Would you allow a neighbour to use your shower?

When we were in that situation - our one bathroom was being re-fitted, the bath removed and a walk in shower fitted - we’d lived here for less than a year. Observing what was happening two neighbours immediately offered use of their bathroom (shower and toilet). We were very touched by such kindness.

Would we do the same for our current neighbours? Yes we would, they are all both pleasant and helpful.

In the event we were able to use a shower at our sons home, a 20 minute drive away. Most of the time the toilet remained in situ, when it wasn’t coffee at the local pub or a visit to the nearest supermarket solved the problem.

Totally depends. If I know them well enough that I walk my dog with them, most likely. If I don't know them, then probably not. I find it a very personal space to share. I would never ask that of my neighbour myself. I'd go to the local pool for a shower in their changing rooms.

I did once tell a friend no when she asked if her husband could use my shower. He wanted to come over straight after work and worked in an industry where he'd have been taking off clothes covered in chemicals and other fibres and I didn't want to have to tidy that up (I knew he was a messy sort. I also felt uncomfortable with the idea of a man I didn't know well getting undressed and dressed in my bedroom/ensuite while I was home alone with young kids.

I'll do a lot for a lot of people but that sort of thing should be for people you know well enough, IMO.

I would feel alright about it however if it was me in the situation I would not dream of asking a neighbour I would manage with a good wash down, you can keep perfectly clean without a full on shower
As I live alone I wouldn’t want a lone male coming in and out unless he was a neighbour very well known to me

I would happily let a neighbour use my shower for a fortnight. Why ever not? I think it is really important to be a good neighbour.

I'm deeply ashamed of my shabby bathroom , but if a neighbour asked me if she could use it - the answer has to be yes .
I think that it's mean to refuse someone something so necessary .
I've given people accommodation for months .

I've learnt that not being a good neighbour is to your detriment .
You never know if you're going to be locked out , be too ill to get your prescription ..
the list is endless .
My neighbour does things for me and I do things for her .
Living next to someone , who is difficult and unpleasant makes you feel uncomfortable in your own home .
My old neighbour drove me so crazy that I went through a stage of mowing my lawn when I knew that he was out -taking his grandson to a class .
I've even made detours to avoid him .
It was a shame , because I got on well with his wife and daughters . When they've invited ne round - he's sulked and postured .
I dread to think what he's like to live with .

To be honest I think there must be some one who can repair a shower without having to wait two weeks.

So if this happens to any one,
may I suggest going to one of the local gym/s I know this is easier in big city's than it is in rural areas and say your prepared to pay for there showers facility,or ask in one of the large hotel chains offering to pay for the use of their showers.

For context, the neighbours on the MN thread do know one another- they walk their dogs together.

Obviously it is up to the householder whether she lets people use her facilities, but yes, I would allow it. I would give a set time, and expect the neighbour to stick to it - I wouldn’t want to go to use the bathroom to find it occupied, or have someone knocking on the door when I am showering- but it’s not a huge imposition. A shower takes less than half an hour from start to finish.

I don’t socialise with my neighbours, but would do them a favour if they needed it, and hope they would do the same for us.