cleaner so Im doing my bit for the (black/cash in hand) economy. I have a rule that unless something brings me either money or pleasures I dont do it.

My cleaner is male so he doesnt judge me.

GrannySomerset Sat 19-Oct-24 09:45:32

I too have become concerned about my ability to do nothing, a complete character change since I hit 80. When I have something which must be done I get on with it, so perhaps it is just that nobody needs me to do things now. At least I am well read now!

Pilipala Sat 19-Oct-24 08:39:00

I'm in my mid 60's I have lots going on with childcare for my youngest grandchildren and still working a few hours a week.I so appreciate time just to sit,read,listen to music.I could easily rush about finding jobs to do and feel guilt when I do nothing.
After having cancer a few years ago my mindset changed to self-care and letting a lot go over my head.My house is clean and tidy but with minimal effort.A couple of jobs a day.If a relative calls in for a cuppa I'm happy to sit and chat without thinking I still have beds to make, clothes to hang out,dishes to wash.Everything gets done when it does.
My sister is 10 years older than me and doesn't stop for a minute.She won't have a cuppa if she calls in as she has to rush back to do cleaning, cooking etc.She never sits in the garden as there's too much to do out there.She wears herself out but can't see that's she's the boss of her own time.

Sasta Sat 19-Oct-24 07:49:25

You have earned this time
watermeadow to do exactly as you wish! ‘Guilt is a wasted emotion’. (I say that but I do feel guilty, a lot, about not doing ‘stuff’ or enough ‘stuff 🤔.)

Sasta Sat 19-Oct-24 07:45:30

Kim19

I make myself go out for a walk every day and thoroughly enjoy each and every one but, even though I know that, I still faff about unnecessarily before getting over the threshold. Nuts but....there y'go. Wish I understood it myself.

I’m with you there! I’ve never ever returned from a walk and regretted it or thought well that was a waste of time. But still, I have to force myself 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Goldieoldie15 Fri 18-Oct-24 15:59:07

Sue2505 brilliant! Thank you for posting. Is it Pam Ayers little gem? I screen shot it and will print

sharon103 Fri 18-Oct-24 14:34:13

At almost 70 I have plenty of can't be arsed days.
I never used to be like that.
Must be an age thing. Well that's my excuse anyway.

Sue2505 Fri 18-Oct-24 13:51:13

I was wasting time the other day scrolling through Facebook and came across this poem. It made me laugh out loud as that described me at that very moment!

It is nine thirty in the morning
I must now make a start,
I need to get the hoover out
Stop being a lazy tart,
I shall dust, and sweep, and tidy,
The house will soon begin to glow
As with my trusty tin of Pledge, a-dusting I will go
I’ll check my phone before I start
That took an hour or so,
And then I mentally tick myself off
"Get up you sloth and go",
But I glimpse a crossword empty
In my Take A Break,
I cannot leave that undone
So another half hour I take,
By now it is eleven
And time to make a brew,
I shall also have a biscuit, oh f**k it I’ll take two
Ready, steady, here I go
My pinny's tied on tight,
In half an hour I will be done
The house all clean and bright,
I shall pick up and put some things away
Before I wash the floor,
But once more get distracted
By the postman at the door,
Oh joy! Oh bliss! why look at this!
My magazine has come,
And before I even know it, I am sat down on my bum.
The clock chimes two
Oh deary me
I have not yet begun
What was it I was doing?
What should I have begun?
My polish and my cloth and my vacuum look and stare
While I look round the house from the comfort of my chair
Oh shite with this I whisper, what was it Scarlett said?
"Tomorrow is another day"
I shall clean it then instead.

Lahlah65 Fri 18-Oct-24 13:29:50

Dcba

I’m 82 …..and occasionally I give myself “ a snow day”…..a recall of memories past…….a day to relax and simply cocoon indoors because of a mammoth snowfall during the night and even by morning the snowploughs haven’t managed to clear the local roads ……and the schools have had close too! Nothing much to do but relax, stay warm and cosy and take it easy!

But I also know that if I adopt a too regular routine like this, my body adapts to this ‘no exertion’ lifestyle, and I really don’t like this idea either. So, back I go to the gym three mornings a weeks so I get to socialize with my happy little community there and to get the blood flowing again. All just because I want to reawaken my love of life so my body doesn’t complain and I can continue to enjoy the hobbies that keep me happy and curious and feeling grateful for just living.

Sounds perfect x

Lahlah65 Fri 18-Oct-24 13:28:34

‘ban’