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Biscuitmuncher Sun 10-Nov-24 10:51:37

Why is it as women we have to know everything?
Every night I have to know what everyone wants to eat because no one has a bloody clue if I ask them, also this week I've been asked how long it would take to get to London, how long something would take to microwave, what his boss would say if he asked for a day off! I'm fed up

ginny Mon 11-Nov-24 13:20:10

I also hate it when I hear a man say’ oh, I don’t know, I just do as I’m told’.

Makes him seem a wimp and the Woman sound like tyrant.
At least my DH doesn’t say that.

fluttERBY123 Mon 11-Nov-24 13:33:30

grannyqueenie

“Do I need a coat?” grin

grin

Dowsabella Mon 11-Nov-24 13:44:49

Loved this post! I had a good chuckle! Now I know I'm not the only one in the world who is expected to know everything! I think my (least) favourite is "Have you seen my (insert item)? I left it here x years ago (where x is any number between 1 and 10) and it's not here now!
My problem is compounded as I used to be a children's librarian, and it really seemed to be my job to know everything, or at least how to find it out!!
(Just waiting to be asked what I'm laughing about!)

David49 Mon 11-Nov-24 13:47:52

We have pretty much a routine, Roast or similar on Sunday, leftovers for a couple of days, Curry or Sweet&Sour mid week, Fish Friday, which only leaves Thursday & Saturday and it’s easy to do a Salad or Pasta for them.

Knittypamela Mon 11-Nov-24 13:55:21

Howabout "did you remember to put the chicken in the fridge?"

grandtanteJE65 Mon 11-Nov-24 14:00:26

Things like how long it would take to get to London or to microwave something: tell them to google it!

What would you like to eat? If no replies are forthcoming, you can do one of two things: either serve something you like, and if they don't that is just to bad. or tell them that next week they make tea.

I was Hermione Granger, long before the Harry Potter books were written, so it does not bother me at all to be the family lexicon.

SueDoku Mon 11-Nov-24 14:04:48

My standard reply to "What's for tea?" has always been, "Elephant's trunk and chips" - never anything else... They stop asking after the 50th time 😄

MissAdventure Mon 11-Nov-24 14:08:40

Urrgh! grin
I've not heard of that before.
Air pie and kick of the cat was usually on offer when my mum was asked.

sankev Mon 11-Nov-24 14:12:49

Multi tasking and organisational skills are part of a woman’s DNA. Unfortunately men are very slow to learn these things because they have mums before wives !!!

Neilspurgeon0 Mon 11-Nov-24 14:17:01

Try I am Your mother not fsad@&:g Google. Works for my DW

leeds22 Mon 11-Nov-24 14:18:27

If DH turns his nose up at what I suggest for tea, I tell him if he doesn't want it then we can have fish - immediate back tracking.

Eva3 Mon 11-Nov-24 14:29:35

My all-time irritating contribution:

'What's happening today then?'

I usually walk out.

Gingster Mon 11-Nov-24 14:50:52

Dh ‘Where are my glasses’

Me. ‘On your head’

😂🤣🤣

hazel93 Mon 11-Nov-24 14:54:27

Oh yes Eva, drives me absolutely mad !
"Well, what would you like to do" ?
""I'm asking you.
Walk out too.
I feel like screaming "You are not a child, how about being a little proactive "

coast35 Mon 11-Nov-24 15:27:42

My Mum used to say that my Dad was always saying: it’s the first I’ve heard of it. It definitely wasn’t! Lol

Baggs Mon 11-Nov-24 15:30:59

I never ask what people want for tea. I just make something and tell them when it's ready. It's what my mum did and it still works.

Quite apart from anything else, I don't have several quick options available at any one time.

We – that is, usually, DH as he likes shopping and I don't – buys fresh meat and fish. I freeze it all and get something out each day. I add anything extra that I might need for a particular recipe to the shopping list. Maybe this is the trick: he basically knows what's available and helps choose what is bought, then I decide what I can be arsed with.

Fresh veg too but that doesn't get frozen, except for frozen peas, obvs.

If they can't choose, don't ask.

keepingquiet Mon 11-Nov-24 15:38:39

And women never ask questions?

David49 Mon 11-Nov-24 15:42:24

The very last thing you should do is ask children what they want for tea they will ask for something that is awkward

M0nica Mon 11-Nov-24 15:47:28

Jaxjacky

I wouldn’t ask what people want to eat, just say ‘we’re having xxx’, if they don’t fancy it, they can sort themselves out.
Google is their friend for a lot of daft questions.
Fortunately I don’t have the problems the OP has, maybe because people know me better 🙂

That is what I do. Plan a menu and we all eat the same, whether it is just me and DH or wider family.

On wider questions, I ask as often as I am asked.

Fairlandia Mon 11-Nov-24 15:55:21

There’s a guy on YouTube called Richard Franks who has a character called ‘Mum’. His videos are SO spot on with exactly this type of frustration. They make me laugh so much.🤣

Norah Mon 11-Nov-24 15:58:59

keepingquiet

And women never ask questions?

Indeed.

We ask both each other for 'help' - people want to help, imo.

Norah Mon 11-Nov-24 15:59:26

correction: We both ask

DamaskRose Mon 11-Nov-24 16:28:01

All of the above! Also - can you message DD and ask her …..? When he’s sitting there on his phone! 😂😂😂

Romola Mon 11-Nov-24 16:33:55

Only on husband's and children's birthdays did anyone get a choice. Every other day, they ate what I'd prepared.

Pavane Mon 11-Nov-24 16:52:08

I am 87 and I am afraid I do this to my daughter. She is very kind and keeps answering my questions that she answered last week. Payback!